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HisChamaoleGirl
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Visitation Schedule Advice ....
HisChamaoleGirl
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My sister had a baby last month and I have recommended she come up with a visitation/CO with her son's BD. What should she include in it? She says that BD has no interest in the child, but I think now is the best time for her to come up with a formal agreement with him. Who knows what he will decide to do later and I think she should have some sort of documentation to protect herself. What would you ladies suggest for a baby that young ?
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Re: Visitation Schedule Advice ....
Honestly, if he has no interest in the baby, I wouldn't bother doing anything about a visitation schedule. If he ever wants visitation or custody, he will have to take her to court for it. The ball's in his court. Tell her to wait for him to make the first move.
However, I would tell her to file for child support immediately. Regardless of whether the father decides to exercise his visitation rights, that baby is entitled to receive child support. Child support and visitation are separate issues, so her filing for child support will mean nothing for him as far as visitation goes.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
where i live a lot of family judges go by precedent when deciding custody/visitation cases. so it actually looks more "favorable" to her if he DIDNT have any hand in child rearing right from the beginning. but that's just here (and that's what an actual family law judge told me).
anyway though, i agree with PP's, yes while i do believe it's better to get things on paper and out of the way early, that's his burden, not hers. she needs to file for child support, let him take care of custody/visitation if he wants. i don't believe any woman should force a man to be there if he doesn't want to (but he still needs to share the financial responsibilitY)
Yes he is.
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
She is on state assistance (welfare, or whatever CA calls it these days) and apparently being a part of that program has CS set up in the sign up process. Or so I have been told by my sister. I am curious how much she is going to be getting since he has been unemployed for years ... oh and she just revealed that he has been in and out of rehab for ... meth ... lovely. Apparently this guy was a "one night stand" and they arent in a relationship ... now that I have this information I feel differently about the visitation idea ...
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
in most states (I know mine does) if you're on any kind of public assistance, they require you (if you know who the dad is) to go after CS. so she's probably telling the truth. Even if he's unemployed, they may still make him pay what he "could" be earning in his field if he were working (& if he's not a professional, then what he'd make working minimum wage). Good luck to your sister.