My SIL is getting married in May and the bridesmaids are throwing her a shower next weekend. Since I am helping with it all I opted to send out the invites (4 weeks ago) and put my info to RSVP. The last day to RSVP is tomorrow. I sent out 40 invites and have only heard back from 8 people.
My question is for the people I haven't heard from, Do I assume they are coming and forgot to RSVP, not coming at all and don't want to tell me or do I contact them and sort of put them on the spot to see if they are coming? I have never thrown a shower before so I don't know the true etiquette form of what to do and I kind of need to know for catering, tables/chairs, favors, etc.
P.S. Did I mention that I think it is RUDE that people don't rsvp. I understand that people forget and I am sure there will be a few stragglers to RSVP in the next week but I have this huge feeling that there will be quite a few that show up and have not rsvp'ed. So I guess I go under the assumption that everyone is coming?!?
Has anyone been in my shoes and if so what did you do? TIA!
Re: RSVP ? (NBR)
You could try calling some of the people. Play it off sweetly "oh I just wanted to be sure you got your invitation, I was worried since I had not yet received your RSVP." It is very frustrating when people don't bother to RSVP.
Thanks ladies! Didn't want to be rude putting them on the spot but at this point (with my any-moment-pregnancy-hormones-rages) I don't care if I am rude. They are rude for not rsvping.....grrr!
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This exactly. I had to do this with my sisters baby shower.
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This. And it drives me insane and makes me so mad when people do not RSVP!!!
Haha! I love your humor!
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BFP#3 10-25-10 *EDD 7/1/11 * missed m/c @ 13w3d
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I was about to write this post, almost to the letter!
This!!!
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