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Is this rude?

I had a shower this weekend with family and close friends (a lot of MIL's friends) and I got mainly clothing.  Being a FTM I could really use some stuff off my registry.  I know that my church is throwing a second baby shower for me sometime in the future. 

Would it be considered rude to put on the invite something along the lines of no clothing?  I have baby clothes coming out my ears and I do not need any more.  I feel like because it's twin girls that people just want to get matching outfits.

I do have a wide range of items on my registry from cheap to expensive for people to choose from so people don't have to spend a lot if they don't want to.  I just could really use more of the baby gear and "stuff" than outfits. 

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Re: Is this rude?

  • Sorry, there's no nice way to tell people how you'd like them to spend their money on you.  Sometimes people think they're doing others a favor because then their money isn't wasted.  This is a noble thought, but ultimately still not polite.

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  • you will get clothing regaurdless

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  • I agree there is no nice way to mention this.  Unless they ask you would like a themed shower (ex. diapers & bottles).
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  • As much as it'd be nice for people to get things off of your registry, it'd be extremely tacky to ask people to do so. A registry is just a guideline and people will spend their money how they choose to. While I totally get where you are coming from, I think some guests would be highly offended. The best thing you can do is hope that you get gift receipts and return where necessary to buy things off of your registry.
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  • Thanks guys.  I felt it wasn't appropriate but a friend suggested doing it.  I'm grateful for anything anyone gives me.  

    I appreciate your opinions! 

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  • We're expecting a boy and my sister has a 6 month old boy and has TONS of clothes that she has already started boxing up for us. I fully expect we'll get a lot of clothes at our shower so I just plan to return it for other stuff we need.

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  • Its very rude to tell people what gifts you will accept from them. You can not put clothes on your registry and hope but apart from that you just have to be gracious and grateful for what people give you.
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  • You buy your own registry items and thank people for what generous gifts they chose for your children.  Mention how they didn't need to get you a gift at all and you're incredibly thankful to have such kind and generous people in your life. 
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  • No way to tell guests what not to buy without it being rude.  Sorry.  If people ask you or the hostess they can be told that you have plenty of clothes.  That is a problem when people know the gender of the baby-to-be.  I got very little clothing but what I did get was gender neutral so I could use a lot of it for all of my kids.
  • I am not and etiquette master by any means, but I'd use word of mouth. Casually mention to someone in your church involved with the shower that you've already received so many clothes there's no way your LO could possibly wear them all. Hopefully that person will take the hint and spread the word. It's not full proof, but that way tou're just making a comment and allowing someone else to decide whatever to take it from there. 
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    I am not and etiquette master by any means, but I'd use word of mouth. Casually mention to someone in your church involved with the shower that you've already received so many clothes there's no way your LO could possibly wear them all. Hopefully that person will take the hint and spread the word. It's not full proof, but that way tou're just making a comment and allowing someone else to decide whatever to take it from there. 

    This is really the only way to do it.

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  • Just take some of the clothes back and get what you need.  We got a ton of clothes as well. I swear I can go 6 months and he will never wear the same out fit twice. I plan on going through them all and taking some back. We got mostly all the big stuff too but I would like to take them back and get things like diapers. Mainly bc I feel he is going to wear a cheap $3 onsie more often than a $15 outfit the first couple months.

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  • I got so much clothing that much of it was outgrown before she ever wore it.  I boxed up tons of clothes with tags still on them.  Unfortunately, that is just the way it is.  People like to buy baby clothes! 
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  • i'd leave that out of the invites & just return some clothing so you have more money towards the gear. although both might seem rude, at least this way its more hidden..

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  • That's a tough one... Maybe try word of mouth to get the news around that you really need more gear? Probably don't include it as a note on the invitations though. At least all of the ediquette "rules" aren't as bad as the rules for weddings!
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