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LauraOTR
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Giving water at night...settle an arguement
LauraOTR
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So, DH is all mad at me this morning b/c I questioned his method of going in and soothing LO last night. We decided to try giving water, rather than feeding at night. The pediatrician had suggested this over a month ago, but I wasn't ready to try it until now. I heard the pedi say "don't pick him up." DH heard so something different apparently.
According to all the sleep books I've read (none of which DH has read), they all say not to pick them up unless you absolutely have to. I don't think DH even tried the bottle in the crib before picking him up. He did try to soothe/pat for like 3 minutes, but i was watching in the monitor and didn't see the bottle. I said "didn't the pediatrician say not to pick him up?" and he blew up at me, b/c he thinks I tell him he does everything wrong (um, I totally don't, and he's never expressed concern about me questioning him before....I almost never do) and that if he's such a crappy parent, I can do everything from now on. Nice.
1. Why can't men communicate like humans when they are mad?
2. Would you pick up the LO if you're trying to switch from milk to water in order to wean night feedings?
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Re: Giving water at night...settle an arguement
I'll address # 2 first: We haven't done a night time feeding since she was like 2 months old but she did go through a phase of waking up at night around 4-5 months but we rarely picked up her. Usually we just went in and gave her the pacifier, bunny, and a reassuring pat.
As for #1: If you said to me "didn't the pediatrician say not to pick him up?" in the middle of the night I'd be pissed too and I can't say I blame him for blowing up. I think you two need to sit down tonight at dinner or another quiet time and have a talk about what your game plan is going to be. If you two are a united front it will make everyone lives easier, including LO.
I didn't...I was careful not to do that even though I was tempted. I wasn't even going to bring it up this morning, until he said to to LO "did you enjoy daddy cuddling you last night?" Then I said that. That made me think he picked him up just to cuddle, which defeated the purpose and I wondered if he hadn't heard the pedi at all.
1. Why can't men communicate like humans when they are mad?
If you ever figure this out, let me know!
2. Would you pick up the LO if you're trying to switch from milk to water in order to wean night feedings?
Heck no-- we try patting, paci, blankie, sleep sheep and mobile before we come even close to picking her up-- if you can get them back to sleep without leaving the crib, they'll learn to stay asleep in the crib (in my opinion)
1. I often tell my husband he turns into an 18 year old when we're arguing. I totally get this. But my husband often gets mad because I "always tell him he is wrong" and you know what....I do. So take a breath and re-evaluate how you talk with him. I read somewhere that "he may not do it YOUR way but as long as he gets the job done it was the RIGHT way".
2. I'm not help here because I always pick J up in the middle of the night when he wakes. He did not STTN until 6.5 months and even now when he has an off night (or several) I still do it. I say trust your gut. If you know LO will go bananas if you pick him up, don't. If you think he needs a cuddle I'd give it to him.
GL!
We pick up Ash, give him a little hug and kiss and put him back in his crib. I don't see a problem with it, but usually he is standing and we have to lay him down anyway. My husband and I are not always on the same page, sometimes you just have to let them do things thier way. He needs to get a chance to parent too, not just follow my direction.
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