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Slight MIL annoyance

meghansolomeghansolo
in January 2012 Moms

I've been leaving DS with my mother for a few hours each week to spend time with DH and I think it will help me when I return to work.

He will spend one afternoon with MIL, one full day with my mom, and 2.5 at an in-home daycare. DH called to ensure that MIL was good with the schedule, and she asked him if I was going to go over on my lunch breaks to the daycare so that I can make sure to bond with the baby. The attitude I got from my husband was that DS may think of the daycare person as mom if I don't.

Thoughts?

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Re: Slight MIL annoyance

  • namara5532namara5532 member
    I don't think your LO will think of the daycare person as his mother.  Sure, it's reasonable to expect he'll form some kind of bond with the person watching him, but I don't think it'll lesson your relationship with him if you can't see him every day at lunch.
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    imagenamara5532:
    I don't think your LO will think of the daycare person as his mother.  Sure, it's reasonable to expect he'll form some kind of bond with the person watching him, but I don't think it'll lesson your relationship with him if you can't see him every day at lunch.

    ditto. I mean, how many of us were in daycare from 5 or 6 weeks (both my brother and I were in daycare that young) and yet how many of us think of our daycare provider as mom, whether then or now? Besides, what is one 30 minute break really going to mean in the scheme of things? It will be more for your own benefit/comfort than for LO's.

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  • megaloo27megaloo27
    They will bond, but no one replaces mom and dad! I loved the babies where I worked but you could tell the bond with their mom was special. 
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  • jnk062602jnk062602
    I agree with pp - you will have a great bond regardless of visiting at lunch time.  And as he gets older, I think it would actually be quite disruptive and upsetting for him to have you pop in and out in the middle of the day.
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  • meghansolomeghansolo
    You ladies rock. I had to bite my tongue about saying something rude to DH - she's not close with her kids, and she was a SAHM.
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  • SoonToBeMsPSoonToBeMsP member

    My thought- that is crazy. 

    We'll be taking DD to day care 8 hours a day, 5 days a week and I am not in the least worried about that. I will mother her all I can while I am around and I know that will be enough. 

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