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All my friends think I'm crazy for going along w/ this...

cdschadenfrohcdschadenfroh
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DH and I have been contantly discussing if we are going to find out the sex of the baby or not. Obviously this is something that every mommy to be has to decide. DH told me that he has to know. He said it will drive him nuts not knowing. I understand and I don't want to keep anything from him. If he wants to know, he has a right... it's his kid 2 lol! I, on the other hand, was kind of looking forward to the suprise of not knowing.

DH approached me last week w/ his solution and I LOVE IT! All my friends think I'm crazy for going along w/ this...  DH plans to find out. He is going to keep the nursery under lock and key and decorate it w/ my very trusted sister and SIL. He will then ONLY inform family members and those who will be invited to the baby shower w/ strict instructions to give only neutral items. They can bring other gifts as well but they will go in the nursery, not to be opened til the baby comes. We plan on having 2 baby showers and the guests get to choose which one they want to attend. The 2nd baby shower will be after the baby is born when the guests will obvioulsy be able to give gender specific gifts. Nobody is to tell me what the baby is! Sure I know that there is a possiblilty that someone could spoil the suprise but I am willing to give it a try. I like DH's plan and HOPE that it will work!! Wish us luck!

P.S. Yes, I'm having 2 showers... I had 2 bachelorette parties and 2 birdal showers as well. I have a HUGE family and not everyone in the family gets along so well, plus I have my friends from my hometown and my freinds from college.

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  • Mrs.PepinMrs.Pepin member
    I think its a cool idea, just hope it works out and doesn't get spoiled.  Good Luck!
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  • shaysmom05shaysmom05 member
    I think that's a great idea!
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  • nora123nora123
    This is never going to work, someone is bound to slip accidentally.  I'm sure at some point someone will make a he or she reference when referring to the baby .  Good luck, I hope it works out for you but I'd bet money you will know the sex before the baby is born.
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  • rmarrufformarruffo member
    I think thats a great way for your DH to be more involved! I love it, dont let other people tell you otherwise~
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  • cdschadenfrohcdschadenfroh
    Oh I'm sure someone will slip up... I'm being realistic about this. I just hope that they don't lol! My DH, brother and some other family members are already refering to it at "he". I am so a go w/ the flow kind of girl. I wont be devistated if someone slips up and I won't get mad at them either. I just think that this is worth a try. My SIL told me that she has actually seen and expisode of "A Baby Story" where the family did this successfully. So, I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    Good luck with that plan actually working.
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  • kirkandjaninekirkandjanine
    I think it is a very cute idea - it's even cuter knowing your DH came up with it! Even if someone slips, keep the nursery a secret until the baby comes home. Then the whole surprise isn't ruined. Good Luck!
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  • SwissPrincessBrideSwissPrincessBride
    Good luck to you! I know it may be hard for everyone to keep that secret but I think its wonderful how involved in it your DH and how far he is willing to go to make it special for you. And its great that you are aware of the risk of someone spilling it but are going for it anyway. Best wishes!
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  • MitzieMitzie

    "He is going to keep the nursery under lock and key and decorate it w/ my very trusted sister and SIL."

     

    I think it is really sweet that he is going to decorate a surprise nursery for you:)

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  • Pecas13Pecas13 member
    You are a brave lady...I would not be able to NOT see the nursery before the little one arrives!  It's just too exciting!
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  • DM1908DM1908
    Cute idea....but good luck on that plan....Hope it works out for you all.
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  • Belle15Belle15
    It would bother me if a large number of people knew and I didn't.  I do love the idea of having the nursery under lock and key, but personally I think its more plausible to work if it's just your DH, sister and SIL. 
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  • TennisWife815TennisWife815 member

    I hope it works out for you. My uncle knew the sex of 2/3 kids and my aunt did not. We all guessed right though on the two that he knew -- he dropped hints occasionally and then would tell us we made up conversations, misheard or understood, etc.

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    My other uncle knew the sex of their second and wrote it down on a piece of paper. The paper was in an envelope in a kitchen cabinet so if my aunt ever wanted to find out, she could. I don't know how she restrained herself. As much as I want a surprise, I don't think I could keep my hands off.

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  • JenniferTXJenniferTX
    I think that's so cute.  We were trying to come up with a compromise b/c we are in the same situation about knowing/not knowing.  I had negotiated for a 15 minute back rub every other night until the baby is born but this is something to consider too.  Hmmmm. . .
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  • Mrs. NicolianMrs. Nicolian
    Cute idea. I don't personally see it working but good luck.
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  • LittleEgyptLittleEgypt
    Yeah, this sounds pretty crazy. Even if it works and you don't find out, do you really want to not see the nursery until the baby is born? You need to know what your shower gifts are, even clothes really, so you can see how much you still need to buy. You'll probably want to wash all the clothes ahead of time, and you won't be able to wash anything that's still wrapped. It's kind of cute, but seems reeeally impractical to me.
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