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TheBuddha
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My birthson who came before I was ready. He doesn't call me mom but I love him just the same. ~7/10/99~
emails from BM's current BF
TheBuddha
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There is a little history here. We are not sure how BM met this guy, but he is AGGRESIVE. I posted several months back about him texting me ridiculous messages. He then sent some dumb emails about the sheriff coming to arrest us because we broke the law. He kind of disappeared for awhile, and while he is not very nice to his now ex-wife, at least we weren't dealing with him anymore.
Apparently he had a little drinky drinky last night and decided at 4am he would send some emails. They were send to his ex-wife (I'm guessing he is too *** to send them directly to us and he wants to get his xw fired up) and she forwarded them to us so. She thought we should get a restraining order, but I really don't want to engage him AT ALL.
These are verbatim. If there is bad grammar that is because that is how the email was written.
Here is the email with DH's name in the subject line:
I am glad you reached out to that stupid mother fuucker. It's great! I am about to expose to his wife..."BM" too. You fell into our trap. Now "BM" can possibly get her son back. You are fools. Thank you.
We all know "DH" is cheating with you. But your children will not be around you with that pr!ck in the room.
Did you know the reason I call him gay is because he sucked off his best friend?
"BF"
Classy right? He is writing it TO his ex-wife, but referencing DH.
Here is mine:
I have an arsenal prepared. See, the problem people like "DH". While he is sleeping...we are watching. Closely.
What you should remember...I am smarter than you. I will always be smarter than you.
Teach that young man. Teach him.
Unless he takes the passive approach...he will pay.
"BF"
I'm guessing the reason he didn't send them directly to us is so that we can't use them in court if we need to. Our trial is over and DH has custodial custody of SS. In Illinois, BM cannot refile for 2 years. So there is no BM getting SS back (and the home situation is BAD...so even if she could refile she wouldn't win).
What do you make of this?
ETA: I bolded the emails to make it clearer.
My birthson who came before I was ready. He doesn't call me mom but I love him just the same. ~7/10/99~This discussion has been closed.
Re: emails from BM's current BF
The guy is psycho. Ignore. Handle it however you see fit, but don't get into a big drama or discussion with the ex who sent it to you as well if she's a drama hound as well.
And I have to say....I may have crap to deal with, but I'm glad I don't have THAT to deal with.
That is how we plan to handle it. I told the ex that if he asks if she forwarded them on to say no. If he wants to contact us he needs to do it directly.
The ex is not a drama hound. Well from what I can tell she is not. She was married to him for 9 years and in January of 2011 he beat her up so badly that he broke 3 ribs. She seperated from him and their divorce was just finalized in February. She is trying to raise her 2 kids from this marriage and she has 2 successful adult children from a previous marriage. She seems to be a strong woman who got dealt a crappy hand.
I wish this dude would go away. Either that or try and break into my house so I can just shoot him and be done with it.
i'm sorry, maybe I read too fast, but who were these emails sent to?
they are from your SS BM's EXhusband?
did she see them in the sent part of his e-mail and thats why they were forwarded?
anyway, yes I would forward to lawyer and print for your record making sure to note time and date.
personally I might look into some sort of security system in my home or atleast changing all the locks making sure there are no "stray"keys.....
BM has a on again off again BF. This BF just divorced and we have contact with the ex-wife that he just divorced. DH contacted her to find out a little bit about the BF because BM is VERY secretive and won't tell DH who SS is spending time with. These were emailed to the ex-wife from BM's BF. He was assuming that the ex-wife would forward them on to us.
Several years ago BM was spending EVERY night at (a different guy at the time) her BF's house and SS was sleeping on the couch. DH had to secretly follow her after dropping SS off to see where she was going. That was the only way he found out where the BF lived.
Anyway, we do have ADT in our home and both DH and I are gun owners.
But seriously...this is BM's BF. Leave us alone dude.
ahh okay gotcha. um yes, if this guy is still a part of your SS life, I agree with pp that you need to forward them on to an attorney atleast for documentation