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no sex drive?

WiFeY 4 LiFeYWiFeY 4 LiFeY member
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If you have no sex drive -like me- do you prefer to "give in" or give oral?

I am having a hard time with either. My poor, poor DH!

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  • adrianamazingadrianamazing

    Oh, darling! I understand your husband's pain. When I first found out I was pregnant, my sex drive was up the roof, but my DF was terrified of "hurting" the baby (silly men). 

    I'd say, if you really can't bring yourself to "please" him, don't. It's completely up to you...and he'll just have to deal with it.  

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    lol @ hard time.

    um...let me think back to the last time i had a sexual encounter...

    i'd prefer to "give in" rather than do oral. i don't mind oral, i just feel like giving in is easier at this point.

     


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  • mrsj0423mrsj0423 member
    I too have ZERO sex drive.  I give in once a week (avg.).  Once in a while I will substitute intercourse for oral, he is satisfied just the same.  The way I look at it, once the deed is done I feel happy that I am off the hook for another week... Lol... But boy oh boy, a week sure does fly by. Haha
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    imagemrsj0423:
    I too have ZERO sex drive.  I give in once a week (avg.).  Once in a while I will substitute intercourse for oral, he is satisfied just the same.  The way I look at it, once the deed is done I feel happy that I am off the hook for another week... Lol... But boy oh boy, a week sure does fly by. Haha

    once a week? you're a saint! i cannot remember the last time i gave in- it's easily been over a month!

     


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  • SandyAliSandyAli
    Yes, I also feel bad for my DH. I thought for sure that my sex drive would increase going into my second tri but nope...still at zero! We have sex about once a week or every 10 days. I always give in...but once we're in it, it begin to enjoy it. I guess the issue is getting me started but once you've got me going..I'm there! lol! TMI? But more than anything, I enjoy our moment of having that physical contact with him..even if I don't finish, I'm still happy that we got our time to love each other a little more..
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  • trojastrojas member
    i think i'm gonna give in tonight. my poor husband.
     


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  • ChristinaCTChristinaCT
    I know how you feel!  I "gave in" last night & it felt like a freaking chore. There are rare times when I am in the mood, but it's normally at inopportune times like the middle of the day when DS is awake.  Not easy to have a nooner with an almost 4 yr old around.
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  • SBmommaSBmomma member
    So not in the mood. It makes me feel queasy. :-(
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  • usarmywifetsousarmywifetso member

    I feel pretty much the exact same way. I was really hoping that with the decrease in nausea and the increase in energy with the 2nd trimester, my sex drive would go up but it really hasn't.

    Like most of the other women who have replied, I too prefer to just "give in." I have discovered that if I basically let him do all the work, it's easier on me and just as satisfying for him.

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  • amberlynnr7amberlynnr7 member

    I give in, but it's not pleasant most of the time. Its uncomfortable a lot & I need a lot of foreplay in order to actually "get in the mood."

    Honestly, I usually just get annoyed when DH touches me.  

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  • SJM1981SJM1981 member
    I have ZERO sex drive.I thought it would come back to me in the second trimester, but it hasn't. I feel so bad for DH, but I am just never in the mood. I try and give in when I can, but it's hard for him also when he knows I could really care less about it right now, just doesn't make him want to do it. Hopefully it will get better....
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