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anyone's dh work at night and older child not sttn??

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In about 3 weeks, dh will go back to work. He works at night so i will be by myself. Ds2 is 19 months and ds3 is 2 weeks old. We still have to put ds2 to bed meaning lay down with him until he falls asleep. He occasionally wakes up in the middle of the night. My concern is how im going to handle this when dh goes back to work when ds2 still needs to be put to bed and ds3, still a newborn, will probably need to be held or fed at the same time?? Help please!
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Re: anyone's dh work at night and older child not sttn??

  • angelwings111angelwings111
    You just have to decide who needs you most if they wake up at the same time. DS was 20 months when DD was born and would wake up one or twice a week at night. Luckily it was mostly when DD was asleep. Once I was nursing DD and DS woke up crying but by the time I finished nursing, he fell back asleep.
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    imageangelwings111:
    You just have to decide who needs you most if they wake up at the same time. DS was 20 months when DD was born and would wake up one or twice a week at night. Luckily it was mostly when DD was asleep. Once I was nursing DD and DS woke up crying but by the time I finished nursing, he fell back asleep.
    thanks for the suggestion. But do u have any tips or advice on when i put ds2 to bed? I might just have to have him CIO but i really dont want to and was wondering if there were any other alternatives
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  • angelwings111angelwings111
    I would bring the baby in bed with you till your older child falls asleep. I just hold my DD while I read DS stories, tuck him in etc. Hope that helps.
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  • celiabwatsonceliabwatson

    Yes and yes (well, technically my husband works 2nd shift, but he gets home after bedtime and has never really done night wakings). We also don't believe in cry it out, even for older kids.

    My strategy is to adjust my son's bedtime if I need to so that I can give him my full attention. At this point that means that I put the baby to bed first (around 7:30 these days) and then I spend 15-30 min of quality time with him and then start bedtime. He's always had a late bedtime by nature so it's not hard for him to have the 2nd turn and I like that I can give him a turn. Some nights the baby is still awake and he doesn't start bedtime until 9. I feel bad, but it's not every night and for me it's more important to get that connection at the end of the day.

    Two nights ago the baby took a late nap and woke up at 7:30. I fed her etc and could tell she wasn't going back to sleep so I made sure she was dry, comfortable etc and put her for tummy time in her crib (they share a room) while my son and I did bedtime. I did interrupt his bedtime once to tend to her and he didn't like it, and overall bedtime took longer that night, but that's one night out of the last 30 that it was a real problem.

    In the middle of the night we usually don't have a problem of them waking at the same time. If they do I bring both of them to snuggle on the couch with me until they both fall asleep again and then I move them to their beds.

    Good luck! It is possible.

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