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The waiting is over :o(

KtGirl88KtGirl88
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Apparently he wants to party all the time AND see his daught even though he hasn't tried since January. He has an attorney now and answered my response to his petition of course denying everything. He is asking to set up a temporary order for visitation. So I guess there will be a hearing soon. I am trying so hard to get evidence of everything but it's hard! Will they drug test at this hearing if we ask/accuse him? I know he needs to see her before a final judging but how much time are we talking?! Will it be supervised because o the things we are presenting? I don't understand how this will be different then court if all this stuff has to come up it might as well be ou final judgement. I'm praying he doesn't get over nights. I'm a nervous wreck now!
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Re: The waiting is over :o(

  • achase123achase123
    Do you have an attorney?  I suggest getting one especially if he has one.  What evidence DO you have of his drug use?  You need hard evidence otherwise it just is hearsay.  If you filed for custody before him I don't believe you HAVE to let him see her (but I might be wrong here).  You have a lot of questions and I think many of them are legal questions.  You really need to know your rights in this situation.  I would push for supervised visitation to be revoked if he fails a drug test.  See what your lawyer thinks of that.
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  • cmanmomcmanmom

    So hard.  I second getting an attorney stat if you don't have one already.  I also know from my experience that you should let him see LO until a temporary plan is set up otherwise you will appear as if you are keeping him from her (and you are). 

    You can be the supervisor or send someone you trust.  I could not be around my then stbxh so I sent LO with my dad for stbxh's time with LO.  They met at playgrounds etc. so he could see LO - but over my dead body was he going to take LO alone until we had a PP even if it was temporary.  Even then when we went for our temporary orders he tried to claim that I was keeping LO away from him.

    GL, do you have a court date or do you do mediation first?  I would suggest trying a 4 way meeting with you, him and your two lawyers.  In that situation you can try and come to an agreement without orders just being given to you.  It might be worth a shot.

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  • KtGirl88KtGirl88
    I have had an attorney since I kicked him out. I have a couple things from Facebook but the main evidence will be a drug test. I have been emailing him updates and offers to see her supervised and he has refused or ignored. He thinks I am doing everything I can to keep her away but I really have given him all the options I feel comfortable with and what my attorney suggests. We do not have a court date we have to go to mediation first (that's not even set yet) he is extremely stubborn so j know mediation will not work. A hearing it being set up just for him to get temporary visiting rights. He refused to pay for supervised visits so I'm sure he will deny that and ask for "alone time" which is the major concern because of his living situation and partying. 
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