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PCP/TTC/ATP
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QOTD: Are you a jealous person? And/or is your spouse a jealous person? If so, how do you/s/he manage it?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP
PCP/TTC:Still on hold but have our last insem plans made for July. We are going to be working on getting registered to foster/adopt this summer.
QOTD: It depends on the situation. With DW have never had a jealous moment but have some issues there with my brothers (ie Mom takes me for granted and babies them (they are 38 and 27)...I dont want to be babied but I dont want to be forgotten about either) My DW is like the least jealous person I know. She isnt emotional in general. I deal with my brother issues by reminding myself that I soooooo dont want their lives and dependency issues lol.
PCP: Vials still available at the bank are driving me crazy. I dreading the time I check and they're gone, but it would also remove the "should we" thoughts. Having my 17 month-old nephew with us for a week has been great and makes me think about how someday we'll have one ourselves. After my family leaves (tonight) we're going to talk more about C's career plans. Also, I need to get going on some stuff for my business (website redesign, networking, etc) that I've been putting off. Still in limbo until CD1 and/or April endocrinologist appointment.
QOTD: We both have jealous streaks (although hers is a bit stronger), but deal with it very differently. I think I'm more in touch with when and why I'm feeling it and can process it more effectively.
Nita has her 30wk check up on Friday
can't belive how fast time is going for the both of us. So excited that in only 10 short weeks we will have our little girl. And as for me on my TWW is not as stressful as Nita's maybe cause we have our little girl on the way, that I'm not really thinking about me being pregnant. But we both are very excited to find out if Mia will have a little sis or brother on the way!
QOTD- I guess we are pretty lucky because we are not one bit jelouse.
ATP: I think 5 is the ultimate age when kids really start learning things at school that are not appropriate. E and I have had a lot of conversations lately about things she's said/done that don't fit with my house rules. Nothing really bad, thankfully, but I'm trying to raise a little lady with some manners and respect for her elders! Aside from that we're cruising along. Lots of laughs and silliness and fun conversations as E learns about her world.
QOTD: I don't think I am a jealous person unless I'm given good reason to be. I tend to put a lot of faith in the thought that people are who they say they are unless they prove me wrong. It's too soon for me to tell if the girl is the jealous type, but I don't get the sense that she is. We had a conversation recently about exes and she is still in contact with one of hers from time to time and she wanted to let me know about it. I said I didn't have a problem with it, they're in the past and she's choosing to be with me in the present.
This week has been really good with the kids. A has been really helpful and has been keeping her rudeness in check. Iz is opening up to me more and her behavior is getting better. Owl is making more progress, her facial expressions have softened and she is playing with A and Iz instead of sitting to the side and watching. Apple is a chatterbox and is so happy now.
QOTD: I'm not a jealous person but J is very jealous. I've learned which battles to fight with J and when I should just not say anything, she will eventually get over what she's jealous about at the moment.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
QOTD: Things are status quo. I think I have a LOT less tolerance for the wrestling, arguing, yelling, etc than most since I am an only child and I never had to engage a sibling relationship. The boys generally play well together, but when they aren't...OH MY. It makes me head explode.
They are SOOOOOOO excited for L's birthday tomorrow and have been begging to let her open presents all week. LOL.
QOTD: No, I am not jealous at all about relationships (past and present.) I don't care she has friended exes on FB (in fact her first girlfriend came to our wedding.) I do get jealous of the time L gets away from the kids...alone. I miss "me time" and even though L is usually writing when she gets it, I often play the comparison/"it's not fair" game in my head (and sometimes out loud.)
ATP - Things are good. DD has been sleeping through the night in her toddler bed. She's still struggling to go to sleep, but once asleep things have been good.
QOTD - Sort of. I'm not jealous of other women/family/friends getting K's time. I have no insecurity when it comes to her being around other people (okay, well maybe just the ex, but we've only seen her once in the 7 years we've been together). I do get jealous of her past though. However it's more about me not having similar experiences not necessarily the experiences she has had.
You know I completely understand this right? So if you want to say it out loud to someone other than L let me know. Every night K comes home, changes out of work clothes and then leaves to write. I'm jealous of the fact that several nights a week K eats dinner out (when she goes to write).....and this makes me jealous because it means she can enjoy an alcoholic beverage without interruption....and maybe even have two.
