After 5 years TTC, we have decided to pursue adoption. We are looking in the Atlanta GA area for agencies that handle international adoption.
Ideally, we would love to adopt a healthy Asian girl. We have always wanted a daughter, and we don't know how many children we will be able to parent, so we would choose a girl if there is an option. We want to adopt from an Asian country because we have always been interested in Asian cultures and feel that it would be easier to bond with a child if we already share something in common. So far we have seen opportunities listed for special needs children, but we are hoping to find a child without additional medical challenges for our first experience so we have as few hurdles as possible.
We have struggled through IF and now our initial steps of getting involved with adoption seem to be a challenge as well, but we are ready for the journey. A few agencies have already said that they could not meet our requirements when we asked for these preferences.
I thought I could ask here if it is even acceptable to have a preferred child in mind or if we should just consider it to be a take-what-you-can-get situation. I hope this doesn't come across uncaring or snobbish. We really have come a long way in our acceptance of the idea of adopting a child rather than having a bio child and we want to do all we can to make it a good experience. we are finally excited about the idea, but we don't want to get our hopes up if there is no chance of getting the child that we feel would be the best fit for us.