According to DH we do not need to start on the nursery

JillBean78 · November 2008

He says to me today, I'm not doing anything in there until March!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AYFKM!!! March!!!!!! I'm due April 3!!!!! I said, ummmm honey just because I'm due April 3 doesn't mean the baby can't come 3 weeks early. I told him it needed to be done by the shower which is Jan. 25. And we don't even have to do much, it is already painted, we need to put a new closet organizer in, get a new closet door, put a chair rail up and that is about it. Well, we need to set the furniture up, but that is easy. Oh and we need to find somewhere for our collection of junk the room is holding right now to go which most likely will be into the trash. It would literally take us 2 weekends to get it done, if that.

Why do guys think they can just wait until the last minute for stuff??? Maybe my DH is the only one.

ericalea511 · November 2008

Hey my DH has been talking to yours! I am not allowed to buy anything

Let alone start decorating! We dont need to do that yet.... Not until after the shower!!! What!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JillBean78 · November 2008

My mom and dad were over when we had this discussion, so she told us that my dad put my baby room off and was painting it 2 days before they brought me home! Men!

julia0402 · November 2008

LOL, my DH wanted to set everything up at like 13-14w... which was a whole different problem... I was NOT ready!

manda_mullins · November 2008

Guys just don't get it. It's not too early at all!

It's safer to get it done early. That way if anything needs replaced or you need something you can see it. Plus then you have a place to put all your baby stuff and you can show everyone at the shower. He does not want to be dealing with organizing all that shit later when you're too uncomfortable/miserable to help.

vlahop · November 2008

Men... :-)

smiley007 · November 2008

Mine is the opposite! He needs things done immediately! I'm the one who wants to wait until January to empty out the "office" and make it the nursery.

That's tough... I hope he jumps on board with you sooner than March.

charleydawg · November 2008

We didn't start on ours until about 27 weeks. I was freaking out! We ended up finding furniture on Craigslist (so didn't have to wait the standard 6-12 weeks for delivery), and didn't have to paint. However, it's still a work in progress (my husband is working on installing new closet doors right now--the kid is due any day!). Plus, I had my shower around 31 weeks, so it was very nice to have a place to put everything and when the nesting instinct kicks in, you'll want a place to go and organize little socks and outfits!

I only wish we had started sooner so that I had more energy to organize it. I totally hit a wall energy wise third trimester. Also, with the holidays coming up, you'll want to get as much done as possible now, so you and your husband can have some weekends off from nursery duty!

Tell him to get on it!!! He may find it helps him satisfy his nesting instincts, too! Good luck!

purplepuggles · November 2008

ha! tell them about baby jack who came 3 months early! we were all "whatever" about all that...you can bet with baby #2 we will be doing a lot of things earlier! :-)

mommy411 · November 2008

Mine is so superticious..He doesnt want anything till he see's the baby...ummmmm NO

oliviasprettymommy · November 2008

My dh wants it done its me thats slow on getting everything done, good luck with it:)

rjade9 · November 2008

we just set up the nursery this week, but i dont think that you can really set up too early. if anything set it up after your shower that way you have mostly anything your going to get for the room then!

JillBean78 · November 2008

I really want it done before the shower, that way we have somewhere to put everything. If we wait until after the shower to do anything in there it will be a disaster, there isn't any room to put anything in there right now because DH has junked it up with crap.

SwissPrincessBride · November 2008

I feel lucky, my DH is really helpful when it comes to the nursery. He likes my taste in decorating the house so I have full support when it comes to choosing what we need in the nursery. All I have to ask him to do something and he gets it done for me. I feel very fortunate in that we are a good team like that. He is more relaxed than I but realizes if its done ahead of time I can relax too.

JillBean78 · November 2008

DH loves house projects, so it isn't that he doesn't want to do anything he just doesn't think it needs to be done early because you know the baby always comes right on the due date (wink, wink)

DM1908 · November 2008

Okay...DH definitely needs to know that a month before is unacceptable.

Remind him that although you have a due date, your bundle can arrive soon.

My DH and I started today (yes, I'm exhausted)...and I had to take so many breaks - and I'm just 24 weeks!

We still have a great deal to take care of and with the holidays right around the corner, time is going to fly by.

I am really also going to appreciate a place to put things from the shower in a a few weeks.

G/L!

JOEBunny · November 2008

You can tell him my story, which is that I went to the doctor at 34 weeks and was told to go home immediately, do not return to work, do not pass go, do not collect $200 and only get up to pee.

Fortunately, I had done the nursery about 3 weeks before. DH is having knee surgery next week, so this time I am probably not going to be as proactive between taking care of him and a toddler, but I will do my best to have everything done by 30 weeks.

inbetween · November 2008

Dh probably won't be doing much in the nursery. My mom has been over twice already to help clean out what will become the nursery. Everything is boxed, just needs to be relocated. My mom and her bf will be painting, dh hates painting! He might be the one to put the furniture together. As far as decorating, that is all up to me! I am going to start, the second I know what gender the baby is. I say, if march is too late for you, do it yourself!

lissy05 · November 2008

My DH was the same way- all non chalant about painting, buying furniture, basically anything that had to do with the nursery. He even refused to call that room the nursery because we hadn't done anything to make it that way (even though I've spent a ton of time cleaning out)- he says it's still an office until there's a baby in it. Anyway, Halloween we went to the beach with two other couples who have young kids (18 months and 6months) and ever since then we have been on the same page! It's been great! He just needed a wake- up call Smile

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izzybella · November 2008

You need somewhere to store all the stuff from the shower! I wanted ours set up before the shower and it was SO NICE to have that done. I had a place to put everything, could put the clothes away, and everything else. Tell him to get going!

mirshy5 · November 2008

Im due in April as well, I thougiht it was crazy that my hubby wanted to paint the room 2day. we just found out it was a boy on Tues. I said we have plenty of time. He is pumped though! I guess i shoud be happy he is on top of this.

jen_and_scott · November 2008

We did the bulk of the painting today. We've got the dresser put together in the living room right now too! We're working on it early because Christmas is at our house this year, and our nephew will use the crib. DH figured that as long as he would be painting and putting together the crib, he'd go ahead and do the rest! That's why the dresser is in the living room, we're just waiting to move it in!

Good luck, I hope something lights a fire under your DH to get stuff going before March!

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