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For those with MIL vents kinda long

shaysmom05shaysmom05 member
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I feel your pain. Just know that once the inlaws are put in their place, it does get better.

My inlaws hated me from the get go. "I was too young to be with their son" and they didn't like the fact that I was living in a tailor park and didn't have money. (lack of money does not make one trashy!)

However, after DH and I got married we had to stay with them for a while. (They offered since we moved from NC to TX and really had no place to stay.) So for 8 "wonderful" months we put up with their crap since we were on their turf. I ended up pregnant and they didn't want us to leave so that way we could put money away for a house. Fast forward a little bit...DH joined the Army and we moved away.

We tolerated each other for holidays and whatnot. DD's 3rd birthday came around and the ILs drove 13 hours to come to the party. I didn't mind, it's their grandchild and they have the right to see her. At the party, my SS (5 years old at the time) started having fits saying he hated his sister because he couldn't open her bday gifts. They made an issue of it telling us to let him open one. I said ABSOLUTELY NOT. She didn't open his gifts at his bday, he's not opening hers.

The next day, the kids were fighting over some of her new toys. (Princess tea set.) Before I could tell DD that she should share with her brother, SS chimes in and says, "You need to beat her @$$." I immediately put SS in the corner. At that point the ILs jumped my case saying that if DD hadn't have been acting that way, he wouldn't have said that.

I lost it, I told them they had no right to come into my house and tell me how to discipline my kids. They packed their things and left. We did not talk to them for a few months, when we got a phone call. They apologized for getting into something when they should have kept their mouths shut.

The moral of the story is....lol sometimes you just have to put your foot down and let them know to back off. They may despise you for a little while, but they do come around.

Just thought I'd share. GL to you all.

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Re: For those with MIL vents kinda long

  • JillBean78JillBean78

    I'd love to put MIL in her place, but she honestly scares me, LOL.  Someday I'll get my chance and it may be real soon because I'm to the breaking point with her. 

    My mom has dealt with a horrible MIL (my dad's mother and my grandma) for almost 40 years now and she is just now letting my grandma have it over stuff and she keeps telling me she wishes she'd have done it sooner but she was like me always afraid to rock the boat.

    Thanks for the advice.  I like it when I hear stories similiar to my own, then I don't feel like I'm the only person who has to deal with this crap.

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  • FMIL&MOBFMIL&MOB
    I agree you need to definitely stand up for yourself, because once they get older it gets worse. Then you get to hear how they are senile, no they are just mean and hateful. This does not mean you go tell them to drop dead, but getting your H to tell them certain things will not be tolerated is the key. I'm thankful everyday my DD has wonderful ILs who love her and treat her with respect.
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