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More people are finding out

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and I feel like I'm going to have an anxiety attack.  I knew that once we told DH's family and my grandparents etc. that more people would be told.  I thought I was ok with this and part of me is but the other part of me is scared.  I keep thinking "What if something goes wrong and now all of these people will know".  Besides close friends and immediate family no one knows what DH and I have been through and this is the first time I've ever gotten far enough to start telling more people about this pregnancy.  How do you ladies deal with this anxiety and more people finding out?

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  • chloebeth930chloebeth930 member
    It was hard for me people finding out.  I posted it on FB after our NT scan and after we had told all our family.  I was completely panicked for a couple weeks.  After that it was kind of nice having all these people who were so excited and optimistic for us.  It helped me feel more positive about our pregnancy.
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  • roxyttandmeroxyttandme member

    I figure that I don't have anyone in my life that I wouldn't anticipate support if we lost this LO too. Therefore, I have less of a problem telling people. If it were up to DH, we would have screamed it off our roof top by now. 

    I think perhaps b/c you haven't told people about your previous losses that it may be a bit scarier for you? Just a thought. 

    (((hugs)))  

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  • iluvchris27iluvchris27 member

    I know exactly how you feel, we told all of our family over the weekend and they are all so excited about it that its making me really panic. Everyone keeps talking about buying things and showers and this and that and it is really making it hard for me to be excited. My husband really wants to come out on facebook but I'm just not ready yet. We have an appointment on Monday with my regular OB and I told him that if everything is still ok then he can announce on facebook.

    Everyone seems to be picking up on my anxiety as well because I keep having people tell me, "Just relax, everything is going to be ok and it's ok to be excited!" I get that but they also haven't been through what we have so it's easy for them to say that.

    Hugs to you and hopefully all of our anxiety will go away and we can actually be excited and enjoy this journey!



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