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3rd Trimester
lovemyterriers26
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are you..
lovemyterriers26
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having anyone but DH in the labor and delivery room? My mom really wants to be there too. DH is fine with it, but I'm not sure.
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Chemical Pregnancy 10/5/10
BFP 2/7/11--m/c 2/12/11
TTD pics taken by knottie jen&louie
DH, my mom, and the Birth photographer. My mom was there for the birth of the first two. I can't imagine not having her there for this one. I'd be sad if she couldn't make it for some reason.
We've also had someone there taking pictures for the other two. I can't imagine not having photos of baby #3.
My sister was there for most of my (55 hour...) labor with DD1. She was a great support when I was pushing, but then she had to leave when they took me back to the OR for my c-section.
Depends on what you want for support. For me, having her there was great!
The hospital I'm delivering at doesn't have a limit for people in the delivery room... so long as they are not in the staffs' way. I plan on having my Mom and Hubby in the room for sure (since my hubby works nights and Mom lives next door, she'll be driving if he's at work) as well as my BFF who is a nurse (if she makes it... she works swing plus lives 3 hours away). My sister and MIL also, if they show up in time.
But once it's "go time" (pushing) everyone gets to head to the waiting room except Hubby and BFF.
DS - 7.2006 - C-Section b/c Breech
DS2 - 4.2008 - Successful Vbac
DD - 5.2012 - Successful Vbac
My mom and DH were both in the labor room last time although I was going to ask her to leave when I started to push. She didn't know that but she doesn't calm me down so that was my plan. I had a section and only DH was allowed to come so it was never an issue.
This time, we need her to watch DS. So unless someone else comes to watch him, she will not be in the room with us.
It is really only something I feel comfortable with my DH sharing with me.
Many hospitals don't count a doula towards your 2 people. My hospital counts a doula as a medical professional so you can have a doula and an additional 2 people.
My husband and my doula will be in the room with me. Last time, it was just my husband. Granted we live 3,000 miles away from our family so they couldn't be there anyway, but just the thought of my mother in the room with me gives me anxiety!
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At our hospital, you have to make a list of "support people" who are allowed to come see you in L&D. You can only have 3 at a time present in the room, but they can swap out with other people in the waiting room as often as you like, so long as they don't get in the way or there isn't an emergency.
I've got my husband, my mother, and my dad on the list so far. We'll be adding my sister-in-law to it if she feels she'll be able to make it there in time. (She lives more than six hours away from us, so it's a bit iffy as of now.) At any given time, though, it will probably be just me and the hubs, as one, my dad said he wants to be on the list just in case, but if he's in there for any length of time and disagrees with something that's going on, he might punch a doctor in the teeth; and two, my mother will probably be running crowd control and giving updates to people in the waiting room, as well as keeping Dad from killing anyone. (Both of my parents were medical personnel in the US Navy, so they know their stuff, and my dad has strong opinions on these sorts of things. Best to have a plan in place in case he loses his shitake, you know?)
I'd say talk it over with your husband first, to see what it is about having your mom there that makes you uneasy, then broach the subject in-depth with her after. That way, you won't be going into that conversation blind. HTH.