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QOTD: What values do you most want to teach to your kids?
Same sex couple TTC with donor sperm. I am 35 and carrying. Endometriosis and DOR.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP
Still waiting to hear when the girls will be leaving, maybe their mom will tell me the next court date at the visit today.
Not much new happening with A and Iz. I filled out kindergarten registration paperwork for Iz and have to turn it in next week.
QOTD: I want to teach them to be respectful (a lost art IMO), accountable, commited, ambitious, generous, modest, independent, humble, strong, and adventurous.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
Life is pretty status quo 'round our parts. It is a little like Groundhog Day (the movie.) Kids get up too early, get ready for school, drop off at school, pick up from school, mad rush of homework, dinner, and bath, bed. Lather.Rinse.Repeat.
QOTD: I want to raise the same kids as Butterfly.
PCP/TTC: Still researching all the foster to adopt options and saving for the July last ditch try.
QOTD: Once we have children I hope to just mold them into really good human beings who fight for what is important to them. We want them to hold doors for old ladies but know that if that old lady is wacking them with her cane that they should stand up for themselves respectfully.
We have our first baby class on Saturday - it's a "mothering multiples" class. We're also signed up for birthing, breastfeeding, infant safety and CPR, and I think newborn care. I unpacked the box with our baby care books so I should probably get on with reading those. I need to finish unpacking the office/guest room before I work on the nursery, so that is temporarily on hold.
Found out this morning that Jen's dad is very hurt/offended that the babies are going to have my last name. Well, we were hurt/offended when he sent us pamphlets about how we're going to hell in lieu of an engagement card, so I guess we're even now. (I'm being flip, but I am sorry that our choice of name hurt his feelings, and that now Jen is going to have to deal with that. But we have very good reasons for the choice we made and will not be changing it.)
QOTD: More confident than me, more risk-averse than my brother, capable and honorable, adventurous, with Jen's work ethic and my curiosity. Loving.
My father was also pissed about our last name choice (hyphenated with my last name first (only because it sounded better.)) He didn't want them to have L's last name and then when I told him that wasn't an option, he wanted my name to be second because "they will drop the first one and just go by the second." Whatever. I asked if we'd be having this conversation if I'd married a man and took his last name. That shut him up...at least temporarily. I am sorry you are having to deal with that.
We're probably on hold with ttc until late 2012. Bummer, but the reasons are education/career and travel related (Cancun in July, possibly Taiwan sometime in 2012). I just hope the time flies (as it has been since late 2009 when we last ttc).
QOTD: compassionate, respectful, resilient, patient, generous, committed, ambitious, independent, and adventurous.
C's responses: Respect and humility
I am really afraid my body is playing tricks on me, or maybe my mind, so I am trying really hard not to get too optimistic.
with my baby's escape from his crib during nap time on Saturday he's been sleeping in a big boy toddler bed since Sunday. so far so good, other than Monday night when we were in the living room and heard the "thudthudthudthudthud" of little feet across the dining room floor, and then his little giggling head came popping around the corner. but he's been laying down and settling pretty quickly and I was able to get him back be bed pretty quickly.
QOTD: What values for the Kiddos?
To say bless you after someone sneezes...
Seriously, to be polite and respectful. Be kind and generous. Be compassionate and empathetic. Say thank you's and you're welcomes. Open doors for others...that kind of stuff. And one thing that is important, if you see a penny on the ground, pick it up.
I changed my LN to Mel's LN right after we got married. I kind of got the side eye from my family for doing this, but that left no question as to what LN the babies would have. I love that we all have the same name now--really helps me feel more like a family (not that I wouldn't anyway), considering our marriage isn't recognized in our state.
Ella is really into dress up this week. On Sunday she had 4 different outfits on. Ranging from a kangaroo to a cowboy. Super cute. We seemed to escape the worst of the stomach bug that was going through dc. That was a nice treat and the cold she now has is not as bad as I thought it was going to be. We find out about Montessori school this week. I am really nervous. Fingers crossed they give us a good financial aid package so that the decision is easy. I hate that money is going to determine what preschool experience E is going to have. I am also dreading having to leave E's daycare she loves it there and will be very sad.
I want Ella to be a good person. I want her to have friends and be a good one. I want her to laugh and to make others laugh. I want her to continue to be confident and fun loving.
whats not going on .... CHAOS is here.
The girls are finally kicking the RSV thing I am still not 100% and Melanie and I are on each others LAST FRICKING NERVE. We work together and live together and parent together and are always together and when we are not together somehow we are together... i will also add she is PERIOD and i think being overly witchy with a B. mainly when i think something is UBER important and she does not I get bothered and that said our Second parent adoption is in process and we have to sign papers and I am eager ( obviously ) i am the one who had to do this and I feel like she is not as eager... ( prolly my issue)
Things just seem to be going wrong garage door failed and the plumber had to clear a clog and then money seems to be real real real tight the past couple of months ... whats the deal ... I am on edge EDGE i say ... OH WOW i feel so much better ....
