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2+ Moms... how are you handling it all??
Having one was nothing. It was pretty easy with DD because she was all I had to focus on. Now that DS is here and DD is about to turn 2, I find myself feeling pretty overwhelmed! Every second is consumed with one or both of their needs and I have to worry about DD getting into things while I am nursing DS... It is so tough to nurse him every two hours (he takes 45 min. to feed) AND focus on her needs as well. I know it will get easier and I will adjust, but in the meantime, I am definitely feeling pretty in over my head. Anyone else?
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Re: 2+ Moms... how are you handling it all??
Just want to say you aren't alone! I am totally overwhelmed too - mostly by nursing. But I'm not willing to give that up! Two thoughts: dont be afraid to ask for help. Don't be afraid to use a little tv. And a friend recommended making a "nursing basket" for DS1 - special books, toys, or snacks that are only meant to be used during nursing sessions.
I hear it gets easier - good luck to you mama! You aren't alone!
Magic, luck and a lot of letting things go. I second the TV while nursing thing, also iPhone apps, and puzzles. My son has just started getting really good at puzzles and I can sit at the table with him and nurse while he does the puzzle.
Good luck, you're not alone.
I agree with all of this. Mine are 19 mos apart and there are times I feel overwhelmed. DS watches a little more tv than I would like, especially in the evenings when I am trying to get DD to bed, but I figure it's what I need to do right now to survive and that's okay.
I also have a nursing basket that comes out- it has a few toys, books, some coloring things and hands on things that keep DS occupied while I am busy. I do go buy like 10 books at the used bookstore we have here and switch the books up every week- that seems to help keep it fresh.
Me too! Tv and snacks are used much more frequently in my house! Also, have a room that is completely baby proofed. When I need to not have to jump up every 10 seconds while nursing, we just go up to DD's room and close the door. She can drag out every toy she wants and I can sit in the glider with DS and not worry and her climbing on top of the table (which she's done!). Good luck to us all!
Not to be a total douche but things are going well here. I'm trying to think of some of the most helpful things.
That's all I can think of right now but hopefully something in there helps you. One other thing that helps me hugely is a 10 minute tidy before bed. I set a kitchen timer and DH and I mission round the house tidying as much as we can in the space of 10 minutes. We do so much so quick since we know it's only 10 minutes and it means the house looks pretty good in the morning so I'm not starting from behind.