Thank you SO much to everyone for your support in my last post. The last 24 hours have been harder than I thought they would. Probably because SOMEONE won't leave the house and just wants to mope around here.
Anywho. Paperwork is being filled out, but the only looming issue is the house.
I love this house. I've put blood, sweat, tears and LOVE into this house. However, the internet has me pretty convinced I won't be able to refinance it in my own name. I just don't have the income, now that my household income has been cut by over 60%. Plus the costs of maintenence.
So tell me all about how wonderful renting an apartment will be with a toddler and two dogs.
So far I've got:
Access to a pool.
Free gym membership.
More time with my baby.
Walking the dogs with a toddler in the summer heat/winter rain everyday at 5am. Oh wait, that's not a plus. That should be on the "shoot me in the head" list.
But seriously. If you live in a condo/apartment/sold your house to rent ... can you tell me the things you love about it? Better to rent than be broke/spend all my money maintaining a house, right?
Re: Renting - Could be Awesome?
If I was on my own with a child I definitely think I'd prefer renting. No yard maintenance. No worries about pest control - if you see a bug you just call and they send someone out. If something breaks, they come fix it. Plus the pool right there!
I would make sure to get a ground floor apartment or it might get difficult to get everyone out the door, especially with pets.
No maintenance costs, cheaper utilities, renter's insurance is cheaper than homeowners insurance, there's nothing to remodel so there's no temptation to spend all of your extra $ fixing up the place. Seriously, the times we've rented we've saved SO much money vs. owning. Plus once you are done with the current home you're in, you have the freedom that comes with renting: if you don't like the place, sublet it and move or move as soon as your lease is up. If a better job offer comes along on the other side of town or somewhere out of town you'll have the freedom to pick up and move when you need to, instead of hiring a realtor, staging the house, keeping it clean while it's on the market, worrying about property values, etc., etc.
In your situation, I'd DEFINITELY want to rent for a while. Plus, you've been dealing with two incomes and unpredictable spending. Renting an apartment for a year or so may give you a chance to get a really good feel for your budget, what your actual expenses are, etc., and as I said above, you'll have fewer expenses, so it might even result in you being able to set aside a nice emergency fund for yourself.
Meredith, 6-1-06 and Alex, 11-5-09
What about renting a house or condo? Is that an option?
I am so sorry you are going through this but I know things are going to be so much better for you and your dd when it's all over. Hugs, dust and prayers for you. If you need anything I live north and I am a good listener.
Amy
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Ditto the others - renting will give you an incredible amount of stability that will be huge for you right now. Especially if you find a place that you love and lock in a longer lease.
With the dogs, though, I would definitely look into a townhouse or even a small 2-3 bedroom house. Once you factor in pet deposits and just the sheer space dogs take up, you probably wouldn't be very comfortable in an apartment. At least a townhouse or house would give you the flexibility of a yard without the responsibility of maintaining it (since the owner would probably have a yard service included in the monthly rent).
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I kept the house after my divorce and didn't think I could afford it either. If your child goes to day care, you might look into Workforce Solutions. They will provide you with a very substantial discount for day care if you qualify, which might help you afford your mortgage. Could anyone co-sign on your refinance? Also, there is a government program that provides mortgage assistance if you qualify.
I do think an apartment/duplex/rental house would be perfectly fine, but if you decide you want to keep your house, there are options for financial assistance.
I currently live in an apartment. I don't have kids but DH and I travel a lot for work so at this point I enjoy not having the work of a house or being too tied down. You've already covered most of the things I like (pool, gym) but it's also great that when something breaks or needs fixing (dishwasher, leaky pipes, etc.) someone else does it all and pays for it. I think this saves a lot of money and time that I really don't have. I don't have to worry about yard work which is a plus. Also, because I am home alone often I feel a little more protected in the community than I would on my own.
The downside for us is no grill (there is a communal one but not as convenient as having your own). Also, prices can change from year to year which can suck if you really like where you are at.
My parents separated when I was one. My mom and dad sold their house and I moved into an apartment with my mom. My mom later rented a house when I was about four and bought one when I started Kindergarten. I know now how hard it was on my mom but as a kid I had a great time. I definitely don't think you need a house to have a home with your little one. Good luck! I hope it all works out.