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trojas
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So...
trojas
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If no-one volunteers to throw you a shower, does that mean you don't have one?
I know no-one owes it to me, and I know utterly tacky to throw your one and I wouldn't do that. I'm a little bummed that no-one is throwing me a shower. =(
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Re: So...
You're absolutely right!
Yep, perfectly ok to throw a meet the baby party. However, I wouldn't put in a registry card. That would basically the same as throwing yourself a shower. By including a registry card you're still indicating that you're hoping for gifts.
Meet the baby is just that....meeting the baby. People will bring gifts to this type of thing, but to solicit a gift still seems tacky to me.
Yep
I didn't think I would be having a shower though, but just last week 2 friends from church told me they were planning one and wanted to know what date worked for me. So don't give up hope yet. You might still get your shower. And even if you don't, make a registry, because you will still most likely have friends or co-workers ask if you are registered because they want to get you something.
I considered still doing a registry, but I feel like that's in the same category as throwing your own shower. Its basically saying: I'm not having a shower, but I did a registry anyway so you can buy me something. That's not cool =/
Maybe someone is planning one as a surprise..? I would consult with my Mom, or close girlfriend and be subtle but up front saying.. "gee I wonder if anyone is planning a shower.." maybe it will spur some activity if not already planned.
I once went to a shower thrown for a work buddy by her husband. Thats an idea..a little less tacky than throwing your own and he could certainly play up the "special day for the mom-to-be" and let everyone know its a surprise.
None of my friends have offered! And I'm certainly not going to say anything.
My mother thinks baby showers are a waste of time and money. Her exact words to me were "why do you want a shower anyway, to show off in front of your friends?" I left hysterically crying that day, needless to say.
A meet the baby will be fun
However, definitely don't include registry cards. BUT do register, if only for the completion code! That's what DH and I did--buy we are ending up with a shower afterall and you very likely could, too!
Eh. Still just as tacky since some of those items would also be for his use.
I think this is a GREAT idea!
Aww that's sad
I think showers are a beautiful celebration of you becoming a mother. How can she say it's a waste of time? And people spend what they want... so if they don't have a lot, they bring a little present, or none at all (which is totally fine)... you're still celebrating this new life!
I'm sorry she said that. Have you told any of your friends what she said? They may be waiting for your mom to throw it which is why no one offered.
But definitely register, either way. It's a great way to keep track of what you need for the baby and especially for the completion coupon!
Carter Robert 7.18.08 | Brynn Sophia 5.24.10 | Reid Joseph 9.10.12 | Emerson Mae 1.27.14
You know, I do not think it is tacky to throw a baby shower for yourself. Have a get together with friends. Make it a luncheon, what have you and have fun hanging out!
You don't have to play games, or put all the attention on yourself just make it a fun hanging out time with your friends. I would include a registry. If someone was going to throw you one, these people would be buying gifts anyways, and what friend wouldn't buy a gift? Just because a friend or family member doesn't throw you one doesn't mean your friends wouldn't want to spoil your lo with gifts!!!
Eleanor Gwendolyn
Again I am going to write this. Why on earth wouldn't your friends enjoy a get together with you and bring a gift ( like they would anyways if someone was throwing it for you)? A baby shower should be women helping women, couples helping couples regardless of the "proper" baby shower guidelines.
If I lived near you I would so throw you and the other woman a baby shower.
So sweet of you to say that- thank you!!