SD's first sleepover

A friend of ours has 2 SDs (12 and 9) and a 4mo son. She and her DH have not had a night alone since the baby was born, so we babysat the girls on Friday night and her mother sat for the baby. This was my SD's first real sleepover. And having four kids all extremely differently aged in the house that night was actually not that bad. They all pretty much entertained themselves. I only had to intervene a couple of times Friday night, and they all went to bed without any problems.

The only big problem we had was on Saturday while my DS was napping and the girls were all outside playing. SD normally takes a nap, but since the older girls were spending the night, I just made them all chill out and watch a movie before they went outside to play. They laid down and rested for about and hour and a half. But SD was still a brat from not having a nap.

While they were outside, the wind blew their ball away, and even though they got it back in less than 2 minutes, SD still went off on the other girls and whined and cried and yelled. The 9yo told her she was being a mean friend and that they were not going to come back to play with her if she was going to act like that. None of them knew I was watching the whole thing through the window and could hear everything said.

 I went outside and when SD started whining to me, I told her if she was going to act like a 2yo she could come in and take a nap like her 2yo brother. So she came in and had to lay down alone for 5 minutes, and then I talked to her.

All in all, we have had the conversation about her bossiness and meanness to other kids several times in the last week because at school her "friends" are calling her a bully, not because she beats anyone up but because she "picks" a best friend for the day to play with her and only her in front of a large group of classmates. Up until this point, I don't think she was understanding why the things she was doing and saying were hurting her classmates' feelings. But I think this sleepover finally opened her eyes. She ran to apologize to the older girls and was crying the whole time saying, "Please forgive me."

Everything was instantly better, and they had forgotten about her attitude before she even apologized, but I was glad to see SD's reaction to realizing how badly she had hurt their feelings and why they were upset with her.