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3 1/2 in trouble at school today... suggestions?

bergerbridebergerbride
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So my 3 1/2 year old is starting to act out more.. and for the first time this weekend he laughed when I put him time out, so I took away some toys and he had to 'earn' them back, which seemed to work.

Well today, my husband goes to pick him from school and he was in the 'principals' office, apparently he hit his 2 friends and then hit his teachers. (!!!) I didnt get the full story about what started this since he was in the car and my husband told him 'mommy and daddy will be having a talk with him later'

How would you handle this tonight?  Any suggestions would be helpful!  Thank you!

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Re: 3 1/2 in trouble at school today... suggestions?

  • KatFCoKatFCo member

    When DD started acting out in school (about that age), we made sure to let her know that anything that happened at school was punished at home. Even if teachers had put her in time out or whatever, she still got in trouble at home. Time-outs never worked for her, but not letting her have treats (this happened around Easter time, and we carefully rationed how much candy she got each day, so not getting her daily candy was a big deal), etc. let her know.

    We also would ask the teachers in front of her how she did that day, and if it was bad, we talked to her in front of the teacher so she knew everyone was in on the issue.

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  • jellyjellybeanjellyjellybean

    DS' classroom is going through this right now. Apparently all of the boys play rough and then someone gets hurt and they all get put in timeout.

    We did the same as pp, made sure we talked to DS about it in front of his teacher and then we continuously bring it up/remind him to tell his teachers instead of hitting back, to use his words when he's mad, etc.

    We also make sure to praise him like crazy if he has a good day at school, no timeouts, etc.

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  • Nelly CatNelly Cat
    I hear you on that one! By son has been doing that for the past few months and it's usually one of his classmates that eggs it on and influences him. He has had his geotrax taken away several times (among other toys), and if he has five straight days of being good at school, then he can have them back (only to be taken away the next day). I've started "busy packets" of extra school work for him to do at home since he's not wanting to do them at school or even scribbling on them. You can download tons of worksheets for free from education.com and it has actually helped him, and his teachers had noticed an improvement. I guess that it is a good thing while he keeps getting in trouble. I've also make him go to bed early, and knows that he doesn't get to go anywhere fun like the park if he misbehaves. Unfortunately, he still gets in trouble though because of his classmate which is what his dad calls the leader of the "trifecta of terror" Just remember, your LO is only 3 1/2, and yelling at them doesn't work even when you turn blue in the face. Also, unless the punishment is immediately following, they won't be able to completely mentally connect it to their behavior at school. Good luck to all of us Preschool Mom's who's kid decides to act up in class.
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