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So annoyed about people's "today's" Vs. "past" pregnancy thoughts

Peepp79Peepp79 member
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Just sick of people commenting on whenever you give them information about your pregnancy that we would never know back in the day. They comment and say "well, they never did this stuff/knew this stuff back then and we're ok." I understand that but this is the info I'm getting from my obgyn office. Maybe they are very careful and cautious. I feel like Ive had a lot of ultrasounds and I'm not a high risk pregnancy. Then people say that maybe they have too much information about the pregnancy. Well. I should hope so. I may have to have a csection bc of a low lying placenta. Someone mentioned that they wouldn't have known that back then and would be ready for anything in L&D? But in my mind, I would be glad to know that and to know if I'm having a csection or not instead of having a horrible traumatic birth story...going into labor and then having to do an emergency csection or bleeding out. Wtf. They think having more information worries you more though. Sorry about thenlong rant. What are your thoughts?

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Re: So annoyed about people's "today's" Vs. "past" pregnancy thoughts

  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    That kind of stuff does get annoying.  I mean sure, 100's, 1,000's of years ago people were working in fields or whatever while pregnant, and they were 'fine'.  But there are so many other factors, like longer life expectancy, people average being older when having babies, more chemicals in the environment, that kind of thing.

    Thank heaven for the wonders of amazing medical science.  

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    Oh yeah, that is so annoying.  I feel the same way about people saying, "Well, I did it and my kid turned out fine" in regards to diet during pregnancy, bumpers, etc.  Not just older people, but peers.  Listen, if my father the doctor, my obgyn and Dr. Google all say not to eat deli meat that hasn't been heated, then I am not doing it.  And just because your kid didn't die of SIDS does not mean that the bumpers are safe for everyone, all of the time. 
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  • TinyPinkBugTinyPinkBug member
    The bad news, it gets worse after the baby is born!  When I had my first I stopped answering my phone and letting ppl visit because I was so sick of hearing it all.  My all time favorite was the numerous old ppl telling me my 4 day old cried so much bacause he was spoiled and hungry.  I needed to feed him formula with cereal and a jar of purees then put him in his crib to cry himself to sleep!  Just remembering back makes me tense and want to scream!  Good news is I didn't hear nearly as much during with my second.
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  • KD+BCKD+BC member

    Whenever people say something dumb like that, I point out how high infant mortality rates used to be. My great-great-grandmother gave birth to 14 children and only 6 lived past the age of 5. If they say, "my mom did ____ and I survived!" I say, "yeah, and a lot of babies didn't. I want mine to."

    That usually shuts people up. 

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    Whenever people say something dumb like that, I point out how high infant mortality rates used to be. My great-great-grandmother gave birth to 14 children and only 6 lived past the age of 5. If they say, "my mom did ____ and I survived!" I say, "yeah, and a lot of babies didn't. I want mine to."

    That usually shuts people up. 

     

    Yep, DH and I usually reply with "And a lot of babies used to die back then too..." 

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  • preggersin2011preggersin2011 member
    Different doctors have different opinions too. There are some that hand you a giant list of things not to eat or do, and others that only say "dont eat raw meat". My OB only did an ultra sound at 20 weeks and one at 30weeks. My friend who also had a regular pregnancy and delivery had an ultra sound at every appointment. When I was at a wedding drinking wine and eating sushi  months pregnant I told people to mind their own business and my OB is okay with that. I would suggest telling people this is how your doctor wants to handle it, and since they aren't delivering your child you are going to follow your doctors advice. 
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