buy this book and it will answer most of your questions regarding safety, features, what is really necessary vs. just "extra", and it gives recommendations for the best options in several price ranges. Covers the big stuff like cribs, furniture, strollers, car seats, high chairs, monitors, mattresses, clothing, pumps, bottles, etc. Goes over what to buy new, what is okay used, best places to shop, current safety standards, and so on.

about $11 on amazon, you can also buy versions for your kindle or nook.
also post/lurk on the Nurseries and Baby Gear board, same questions are asked over and over there so you'll quickly learn what items are the favorites of bumpie moms. Bonus: people post pictures of their nurseries for inspiration.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4236749/ShowForum.aspx
figured I'd post this since there are so many FTMs here and so many gear questions starting to pop up. Do some reading/research and you'll feel much more knowledgeable when you go to the store to register and hopefully less overwhelmed since you'll be able to easily locate the brands/products that stand above the rest.
Re: PSA: before you register/buy gear
Agreed! I used this a lot with DS. It really helped to narrow things down.
The best advice was not buying bedding. We have a breathable bumper & 2 crib sheets & that was all we used.
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
Love it! I just wish they published annually. I had a "fresh" book with DS - not so this time around.
Also, while the book is great, you still need to think about your lifestyle and needs/wants when buying. For example, I am pretty sure we are going with a car seat they give a "B" (Britax Chaperone). They give it that rating because of its size, but it will fit in our car and I like it so much more than the Graco Snugride, which is what we had with DS.
We love you baby - m/c - 09/10/2011
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
Thanks for posting this!
We aren't going to buy bedding either, my SIL suggested jersey knit fitted sheets from Target that match the nursery colors. I plan on buying a bumper set on etsy or something so I don't have to buy the whole nursery set.
Are they still saying that you should use bumpers in a crib? Everyone I know has them in their LO's crib.
They say you SHOULDN'T use them...for multiple reasons, but the big one being that they restrict airflow. You can get a breathable bumper, it's like a soft mesh, and it will keep the baby from getting arms and legs stuck between the slats of the crib.
They advise against them for older babies, because once a baby can stand, they can use the bumper to stand on then launch themselves out of the crib.
yeah there is really no reason to use bumpers. They restrict airflow which increases the SIDS risk, and can be a suffocation risk as well if baby were to get pressed up against them.
Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
Agreed! Love this book!
I bought this when we first found out, and read it from front to back.
Baby Girl Lennon born sleeping 6-18-11 Baby Boy Anderson born healthy and happy 8-17-12
We love you baby - m/c - 09/10/2011