How big of a role does religion play?

bananarama11 · March 2012

I started researching adoption since I last posted here, but I was wondering how big of a role your religion plays in the screening process? My husband and I are not religious in the slightest, and I'm concerned it will make getting matched difficult for us.

AuburnBride06 · March 2012

As far as an agency goes, it will only matter if you pick one that has religious requirements. As for a birth mother, all BPs are different and have particular traits they want in parents. Some may want a particular religion and for some it may not be a factor. I would not worry at all, particularly if you aren't going with an agency that is faith based.

samiammantha · March 2012

My husband and I aren't religious, either, but have been placed via Catholic Charities. When we began the process, I asked them point blank if it'd be an issue, citing that I didn't want to waste their time or ours. I loved the response: as long as the child is going to a good home.

Now, this is Catholic Charities of Southern Nevada, so other branches may have different criteria.

Good luck!!

amberfernandez · March 2012

We are not religious in the slightest, and the first agency we applied to, who did not market themselves as havnig any religious affiliation, asked us to give a more detailed answer to the religion question, and when we did, they rejected us. That's fine, but be upfront that you have a religious affiliation, so people don't waste their time applying.

We then went with a facilitator associated with women's clinic's, and never had any issues.

As long as you stay away from agencies / facilitators that have religious affiliations, you should have no problem whatsoever.

alisonemma · March 2012

My husband and I are not religious either, and we were matched very quickly. I was also worried that it would be an issue, but it really wasn't AT ALL. :-)

I had thought that women who choose to make an adoption plan would typically be pro-life, which would mean they were more likely to be religious, which would mean they would want their child to be raised in a religious home. I'm guessing that being pro-life could be one of the reasons some women choose adoption, but it doesn't have to be the only reason.

sw_in_kc · March 2012

For us, it didn't matter much. We are Catholic (at the time of homestudy we weren't connected with a church). One situation with our agency, the BPs wanted a Christian, non-Catholic family, so we were out. With our DD's BM, she wanted a Christian couple,but didn't care if we were practicing or not, just wanted some sort of Christian belief system.

Jermysgirl · March 2012

I'm an atheist, H is agnostic, and it took about 9 months for us to bring our daughter home (domestic transracial adoption). Religion (or the lack thereof) can be a pretty big deal, but we were up front about not being religious. We didn't, however, use the A-word, since that makes some people instantly hateful.

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