Officially Introducing Myself

crene84 · March 2012

I've posted on here a couple of times, but I believe I'm officially moving over from Trouble TTC to this board now so I wanted to give a little introduction.

DH and I have been TTC for about 18 cycles now. Our RE told us that she did not believe we could conceive on our own; however, we are unexplained IF so we don't really know. We tried a few rounds of Femara with no success and we just did IVF in February but again, I didn't get pregnant. I have a meeting with my RE Thursday to discuss the possibility of one more round of IVF, but I don't think I can go through it again. I think I'm ready to move onto adoption.

It's definitely a struggle, trying to decide which route to take. Of course we'll continue "trying" throughout the adoption process in the hopes that we'll have at least one biological child, but I don't want to regret not trying IVF once more. Anyone in a similar situation?

Thanks and I look forward to getting to know each of you!

cogbot · March 2012

Welcome! I was not emotionally attached to having a biological child, so the decision was easy. Others took longer to mourn the loss of having a bio baby.

Some adoption agencies will not allow you to continue fertility treatments while pursuing adoption, but that doesn't mean you won't find one that will.

Good Luck!

jillianmb · March 2012

Hi there! DH and I ttc for just over a year before we decided to adopt. We still want to try for a biological child, but that is on hold b/c if we get pg now we will not be able to proceed with our adoption. We'll start IF treatments sometime after our little one is home. No definite timeline for us; we'll feel it out when the time comes. Welcome!

crene84 · March 2012

cogbot:
Welcome! I was not emotionally attached to having a biological child, so the decision was easy. Others took longer to mourn the loss of having a bio baby.
Some adoption agencies will not allow you to continue fertility treatments while pursuing adoption, but that doesn't mean you won't find one that will.
Good Luck!

I am pretty sure we've picked our agency (IAC if you've heard of it), and I don't think they have any policies around that; however, it's definitely one or the other, IVF #2 or adoption. Thanks!

crene84 · March 2012

jillianmb:
Hi there! DH and I ttc for just over a year before we decided to adopt. We still want to try for a biological child, but that is on hold b/c if we get pg now we will not be able to proceed with our adoption. We'll start IF treatments sometime after our little one is home. No definite timeline for us; we'll feel it out when the time comes. Welcome!

The agency we'll probably go with will allow us to put our status on hold for 2 years if we get pregnant without losing any money.

Good luck!

christineandaaron · March 2012

Hi there and welcome! I just recently started posting over here too. My DH and I have been trying for approx. 16 cycles with one miscarriage, multiple medicated cycles and a failed IUI in January. We are unexplained as well. We are pursuing IVF this month and will start Stims this weekend when AF arrives. For me it was a difficult decision regarding to try IVF or move to adoption right away. We are completely OOP. After much reflecting and prayer we have decided to give IVF one try and if it fails we will be sending in our adoption application. I want to be a mommy someday and know I will be and though you may feel different having that biological connection is not the most important to me. This realization took a lot of praying on my part, reading up on adoption itself and others blogs about adoption. Good luck and if you need to talk we are here for you.

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