WTF SS

Re: WTF SS

• Littlejen22 member

  March 2012

  My first thought was abuse. And my first thought was the grandparent he would not tell about the soiled underwear to. A learning disability should not do that but a condition causing a learning disability could. Get to the pediatrician tomorrow for advice. 

  Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08

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• Jessys_Girl

  March 2012

  Littlejen22:

  My first thought was abuse. And my first thought was the grandparent he would not tell about the soiled underwear to. A learning disability should not do that but a condition causing a learning disability could. Get to the pediatrician tomorrow for advice. 

  This exactly.

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• kali55 member

  March 2012

  My mom started wetting the bed again in grade three because her little sister was born and her other little cousin came to live with them.  My mom felt a tremendous amount of shame and embarrassment but now, at nearly 60, and looking back she thinks she was reacting to going from being the baby of the family to missing her mothers attention.  I'm not saying this is the issue, but certainly something to consider.  I think getting SS checked by a psychologist and GP would be great first steps to figuring out what's wrong. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Phantomgirl member

  March 2012

  I started wetting the bed at age 5 and it pretty much continued until I was 9.  I'm trying to freak you out BUT my uncle began abusing me at age 5 until it was found out at age 9. 

  Please don't make him feel bad about it or like he did anything wrong.  I remember waking up wet and I would freeze in the bed and pray to god that I was imagining it.  Its truly a horrible thing for a child to have to go through.

  He may not be being abused BUT he may be frightened of going to BMs or his grandparents.  Maybe he is confused and doesn't know whats happening and when you are coming for him etc.  He may be scarred to talk to them or ask for help.  He obviously does not feel confident even to tell them he needs the bathroom.

  My heart goes out to him.

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• Nineoceans member

  March 2012

   We will be taking him to the doctor and counselor and keep you updated. As far as the grandparents he stays over there with all the cousins once a month and begs to go the oldest grand kid is 12 and the youngest is 3. There are five altogether. He's been doing the once a moth routine since he was born.

   Right before Christmas Bm said he had diarrhea all over his pants and shirt and coat in her custody but that's the only other time we heard about a similar incident.  

  We try not to shame him but dh told him of he had an accident we would keep it a secret and not tell but he needs to tell us because it's not healthy to walk around like that. As a kid I was having random accidents until I was 7 or 8 because I would play too long and not go but I would immediately ask an adult for a change of clothes. The upsetting thing is he will just sleep in his sheets all night and now he's just continuing to play in soiled underwear.

  For the record there are not outward signs of physical abuse (bruises, cuts) but that doesn't mean something we don't know isn't occurring  

  

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• Ginlyn0 member

  March 2012

  My DD started peeing her pants frequently at age 7. She had been potty trained since 18 months. That year we ended up having her evaluated by a neuropsychologist (for many reasons, but that is just one of them) and that's when she was diagnosed with Aspergers. There is an increase prevalence of enuresis  and encopresis in kids with ASDs and ADHD. Luckily, for her, it only lasted that year.

   Also, my oldest SS is 9 and still deals with enuresis on occasion. He has ADHD and has also had 3 kidney stones so either of those could be the cause in his case. He usually wears a watch with a timer set to go off every hour to remind him to go.

  There can be many underling causes to it's best to consult the doctor.

  DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)
  
  

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• bebe11 member

  March 2012

  I am so sorry... both of my kids started wetting the bed around age 7.  My dd just recently stopped and she is 10.  It wasn't everynight, but at least 1-2 nights a week.  For my kids, it was because they sleep so hard, they wouldn't wake up to go.  My dd would tell me that she would dream of having to go to the restroom and when she woke up, she had already wet the bed.  I know don't let her have drinks after 7.  If I let her have a sip of water, she has to go pee before I let her have the water.  This has pretty much stopped the bedwetting.

   

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• Rhenna

  March 2012

  I also don't want to freak you out but the only child I know that had problems with holding in bowel movements was a little girl I knew who was 7 or 8 and she had been abused.  I think bed wetting is completely common for kids but not losing control of your bowels at that age.  I think you are taking the proper steps in seeking professional care.  If it is abuse or just a pyschological issue with SS a professional will help you guys figure it all out. 

  
  
  

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