I'm a FTM. What exactly happens once you arrive at the hospital? Do they take your vitals and immediately give you an IV and monitor contractions? I'm concerned that once I get to the hospital, I won't be able to walk around during labor and all the interventions may lead to a c-section. My friend suggested I wait as long as possible before going to the hospital because once I get there I will be restricted to the bed and labor while in bed takes forever.
Re: Hospital procedure
I know at my hospital you are allowed to get out of bed as you wish during labor. In fact, my midwife said she will encourage me to walk around, use the tub, birthing ball, etc. We toured two hospitals and they both allow this, as well as have the capability to do wireless monitoring so that I am not confined to the bed.
I would talk to your doctor and hospital to see what they will and won't allow based on what you want for labor/delivery.
Call your hospital and ask if they offer any childbirth classes or maternity ward tours. They let you know exactly what to expect.
My MW saved a copy of my birth plan in my medical file, one of the things she asked was if I planned on laboring at home or if I would be coming into the hospital right away. Speak with your OB and see if you can your wishes saved in your file and see what they think about you laboring at home.
When we first arrived at the hospital (it's been almost 2 years and I'm pregnant... so I'm probably not remembering everything), they took me into triage, checked my cervix, confirmed I was in labor, and checked my records. Because I was GBS+, I actually did have to get an IV right away. Had I not been, I think I would have been able to go to my room without one. They might give you the port (not sure the name) without anything attached to it in case you need it later in labor, I'm not sure. I would think you'd still be able to walk around, though. I was able to move relatively freely until they started the epidural.
I had pre-registered, but someone came in and asked for our insurance card, what pedi we were going to use, etc. Those questions were hard to answer during contractions so make sure your SO or your labor partner knows the answers to all those questions.
Depends on the hospital. The one I had DS1 at hooked me up to a monitor andIV immediately and wouldn't let me out of bed to pee. It was 100% miserable. Had my midwife not known how much I wanted to labor naturally and done her best to attend my delivery, I feel very strongly that the on call Dr.would have come up with a reason for metro get a Csec.
This time, I've chosen a birth center attached to a hospital. The midwives don't want me to go in until I'm in active labor or twelve hours after my water has broken. I can call if I'm concerned before that. I will be monitored for twenty minutes upon check in and after that, it will only be intermittent. I will not have an IV unless I'm showing signs of dehydration, and I can request a heplock instead if I choose to.
I agree with the pps that you should DEFINITELY look into child birthing classes. If your hospital offers them, the instructor should know what that hospital's normal procedures are, and all these nagging questions will be answered. I'm a FTM as well, and I was amazed by what I didn't know before going to Lamaze.
As others have already said, every hospital is different. Today more hospitals give you the option of having intermittent monitoring so you can walk around without being attached to a monitor. It's also likely that you will not be required to have an IV, but even if you are, you should still be able to move around. Of course, all this changes if you opt for an epidural. Once you get the epidural, you're in the bed (I'm not advocating for or against epidurals, I'm just sayin'!)
As for your friend who suggested you wait as long as possible, I would take that suggestion to a professional. You don't want to wait too long, and you should know what "as long as possible" really means. Because it shouldn't mean that the baby is about to pop out and land on the floor or that you're in excruciating pain. Hospitals also have different policies about when you can be admitted (usually this depends upon the timing of your contractions and/or whether your water broke) and doctors, midwives, etc. have excellent advice about when you need to get your butt to the hospital regardless of what you're experiencing, so definitely consult with them!
Call and ask your hospital, they all have different policies. Ours is that you must be on the monitor for 20 minutes of every hour, so at that point you are stuck on a very short teether. You can also ask for a heplock instead of an IV.
If natural is important to you though, check out a few birthing centers.
I wanted to chime in again and say that if they put you in bed and hook you up to an IV right away, don't be afraid to speak up and ask for a hepblock and/or intermittent monitoring. I was in L&D at 32 weeks because I was having regular contractions and while it may have been different since they weren't even sure I was in actual labor, they immediately put me on my back and hooked me up to an IV and a monitor. Again, if they knew for sure I was in labor it would quite possibly have been a different situation, but it did make me think that this could happen when I really am in active labor and that if I didn't know an IV, etc. wasn't required, I would have probably just gone with whatever they chose to do.
I would also suggest having a written birth plan with you (the printable template on The Bump is very good, IMO) so you can just hand them a paper stating what you want. When I was in L&D I was in pain and was too stressed to answer the flood of questions they were asking me--that's when I knew I needed a birth plan so I didn't have to worry about communicating my needs once I got there and could instead just concentrate on having the baby.
When my sister was in labor and arrived to the hospital they put her in a triage room and took her information, checked cervix, and hooked baby to NST and contraction monitor for 20 minutes. If baby looked fine she was unhooked from monitors and allowed to walk around and move as she pleased. They checked her again for progress after an hour and when it was found that she had dilated more she was admitted. Once admitted, she was free to move and labor as she wished. She requested infrequent monitoring in her birth plan, so every hour or so the nurse would come in and put a monitor on her belly while she remained in whatever position she was in at the time just to listen to baby's heartbeat and stuff. She was never made to get back in bed to do this. Baby continued to look great so she was allowed to continue doing what she wanted.
I highly suggest preparing a birth plan with your preferences in it.