Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
MamaCoffin
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Re: And now back to our regularly scheduled programming....
We don't want to look at you- so PLEASE just go somewhere else.
Glad you're back! And crawling is so exciting. And can I just tell you how jealous of your vacation I am?
Her post is a pathetic attempt by an attention whore to engage yet seem "above" it all.
Truth. I wish my dog made awesome faces like that.
Little M 6/16/2013
Angel baby 5/17/2014
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Glad the move went well! We get to do that in June!
Enjoy your vacation!
But GUYS we should play the -Lets try & make the original 7/11 bumpies angry, then get all huffy & make posts declaring us king of the castle, & then DD them because we realize playing pretend the original bumpies arent here game instead.
Oh wait *we're* the original bumpies, sorry. I dont see either of you & you cant see me so this post is pointless. NOW we're back to our regularly scheduled programming. & Im still glad we dont blow sunshine out our bums.
Clearly TB missed me so much it has to post my shizz more than once.
Sigh, I really missed TB, so glad to be back.
Clearly being "original" bumpies do no make you the better bumpies.
Mmmmkay? Thanks now, Buh Bye...
Oh but it does, thats why you guys hate having us back here so much. Cant stand to have your little parades rained on with reality, rain washes the rainbows off of the poo.
We didnt start this whole situation, not even close so that right there proves our worth is above yours.
We hate having you back here because you are nasty bishes with nothing constructive to say. And all we did was have a Roll Call, I don't think that constitutes "starting" this situation. We wouldn't mind having you here if you weren't rude and negative 75% of your posts. And we were doing just fine here, without all of your worthy awesomeness.
My posts today consisted of
Asking Marsee how her PPD was
Talking about running mileage for the week
Saying that I don't post much because i'm afraid of work tracking
I chimed in on oz per day with feedings
I also chimed in on whining before crawling.
Traveling with breastmilk
ETA: Oh and I had asparagus for lunch.
Yep, I'm a total evil b!tch. Actually I was super friendly until Skeletor decided to go all Captain of the JV Team on me.
Whats the defining Characteristic of an "original bumpie"?
Is this a Number of posts things, like silver, gold? whats the difference? I mean I have been posting to varying degrees since BFP but there seems like everyone has distinct lines drawn.
::hopes for legit explaination and steels for the blast::
I don't understand why llamas turned into this "drama".
Isn't that the point of the llamas? No dramaz?
I was posting nicely last night. Honest to goodness I was.
Little M 6/16/2013
Angel baby 5/17/2014
We welcome your friendly posts! I believe I congratulated you on your half in the mileage monday post.
Then please explain to me why Golum felt the need to jump all over me this evening?
I'm honestly not sure what went down or who you are talking about. I'm sorry you felt this way though. Its just that we have had NO drama AT all in the past few months. The ladies that have been on here as of late all get a long really well. So, we were less than thrilled to see some of the "OG" drama rama mamas show back up. But we honestly welcome new (and old) faces, we just prefer nice, constructive, fun posts as opposed to rude ones. That is why our feathers are a little ruffled.
I am late to the game, as usual. I have no idea why this just turned crazy-pants, but it's good to have you back Jen.
Glad to hear the move went well and yay for Lucy crawling!
Okkkk so none of you are realizing this is not about the roll call, its about the multiple llama posts that you posted, & then the sunshine ones, & then putting my words into a siggy. How was that us starting crap? There were also posts that got DD'd & didnt get to read because I was gone.
Are you all really THAT stupid? Really?
WORD!! Proud to be a member of the REAL July 11 mamas!