LOL. L is always telling me to go out after work. But after work, I am beat. exhausted. ready to come home and go to bed. I want a weekend morning to not have a kid wake me up at 6am. I want to need a break and see a movie. I want to enjoy the quiet of a hotel room rather than the constant bickering of my children. I know that the flip side is that she spends countless hours sitting at a hotel desk writing alone, but it is that jealous part of my head.
2brides and True, you both deserve some time off to have a drink, alone time, sleep...etc. (Please know that I know that your spouses offer you time. I am not negating that.)
Sadly, yes, be a LITTLE jealous. Believe me, it is easier (for lack of a better word) to write than wrangle children. You get to lean back in a chair and think about your next sentence. You get to pace (if you pace) and you get to think. You don't have kids fighting or worrying about what you are going to feed them. Yeah, your spouse's committee might drive her batty, and the pressure is on, but I can tell you this, there are times that I would welcome my (ex) chair sending my draft back to me with corrections to make and questions to answer.
If L or K offer you time, jump on it. If you need time don't hesitate to ask for it.
I hope this makes sense.
I APPLAUD YOU BOTH. I couldn't do what you are doing.
She offered time but then I gave it back
She was going to take over the bedtime routine on Tues and Thurs so I could work out, but I saw how stressed she was and decided it was best for all of us if she simply writes and I take care of our daughter. We only have another month of this so it's not bad at all. Frankly I won't know what to do with myself when I have to hang out with my wife every night 
I'm glad K's dissertation years were pre-J and me.
ATP: I'm in love with my child. Just when I think he can't possibly be cooler, he finds a way.
QOTD: I'm more jealous than K. K is the personification of the absent-minded professor, so there's really no place for jealousy in her brain.
If I think there's reason to be jealous, my Latin/Italian blood shows its true colors pretty quickly (not in a drama-filled, tantrumy way but in a "Nuh-uh" way, if you know what I mean).
In other news, my progenitors, also known around these parts as the dementors ("parents" somehow just doesn't fit), are having hissy fits over the fact that I'm not communicating with them. After all they've done. Seriously. They're playing the victim to anyone who'll listen, apparently. I got a call from my aunt, male dementor's sister, asking me to let my mother back on my Facebook as a favor to this aunt (whom I love dearly). Uh, my mother blocked ME, apparently, so there's NOTHING I can do. Cray!
LOL!
Let's see: I drive to work with C; I have lunch with C; we often meet for potty breaks; we go down to the cofee shop together; I go home with C; we sit down at the table with the Kiddos during their meal; (one puts the Kiddos to bed...first alone time of the day); C and I then have dinner together; I fall asleep...and then the day starts again.
Heck, I am a horrible person to offer advice..I wouldn't know what to do if I didn't WORK with C!
Trav worked a second job when we were saving for the wedding, so most nights he would go straight there after work and not get home until basically bedtime. It was definitely an adjustment when he stopped the second job and we had our nights and weekends together again!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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TTC: Tomorrow is my 1st appt with new RE. I'm psyched!
TTA: I sent in our 1st batch of paperwork to get approved to foster. I'm psyched about this, too!
AOTD: I have a tendency towards jealousy, but K doesn't. We don't find it to be a big problem, normally. I'm really open about it to her and she gets annoyed, then we both let it go.
Biskiebean has been kicking up a storm, I can feel him throughout the day now which is really cool. A couple of days ago I woke up to Biskiebean dancing around and put EV's hand on my belly, she was still asleep when he kicked her hand and she woke up laughing. It was a great way to start the day.
QOTD: I think we both used to be more jealous of eachother (in terms of attention, etc.) in our twenties. But the last few years I feel very secure and confident in us and our marriage. I did (and maybe still would) get jealous of EV going out some weekend nights to party with our friends, I was too sick and tired to go in early pregnancy. But I don't feel that way anymore and it's come up less as we get closer to July. I think we're just changing our lifestyle bit by bit.
yeah, it's been an adjustment for us with my wife on first shift now. she was on 3rd for almost the entire time we've been together, so it's taken some getting used to.
as far as TTC/ATP: I love my boy, he's awesome. he keeps getting these "ouchies" that he wants kisses for, but I suspect that most of those ouchies are just excuses for kisses from Mama, which is fine by me! IUI was on Sunday so I'm also in the TWW--which ends up being way longer than two weeks for me since I do an hCG booster, but I have apparently become obsessed with POAS these last two cycles. I bought some super cheap test strips so I can test out the booster and hopefully know by March 10 or 11, and on a weekend, instead of having to wait until the 15th. I keep going back and forth between being already convinced that it didn't work (which is most of the time) or thinking that it did. ugh.