Values : Hmm.. I will have to second what Butterfly said but i really want our girls to be independent and really stand up for what they believe in and know that different is ok and that they MUST MUST be Genuine human being and thoughtful !
our Blog -http://dosbabies.wordpress.com/
We're coming up quickly on FET#3 which will happen on Friday. We decided to use Estrace this cycle despite the fact that I have a blood clotting disorder and in general am advised to stay away from estrogen. I went in for monitoring on Monday and my lining was at 11mm (!!) and I was having an LH surge right then, so we scheduled the transfer for Friday!
I'm going to go for acupuncture before and after the transfer to hopefully relax a bit. We're trying to stay hopeful for this cycle. We know that it all comes down to if our embryos are viable or not, so we just have to wait it out.
QOTD: I'd love to teach our children to have compassion, humility, a sense of humor and confidence!
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
nmartin, I am crossing every crossable part of my body for you.
We are trying to figure out our move. We had a consultation with a contractor today who ended up not being all that helpful - he generally takes smaller jobs and won't be able to help us. While I appreciate the fact that he told us he can't do it, I'm a little peeved that we mostly wasted our time this a.m.... Oh, well.
J is saying all kinds of words, and we don't even know where they came from. There are at least 3 new ones every day. It's really quite amazing...
QOTD: I want J to know he is loved. I want him to know he's special and unique and wonderful. I want him to be happy. I want him to be considerate and aware. I want him to be fearless, yet somewhat cautious. I want him to stand up for himself and what he believes in. I want him to love himself.
nmartin, I'm also hoping for good luck and baby dust for you on Friday.
I'm hanging on C's every temp and am constantly like "you haven't gotten AF yet?" First cycle temping was 24 days long, this cycle is 31 and counting. I have to call and reschedule the appointment where we go over 3 cycles of charts because now we won't have three cycles. C has used the phrase "like clockwork" to apply to her cycles in the past, but she's never even actually counted how long they are. All she really meant is "I keep getting periods". This actually makes me laugh pretty hard because that is SO C. Ordered Wondfos today and we'll add them next cycle, just to add another data point for timing.
We're going to have known donor meeting #2 this weekend. This is where we'll do a known donor contract and work out the more touchy feely details of him being our known donor. I think the biggest question in everyone's mind right now is "who do we tell and when".
I also found out that neither of the two LGBT alternative insemination providers here in Chicago do IUI with fresh KD sperm. Our KD would have to bank, which might not be optimal with his sperm parameters. We probably should go talk to a RE now, to find out if anyone would do fresh IUI for us, or if freezing makes any sense in our case. Freezing is expensive and takes 6-7 months until you can use the sperm, so we really need to find out sooner rather than later. We're pretty emotionally attached to the idea of this donor, but we may need to make the decision to move on if we aren't successful with at home insems.
QOTD: Respect, kindness, and standing up for what you believe in are my big three.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
BFN for me, i wasn't going to test till later this week but i started spotting 2 days ago but it was really little didn't think to much of it. But today....I really started, a week early so i guess no need for a test.
QOTD: To respect, to value family, to love, to always have fun
...and all day long you'll have good luck.
That is too cute. C told me that people were going to wonder if that is what I meant. :-)
THANKS!!!!
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
Thanks so much :-) And I also laughed so hard about the clockwork comment! Good luck on your donor meeting!
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
I would never have described my periods as "like clockwork" but at my first RE appointment I think I was in a bit of denial about the wackiness. The RE at first wanted to start us on unmedicated cycles, and I was like "wait, did I just describe this wrong?" Because I pretty clearly don't ovulate. So many straight women know exactly how long their periods are and notice every month if things are a bit off....but for some of us it has never mattered!
I hope C's not-quite-regular periods are just a normal variation and everything looks good at your appointment.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
And for my update, all I can say is waiting.... I'm sort of feeling disbelief that this ever works for anyone, even though I see so many of you for whom it has worked.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
I feel ya...how does anyone actually get pregnant (and stay pregnant)? It seems like such an elusive thing :-(
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
PCP: Just finished mailing all our paperwork to the sperm bank so that we'll be set up to order sperm for the first time in April!
QOTD: K said the other day she hopes we can raise kids who are better Christians than we are. We both attend church and participate regularly, but sometimes we get so disillusioned by the homophobia spewed by SOME Christians that we feel like we're just going through the motions. I want our kids to have genuine faith.