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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
miscarriage at 18 weeks
i had a misscarriage at 18 weeks i started bleeding so i went to the ER they took a ultrasound and all kinds of test to see why i was bleeding my blood work levels where at 0 my pregnacy test was coming back negative and my ultrasound was not showing any heart beat they told me that my baby was the size of a 14 week pregnacy. i went 2 my 14 week check-up and i herd my babys heart beat they said it was very strong and it sounded healthy. my babys heart stop beating sometime after that i held my baby for almost a month not knowing that the heart had stopped. they couldnt tell me why my babys heart stopped they said i had delir the baby to get it out i was getting ready to go to the hospital that after noon but didnt make it i started cramping and i felt something so i sat on the toilet and i pushed my baby out into the toilet. i just dont understand why i need answers, i have 3 other healthy children and i really didnt think this would happen to me. i feel like this is taking over me its all i think about and it makes me sad and all i wanna do is cry all the time but it makes me so mad and i start blaming myself for everything. i dont know how to get over this i tryed talking to family and friends about how im feeling and writing my feelings down it helps for a little than i get depressed again.
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Re: miscarriage at 18 weeks
*BFP 10/15/11*CP 10/18/11*
*BFP 2/1/12*EDD 10/14/12*natural M/C 2/24/12 7w*
*BFP 5/2/12*E born 01/03/13 (her due date)
I am so sorry for your loss. We have a board for late losses and infant/child losses - if you look to the left, it is right above Military Families. You are welcome to come there as well.
I am so sorry again.
Hugs,
Jenn
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
2/13/12 Partial Molar Pregnancy diagnosed
Forced break for two cycles
TTC June 2012
He's my fairytale, a dream when I'm not sleeping.
<a href="http://s279.photobucket.com/albums/kk121/behapybride/?action=viewDD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
So sorry for your loss. I heard our son's strong heartbeat a few days before we lost him (15w4d). Not sure when we would have found out if it hadn't been for the U/S the next week. We should have been 16w2d, but he measured 16w.
Sorry you have to go through this and that you had to deliver your baby at home like that. Hugs to you.
I am so sorry and wish I could give you a big hug. I lost our little one a week ago. It is a very similar situation, although a couple weeks earlier. I had 3 ultrasounds and the baby had such a strong heartbeat each time. The last time was at 9.5 weeks but then last weekend I started spotting and last Monday I saw some red blood so we scheduled an u/s for the next morning where it was discovered my baby's heartbeat was gone. That was at 13 weeks and 2 days but the baby was measuring 10 weeks 2 days which was just a few days after the previous u/s where everything looked great. No one knows what to tell me and can't explain why. The doctor told me that in 80% of these cases there's just something wrong with either that one egg or that one sperm and so the baby wasn't able to grow something it needed. I had the m/c at home on the first day of the second trimester so we were shocked because we thought we'd made it past the danger time.
All I can say is hold tight to the ones you love. I don't let myself stay at home alone for too long. I cry, talk to the babies (I lost another one very early in pregnancy in September) and tell them that their daddy and I love them. It seems to help. I was working on a baby blanket and surprisingly it helps to keep crocheting it. I don't know if that would be the same for everyone, but for me, I want to finish it.
The doctors don't have answers. It's so frustrating because you want to know why so you understand and it's not senseless but also because we plan to try again and obviously want to not go through this again. I wish I could tell you why. They just don't know. But we don't love our babies any less and they will always be our's.