QOTD: I don't think either of us are particularly jealous. the only person I ever have any pangs of jealousy over is her last ex before me, and I know how their relationship ended and that there is NO chance of any kind of romantic reconnection so I do know logically that it's a bit silly, I just can't help it. if she gets jealous she hides it really well, because I've never noticed.
E is pretty funny these days. We are still doing our low key potty training. I ask her if she wants to go and put her on. If she goes she goes. I think in a month she will really be ready. She did tell me last night that she had to go potty when in the tub and got out and actually peed on the potty. She likes to watch the pee come out and say "Mama peepee coming." While she pees. It is pretty funny and she is pretty pleased with herself. Language is still getting there but slowly evolving. She is also been really into her letters and counting of late. It is super cute although she feels strongly that it is 1,2,3, 6,7,8...I don't know what she has against 4 and 5 but she really dislikes them.
Neither of us is very jealous but I am jealous of S's alone study time. I think it would be better if I had a job where I was alone at anytime but teaching is just never ending interaction. Sometimes I get only a few minutes alone a day. I spoiled myself last week and went out to lunch alone. It was heaven.
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
PCP: C's cycles might be wacky. We're waiting for the end of this one to see what is up. (Our second cycle charting). Our donor had his sperm analysis, and it all came back normal except morphology. We did some research, and have decided to go ahead with him for at least three fresh cycles. All this requires some serious star alignment in April-July.
Our original plan was to do home inseminations with fresh or shipped fresh sperm. That is still the plan right now, but we are definitely realizing that might not be able to be the plan long term. We have a consult with an LGBT focused alternative insemination program at the end of March, where we'll look at C's charts and figure out where to go from there.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
And I always forget the QOTD!
Neither C or I are very jealous about relationship/attention stuff. She's had the normal wariness of my exes, but nothing big.
LV, I identify with your sibling jealousy issues. I am basically jealous of my sister's role in our family and her easy relationship with my mother. She is also coddled by my mom in a way that I am not, and it's easy to feel forgotten when you are the responsible, independent one.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
No updates here! We had a brief period of thinking Pumpkin's case might get "fast tracked." (possible termination of parental rights in a month or two.) Then found out it isn't. For stupid, paperwork reasons.
QOTD: Neither one of us really is, but each of us are about small things. Funny example--I used to manage a restaurant where people would frequently go out for a drink after work--leaving us out til 2am.
People in the restaurant business say "honey" a lot.
L heard me say "hon" to someone else--and got upset. "I'm your honey."
At work one day, I called someone "hon," then corrected myself and used their name. They looked at me strangely, I explained. This woman went on a tirade about L being "controlling" and that she needed to get over it. I said, " she doesn't care how often I am out until 2am, doesn't ask questions..... if this bothers her--I will stop."
This. 2ww. is killing me. Seriously the worst one I have had. I don't know why, but I have been a raving lunatic. And my body has been particularly tricky -- I swear 2-3 times a day something happens to convince me I'm pregnant and 2-3 times a day something happens to assure me I'm not. I was probably unrealistically optimistic the first cycle, but every cycle since then I'm managed to basically keep my cool. Not this time, people. Fortunately AF is due tomorrow, so it will either come...or it won't. My b/w appointment is Friday morning. And then I leave on vacation.
I am fortunate to have a wife who is REALLY not jealous. Which is good, because my closest friend, whom I talk to almost daily and spend time with often (usually on Saturdays while my wife is at work) happens to be my first girlfriend. We were 20-22 at the time (that's now more than a decade ago) but it was a very intense relationship and not my choice to end it (she did, for a guy she is now married to. Who is perfect for her and whom I adore). So if my wife wanted to be jealous, she could be. But she's not, which is good, because now I can't imagine being in a relationship with this woman, and our friendship feeds parts of my personality that my relationship with my wife does not. She and my wife get along famously, by the way, and she was at our wedding -- along with one of my other exes. I'm not particularly jealous, either.
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
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