Being Team Green is bothering OTHER people!

worldispurple · February 2012

So we're going team green. Co-workers are constantly asking me if I gave in and found out the gender yet. No. I haven't. But I expected something like that when we made the decision not to find out.

But what annoyed me was someone asked me (again) if we found out the gender. I told her no, we're not planning on finding out. Then she gave me this slightly annoyed look and said "well, what am I supposed to get you for your shower? Maybe you should have your shower after the baby is born so people will know what to get you."

Ummm.. I have a couple registries set up. You can get me (well, baby) something from there. If everything on the list is too costly for you, or you don't want to get me anything from the list, you can give us a gift card or something you find to be gender neutral. Or you don't have to get us anything at all.

I was just annoyed but how some people don't think they can help us celebrate the arrival of our baby without knowing the gender. I'm sorry, but as cute and necessary baby clothes are, I don't want to go home with only clothes. How did people do this just 20 or so years ago when finding out the gender wasn't an option?!

Thanks for letting me vent.

mandalinn25 · February 2012

Yeah people are so weird about that. It happens even to those of us who find out too. I get the whole "ruining the surprise" etc spiel. I don't understand why people care so much about what others choose to do or not do. When you are carrying the kid, you can decide. Lol.

LaurenCase89 · February 2012

I have a couple friends who keep bugging me about this, I finally told one of them that the only thing it REALLY affects them buying is clothes. They can buy bottles, diapers, wipes, burp cloths, etc without knowing the sex.

NYCproposal08 · February 2012

I've already had several comments similar to these. Our ultrasound is on Monday and everyone is like, "oh, you will cave and find out the sex!" Umm, no we won't. I just laugh it off.

brennarobbie · February 2012

We are not team green, but I totally respect where you're coming from.

I have found that with things like facebook, twitter, plus the fact that we can find out we're pregnant at 3 weeks...all of this is changing the face of pregnancy. It's like everyone expects to be kept "in the know," ya know? We are so in each other's business it seems like we have less and less personal business that is actually personal (I am totally guilty of this, by the way...I get caught up in it sometimes).

That's why I love that lots of people are still choosing to be team green...it's one of the only secrets in life that can actually be a secret! ;o)

This girl probably just doesn't understand where you're coming from with being team green. I would just smile and say something like "thank you for asking...I'll make sure I let you know if it's a he or she as soon as WE find out" or "I know it's hard, but I appreciate you helping support us in waiting for our special surprise."

Good luck with this. I know it's hard and uncomfortable to have people down your throat! Thinking of you! )

SallySunrise · February 2012

We were team green with DS and got sooooo much of that too! It amazes me how much people care. After a while I just found it downright amusing, and that actually helped me enjoy the experience even more. When people would make comments like that I'd just look at them like they were a moron and say "bottles? diapers? sheets, towels, hangers, rattles, books, safety gear... oklahoma state onesies?" shooting off a long list and acting like they were crazy for not knowing that the majority of what a new mom needs has nothing to do with the sex of the baby usually made them feel stupid for asking, and shut them up pretty quick! Slightly rude on my part, but really, come on people! It's not your baby, not your choice!

bluemommy · February 2012

brennarobbie:

That's why I love that lots of people are still choosing to be team green...it's one of the only secrets in life that can actually be a secret! ;o)

This girl probably just doesn't understand where you're coming from with being team green. I would just smile and say something like "thank you for asking...I'll make sure I let you know if it's a he or she as soon as WE find out" or "I know it's hard, but I appreciate you helping support us in waiting for our special surprise."

Good luck with this. I know it's hard and uncomfortable to have people down your throat! Thinking of you! )

Well said.

brennarobbie · February 2012

SallySunrise:
We were team green with DS and got sooooo much of that too! It amazes me how much people care. After a while I just found it downright amusing, and that actually helped me enjoy the experience even more. When people would make comments like that I'd just look at them like they were a moron and say "bottles? diapers? sheets, towels, hangers, rattles, books, safety gear... oklahoma state onesies?" shooting off a long list and acting like they were crazy for not knowing that the majority of what a new mom needs has nothing to do with the sex of the baby usually made them feel stupid for asking, and shut them up pretty quick! Slightly rude on my part, but really, come on people! It's not your baby, not your choice!

You crack me up, girl! ) I can definitely see me doing this... someone asks "what am I going to get you?" And matter of factly replying..."baby stuff?" ;o)

I know I've posted it before after someone else shared, but that Pregnant Chicken blog with the "10 Things to Never Say to a Pregnant Women" has helped me smile away so many rude comments! )

Keep smiling, ladies! We're all doing a wonderful job of keeping our babies happy, healthy, and loved! )

packfan20 · February 2012

Also Team Green here and we've had people get mad at us for not finding out. Excuse me? Are you carrying my child? No.

I love the "How can you not know? That would just kill me." Well, then go ahead and die and then you'll never find out.

It's just another thing that people are very opinionated about. Stay strong, Team Green! Smile

worldispurple · February 2012

You guys are so AWESOME! Thanks!

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one dealing with this; and that even if we did find out, we'll still get hassle from someone!

Danaz1 · February 2012

not finding out with DD was the best decision I made. It was so excited to find out then and there. We don't have showers so that was not an issue. just ignore studpid people

SallySunrise · February 2012

packfan20:
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I love the "How can you not know? That would just kill me." Well, then go ahead and die and then you'll never find out.

LMAO!

Piper2009 · February 2012

SallySunrise:
packfan20:
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I love the "How can you not know? That would just kill me." Well, then go ahead and die and then you'll never find out.

LMAO!

This made me laugh!!!

CopsGirl11103 · February 2012

Yeah that's why we decided to just find out. It wasn't worth all the drama and stress, plus the pressure from everyone else.

Switzerland87 · February 2012

brennarobbie:
We are not team green, but I totally respect where you're coming from.
I have found that with things like facebook, twitter, plus the fact that we can find out we're pregnant at 3 weeks...all of this is changing the face of pregnancy. It's like everyone expects to be kept "in the know," ya know? We are so in each other's business it seems like we have less and less personal business that is actually personal

I completely agree with this. People feel like they have a right to know what's going on in everyone else's pregnancy. We're not team green but, with my twins, I've been getting the, "Are they natural?" question. I think people forget that pregnancy is a very personal experience, and they really don't need to be asking for all the intimate details.

TheFutureMrsH2012 · February 2012

Hubby and I are team green as well, but so far we haven't received any negative comments about it (I say again, "so far..."). I've never understood why people get so bugged by not knowing what you're having. It's not their baby, so they have no reason to get frustrated or b!tch about anything. Ohh, you can't buy boy/girl onesies for the baby shower? How about one of the MILLION other things I registered for, like bottles and Nuks and the Nuk clips, or burp cloths, diapers, bath stuff?? Or, how about just buy nothing at all if it frustrates you so badly, and go on your merry way?

MetsGirl18 · February 2012

People were pretty supportive last time. The only one who is really bothering me now about being Team Green is my mom. Regardless of what we have, we will need summer clothes/onesies because DS was a December baby. My mom is having hip surgery soon and wants to buy things before that. While it may make things convenient for her, I'm not giving up that delivery room moment because she wants to be prepared with baby clothes. I don't even care what the baby wears at the beginning anyway. I'm sure we'll get plenty of clothes once people find out what we had.

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