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Worried about missed miscarriage

nvoyles82nvoyles82
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   I know I am over reacting, I'm sure - but I have had this awful feeling for a long time now, and I keep having dreams where I go into the dr for an appt or ultrasound, and there is no heartbeat. I am 18 weeks pregnant, and have had a lot of unexplained bleeding this pregnancy. None for a month, until yesterday when I started spotting a bit. My A/S scan is on Friday and Im just terrifed that my lil boy is going to be gone at some point this pregnancy. ANyone esle ever feel like this? Am I crazy? LOL  How common and/or rare is it to lose a baby after the first trimester,and what would some of the causes be? AH... I need to get rid of this anxiety!

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Re: Worried about missed miscarriage

  • pathfindermonpathfindermon member
    I worry about it too!!  You're not crazy!  My doctor told me there is a 1% chance of anything happening after my n/t scan at 12 weeks. 
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  • angelak24angelak24
    I have had miscarriages so yes this is something I have worried and worried about. Try to focus on the positive and good luck at your A/S on Friday. Something that helps me is a phrase I heard on the PGAL board, "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby". Seems to have a calming effect personally for me! :)
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  • JulySpark05JulySpark05 member
    That is the main reason I bought a doppler early on for this pregnancy. I think it's normal to worry since these things do happen but just try and keep in mind that more then likely, nothing bad will happen and worrying about it isn't going to change anything. Try to just stay positive and enjoy your pregnancy = )  
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  • megan2545megan2545 member
    I worry about this too.  I always feel like somethings wrong.  I too had spotting throughout my whole 1st trimester and I just can't shake the feeling somethings wrong, even though everytime I go to the doctor everythings fine. You'll be okay just try to calm yourself. 
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  • Alauren4Alauren4 member
    I understand your fear but seriously it's a bit much, you have to remember that your baby feels what you feel, and you worrying so much and having all this anxiety isn't good for you or your baby. As hard as it might be you have to think positive happy thoughts. There is no worth in worrying it wont change nature and it will just make you miserable, just enjoy your pregnancy and take it one day at a time.
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  • enf090510enf090510
    After your 1st trimester...you would know if you were having a miscarriage. You would have been in extreme pain and a ton of bright red blood. I experienced this somewhat when I was 13wks. I lost one of my twins. I was like you in that I worried all the time that something was going to happen to my one baby in there after the miscarriage. And instead of looking forward to my doctor appointments, I almost expected them to tell me some horrible news. But I learned to stop thinking like that. You have to try and enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible. If something was going to happen...you worrying so much isnt going to change anything. Positive thoughts from here on out mommy. You can do it and you have The Bump ladies here to help support you no matter what you go through!
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  • LMB1231LMB1231 member
    I've been doing really good about keeping the negative thoughts at bay but then this week I got a bad cold and I see a ton of posts about women around the same point as me feeling kicks and flutters and I've felt nothing, just sick. It's shaken me up more then I'd like to admit. As much as I love the support and information that you get from these boards sometimes its hard not to also use them for comparing yourself to others.
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  • APendolaAPendola member

    I also had spotting throughout my first trimester and on occasion early in the second trimester.  I had dreams about miscarriages all the time and I still worry that something could be wrong.  It's hard when the doctor can't give you an explanation for the spotting and just tells you not to worry about it.

    I just had my ultrasound last week (at 19 weeks) and everything was perfectly healthy.  I hope you experience the same thing this Friday.  Try your best to relax until then...

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  • jdsummerbabyjdsummerbaby member
    i think its normal to worry especially if your experiencing bleeding/spots. I worry as well but I take it one day at a time and thank god for my baby everyday! truly a blessing. Try to stay positive. =)
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  • sarahandeddiejune212008sarahandeddiejune212008 member
    It is normal to worry, but it is very rare to lose a baby this late.  Usually babies are lost due to pre term labor.  Is it possible you have a sch?  That may explain the spotting.
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  • laoch101laoch101

    I had a miscarriage at 19 weeks. I had tons of bleeding and cramping. This pregnancy if I feel I need to get checked out I call my doc and get seen. Chances of miscarriage is extremely low. My Doppler helps me stay calm. Try to relax but if you feel a need to get checked to relax, go get check. This is the obs job. 

    You should call and let em know the bleeding had started again. Everything could be just fine and normal. But this way your ob knows. That makes me feel more relax, knowing that my ob knows and cares helps a lot. 

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  • nvoyles82nvoyles82
    Thanks everyone for the postive words and encouragment! :)  My lil man has been moving around today - more active than usual! :) So my mind is at ease!! It does make sense, I have no horrible cramping and not a lot of blood- the spotting has completely stopped. My OB says I am just fine because of such. Cannot wait to see the lil man on the A/S on Friday! I just wish it was July already! I want to bring him home :)
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