Would you attend a family function at a church 10 days after having a c-section and having a newborn?
I am declining on attending a baptism for a niece since I will be 10 days PP, as well as having a newborn.....I have had 2 C/S before and it was a good 14 days+ before I felt even human, let alone getting dressed up for a family event!
I am going to get chastized for not attending....
Am I making the wrong decision??
Re: An event 10 days after c-section?
I have had three c/s and I personally wouldn't go. I think my recoveries were easy but that is also because I took it really easy and didn't do much for a few weeks. Now, when I did start to do too much the pain would come back and I would also start bleeding again.
My advice is to send your regrets and a nice gift and don't let anyone give you a hard time for not going. There is nothing wrong with putting your new baby and yourself first at this time. I would also advise against giving reasons why you can't go. Just a sweet and simple " Sorry, but we will not be able to attend" and let it go. If anyone tries to push you, then tell them it won't be up for discussion.
A wedding, yes. A baptism, no. I had great recoveries but still wouldn't have wanted to get dressed up and take my baby(ies) to a big family event like that. Nor would I really want a newborn passed around a large group of people, and my extended family would have a tough time keeping their hands off a new baby.
Ignore any chastisers, you're the one having surgery and a baby and even if you were delivering vaginally, I'd say that would be pushing it.
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Hellzno.
1) My recovery was not good and I was in no shape to go to any social events for at least 3 weeks.
2) I would not be comfortable taking my 10-day-old infant to a function where there would be a lot of people.
This.
I had a great recovery and went to a baby shower at 5 days pp. Granted I didn't bring LO and was only gone for 2 1/2 hours (my mom came over and watched him and he was asleep the whole time). I also went to Walmart that day too.
If you have to RSVP in advance then I would say no b/c you don't know how you'll feel. If you could decide last minute then just see how you are feeling.
ditto ^^^^
I would not feel bad for not attending and politefully decline the offer. They should be completely understanding of this. I feel the same way.
This. Take care of yourself first.