This is my scenario:
My boyfriend and I are pregnant, 10 weeks at this point. We discussed getting married asap. However, due to finances, its most favorable for me to continue living with my dad and stepfamily until a little bit before the baby is born. My dad will not let me live with him once I get married/baby is born. I can't go anywhere else because I borrow his car as well which gets me to work. (Unfortunately, I am very financially dependent, I am 19) My future mother in law booked our wedding date for August which means that the wedding is booked for when I will be 8 months prego That is the soonest day. I am Greek Orthodox and it is tradition to have a wedding in the church (taken very seriously). I have a huge insecurity about having a watermelon stomach on my wedding day. I know this sounds selfish but I never dreamed of being huge on my special day. I don't know if I should just suck it up and get over the fact that I am pregnant and that the ceremony and religious part is what is important, or if we should put off the wedding until 4-5 months after baby is born. I am completely torn here. I had in mind doing a courthouse wedding but I know that doesn't correspond with the Greek church's tradition. SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE HERE AND WHAT YOU WOULD DO....
Sidenote: Hubby says it's up to me.
Re: Half Baby Related, Half Marriage Related
Hmmmm I dont have any input on the date of the wedding. But if you do decide to have it before the baby comes, I suggest trying a ball gown type wedding dress in order to hide the belly a bit. I was actually pregnant in august (unfortunately miscarried) but we started planning my wedding in January, so I would have had a bump by then. I tried on all my dresses with a fake belly attachment that they have at maternity store fitting rooms and with the ball gowns you could not even tell that I had that huge thing under there. The dress I'm actually wearing in my siggy picture is the same one I picked out as a pregnancy dress and it worked out fine either way. Also, really really important is to get a dress with the straps that tie up and down, not a zipper. When they take your measurements, it might not always be the size you end up on your wedding day. If you have the straps it gives a lot of leeway in case your bigger or smaller than you expected, with a zipper, it either fits on the day or it doesn't.
Sorry, I know this does not answer any of your questions but its info that I wish someone had given me in advance lol!
I was engaged when we found out we were pregnant the first time, and the wedding was still far away (it was July, wedding the next May). We decided to have a small legal ceremony for only family, then kept our party date in May--our son was 3 months old at our reception.
I know that this might not have worked for everyone, but it worked for us. We wanted to be married right away for all of the legal reasons, but we didn't want to give up a chance to celebrate--because we had a lot to celebrate! DH had just graduate from medical school, I had passed my big exams for grad school, we'd been together for eight years, and we had this AMAZING child. Having a baby at our "wedding" was wonderful. It wasn't a big deal in terms of planning--essentially everything was done early in my pregnancy, so the only thing I had to do once the baby was here was the food tasting for the caterer. I had a wonderful wedding planner who took care of lots of the details. It was one of the best nights I've ever had, and it was a million times more special because our son was there, too.
It sounds to me like you're leaning towards waiting--and honestly, I think that's a great idea. If you don't want to be pregnant at your wedding, that's YOUR decision--not your mom's or even your priest's. And while it might be a bit harder to plan a wedding during your pregnancy, it's absolutely possible. And, I don't want to sound patronizing, so don't take it that way, but you guys are still really young (DH and I were 27 when all of this happened to us). You deserve some time to enjoy this pregnancy and begin to understand how much it's going to change about your lives. You shouldn't roll all of these changes up together. Having a baby is one thing, and marriage is another--you deserve to enjoy and celebrate both.
Good luck with your decision, chickadee--don't rush into anything!
Either get married now, or wait until you feel good about yourself. I wouldnt worry so much about a strict religious calendar...afterall you are pregnant and I',m sure thats not common practice either!