is there some something unacceptable about BFing or something?

juliamastro · February 2012

sorry to post another MIL vent, but she keeps discouraging me to breastfeed. I havent even openly told her if im planning to or not (which I am), she just really doesnt want me to. I had an u/s tuesday bc baby was measuring big, they told me he would be around 10 lbs, and she had the nerve to say "oh maybe you can just have a c section, that way your milk might not come in and you cant breastfeed." I personally dont feel strongly about bfing vs formula, but ive never heard of anyone discouraging bfing so much.

cookies+milk · February 2012

She "doesn't want you to"?! Who cares?! That's ridiculous. It's your choice and you should get to decide without her input. If it were me, that's what I would tell her!

gervaisj6 · February 2012

I have found a lot of people who were unsuccessful with bf-they will discourage others. It it none of her damn business. It is healthy, and saves A TON of money. And formula was made as a substitute for breast milk...I am gonna try,.cause we need.to save $

NatPhoto09 · February 2012

some older women didn't BF b/c formula was pushed when they had babies. I think it is partly being ignorant about breastfeeding. Ignore her it is your body and your baby.

juliamastro · February 2012

gervaisj6:
I have found a lot of people who were unsuccessful with bf-they will discourage others. It it none of her damn business. It is healthy, and saves A TON of money. And formula was made as a substitute for breast milk...I am gonna try,.cause we need.to save $

yeah she couldnt breastfeed, and I think thats part of it. we also need to save money, she wants us to get on WIC to get free formula, but I told her off on that, why would I take the governments money for something I dont need when I cam breastfeed at nobody's expense? if I cant breastfeed for whatever reason, ok, but I can at least try.sheesh. some people!!

Nicolewinsbingo · February 2012

Breast feeding is currently pretty much universally agreed upon as the healthiest, best option for baby by all health care professionals. The more studies that come out, the more reasons they find to breast feed. I think BF should not only be viewed as 'the cheapest option' or 'a good option' but the BEST option for your baby's health. I would really be surprised if my MIL or anyone was telling me not to BF...but I would just tell them to look it up... doctors agree that if it is physically possible, you really should breastfeed your baby as much as possible until at least 1 year of age.

stemms8810 · February 2012

Wow, I really don't think she needs to be giving you such a strong opinion either way simply because it's a personal decision and none of her business. And her comment about the c-section is not true. I had one and my milk came in just fine.

melrrr · February 2012

wow! I'm so sorry! Just ignore her, and if she gives you grief when you do it then tell her she can leave the room.

I was/am so lucky to have BF support on both sides.

adiddy33 · February 2012

I have found a lot of people who were unsuccessful with bf-they will discourage others. It it none of her damn business. It is healthy, and saves A TON of money

It's exactly this. Almost like they feel so guilty they didn't do it, they subconciously try to drag others down. Very common actually but she's very blatant.

KimberlyE715 · February 2012

Some people will also discourage BFing because then they cannot feed the baby. Of course there is always the option of pumping and feeding the baby bottles. My MIL thinks BFing is weird. I don't get it, but it's my decision and I'm not letting her opinion bother me.

tjkdlhb · February 2012

She was able to make decisions for her children... YOU get to make the decisions for yours.

babyruth88 · February 2012

wow. I think our mil must be lost twins or something. I would definatly try atleast.

winter-shock · February 2012

That's weird. My sister's MIL openly told her she thought BF'ing was disgusting at that women just got , and i quote, "their jollies from it"

AbsoluteLM · February 2012

KimberlyE715:
Some people will also discourage BFing because then they cannot feed the baby. Of course there is always the option of pumping and feeding the baby bottles. My MIL thinks BFing is weird. I don't get it, but it's my decision and I'm not letting her opinion bother me.

This! Your MIL is probably upset that you will be the one feeding the baby most of the time. My mom was a little iffy about BFing at first too, but I was going to do it anyway, so she got used to it. This time she is reminding me "gently" that I really need to pump more because she is going to need to help with feeding since we'll have two boys to take care of. I'm not sure how true this will be... lol.

How upsetting that your MIL is wishing you a c/s and also BFing failure! I would maybe have DH say something to her about it. Or, you could say something to her like, I'm planning on BFing, since its healthy for baby, but we'll definitely find another special grandma/baby bonding activity for you... how about changing diapers? Lol.

cbottali · February 2012

my MIL didn't really discourage it that much, but I did say I wanted to try for a year and she said "yeah once one tooth comes in that will change your mind." Way to be helpful...

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