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A vent on guilt

LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
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I had a natural miscarriage about 2.5 months ago.  It seemed to go on for days and I was wracked with guilt b/c I felt like an awful mom to my infant DD.  I would lay on the floor next to her while she played and quietly cry and hope she would play happily until my pain passed.  Fast forward 2.5 months.  My period returned, we are ready to try again.  Emotionally I was feeling great and came to peace with the loss.  And suddenly tonight I am terrified to try again and wracked with guilt about the loss.  My OB told me to stop breast feeding when she confirmed the pregnancy.  My proud cocky self declared that I'd done my research and am not going to stop, that I didn't believe the old school crap. (We are comfortable with eachother and talked throughout my pregnancy about this type of stuff). Then I lost the baby.  And suddenly tonight I think it's b/c I continued to BF.  I keep thinking I killed my baby simply b/c I wouldn't use formula foro my 9 month old.  OMG this is actually worse than right after it happened. 
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Re: A vent on guilt

  • Mrs.EmmaLouiseMrs.EmmaLouise member
    Its NOT your fault!  Please dont feel like that.  From what i've been told the reason you stop bf when you get pregnant is because the taste changes.  And because of the taste change, the baby doesnt like it, and wont eat as much.  Miscarriages are noones fault, don't blame yourself.  We are all here for support if you need it.  *hugs**
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  • shellyrmmlshellyrmml

    Mrs.EmmaLouise is right!!  It is not your fault.  The issue of breast feeding while pregnant really is more of concern that the taste of the milk changes....that it can cause the mother to be more tired or cause increased thirst....but even the Mayo Clinic says that a woman can do both!  Women have been doing both together since the beginning of time....it is the way of nature. 

    My OB told me at my last visit that I need to work on letting go of the guilt....because it should never have taken root in my heart in the first place.....I am coming to terms with that now....and I pray that you will too!

    You will be in my thoughts and prayers 

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  • angelsmileangelsmile member
    I can see why you feel the way you do.  You won't ever know what caused that loss, so beating yourself up over it is counterproductive.  If you are truly worried, follow your OB's advice...I hope you get pregnant again as soon as you are emotionally ready.
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