am I the only one who finds this a very sensitive issue?
I cringe every time a friend of mine does this, knowing I have several more friends who are having issues TTC and this will sting. Even when I had my own m/c it burned really hard to see this. I find it's generally the younger friends who do this - this could be for a number of reasons- less friends who have problems TTC, more open to sharing more on facebook, etc.
I'm also not in to seeing other people's insides (uterus or otherwise). Seems private to me but maybe others have no issue with that.
At the same time, I know people are excited and want to share their news with the world.
What are your experiences with this?
Re: Ultrasounds on Facebook
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
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I don't see any problem with it. I'm one of those people who shared an u/s picture on Facebook. That being said, most of my Facebook friends are close family/friends. I really don't care who sees my "insides." It's not like I'm showing a picture of my vagina or something. I find u/s pictures to be totally awesome ... it's just so amazing to me to know that there is a human being growing inside of me.
And I totally see how frustrating it can be for other women who are TTC, but that shouldn't affect someone's decision on whether or not to post an u/s...just my opinion.
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I dealt with IF for over 2 years....it killed me inside everytime I saw an u/s pic or a pregnancy related thing on FB. I actually had to block some people.
However, I don't blame people for posting whatever they want on FB. It is their choice to post and my choice not to look.
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I don't know how I will feel when it is my turn, BUT . . . my feeling now is that I don't think I would want to share that picture with all of my FB friends. Sure I am friends with family and close friends on there, but I'm also friends with people I haven't seen since high school. I guess I'm weirded out by the idea that some acquaintance could know as much about my pregnancy as close family members.
As far as the struggling with TTC thing goes, yeah it's a reminder when you see someone's US picture and you are STILL not pregnant. That said, I totally understand what a momentous occasion a pregnancy is for those of my friends who are posting. And I'm happy for them (even if I do occasionally get sad for myself).
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This, absolutely.
Personally, I am not a fan of seeing ultrasound pictures on Facebook, for the exact reasons you described. Not only is it a sensitivity issue but, frankly, I have no interest in seeing anyone's "insides", as you put it.
That said, I am not a big fan of sharing pregnancy related things on FB in general. As such, I have not, and will not, post an announcement, or anything of the sort. (I have no problem answering questions if asked, I just make sure I am not the one sharing in the first place.)
I don't post ultrasound pics to FB and I breastfed in public and I still find ultrasounds ultra private. To each their own, but they're definitely NMS.
so appreciated! thanks!
and I think you articulated something I didn't...everyone has different "friends" on Facebook..of course I have no issue with my family, close friends, etc. But when I went through my m/c and some woman I knew in high school who is 3 years younger than me is posting u/s pics of her 2nd child, well, OUCH! Yes, one could defriend but it's not something I could have anticipated ahead of time.
Thanks. I hadn't thought about it that way. I had a friend do it and thought it might be a good idea to tell people. Now, I'm not as sure. I hadn't thought about it upsetting my friends that have had difficulties getting pregnant. I'll think about other ideas instead. On a side note, I do have trouble with public Breastfeeding. It makes me uncomfortable, even though it shouldn't. I breastfed my son for 15 months and still feel the same way.
The good thing about facebook is there IS an unsubscribe button- you don't have to block your friends just because they're showing pics you might not want to see, you can just hide them from your feed, and check in as you wish on their page.
Also, I have no problem posting these things on FB, but if I knew I was offending or alienating a few of my friends who couldn't conceive, I'd make a pregnancy album that's only visible to the people I want to be able to see it. Facebooks privacy settings are quite easy to use now.
I did not post any ultrasound pictures of my daughter, and have no intention of posting any of the new baby, either.
However, I've never understood the whole "it's a picture of the inside of your uterus" objection to seeing other people's ultrasounds. If an ultrasound were an actual photograph, like a colonoscopy picture, then sure. But a black-and-white outline of a fetus is about as biological as an image created by the Hubble space telescope.
We plan to announce our pregnancy by posting our first ultrasound picture. I'm 35 and there was a period (of about 10 years) in my life that I believed I would never get the chance to be a mom. Not because of IF, but because I was single and was convinced I would never find someone. Happily, DH and I met, fell in love, married, and are now expecting our first child! Imagine the excitement surrounding this pregnancy and how much I want all my friends and family to share in that excitement!
I do have a friend who has been TTC #2 for a year. I plan to tell her first, in person, before we announce on facebook. I also have a cousin who could never have a baby because of damage that was done during a rape in her childhood. She adopted three adorable brothers about 4 years ago, but I still plan to tell her in person before announcing it. I know she still wishes she could have carried a child, so I want to be sensitive to that.
Also, like others have said - I adore ultrasound photos. I think they are beautiful and amazing and I love to look at the ones my friends have posted on FB. Quite a few of them have - in fact, every friend I have who is currently pregnant or has recently given birth posted their ultrasound photos.