How did you find out you miscarried?

LoveThatBeachBaby · February 2012

Sorry I am asking tough questions tonight but I am in the mood to talk about my feelings tonight.

We did IVF so I had an early ultrasound at 5 weeks, 5 days and they only saw the gestational sac and told me it just might be too early. I went back the next week and they still only saw the gestational sac at almost 7 weeks. I knew as soon as the empty sac came up on the screen that it was over.

So how did you find out?

Albah · February 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. Similarly, we had an ultrasound showing 6 week gestational sac + yolk sac and no fetal tone. 1 week later the sac grew to only 6.5 weeks and still no fetal tone. A third ultrasound 5 days later showed same size sac and a smaller yolk sac and no fetal tone. My HCG's were going up but not doubling this whole time.

SchruteBucks · February 2012

I went to bed on Monday night with about 5 different pregnancy symptoms. Woke up on Valentine's Day with all symptoms gone and spotting. My midwife said the spotting could be nothing, but I knew with the pregnancy symptoms gone it wasn't going to end well. I took a test on Thursday night and knew it would be negative and it was. Woke up Friday to cramping and bleeding.

Laurakat81 · February 2012

Ultrasound showed a baby with no heartbeat the first time after previously seeing a normal u/s. I started spotting with my second and went in for an ultrasound right away. I once again saw my lifeless baby. With my 3rd, it was ectopic, I found out through horrible cramping when my tube ruptured. Ultrasound confirmed it too. Needless to say, ultrasounds are a HUGE source of anxiety for me.

kpowers982 · February 2012

My doctor had been "preparing" me for a few weeks, but was still cautiously optimistic that things would turn out okay. At my first ultrasound at 4w6d there was a gestational sac but no yolk sac. At 6w there was a yolk sac but no fetal pole. At 7w1d there was a pole with a HB but it was measuring behind 6 days. At 8w6d there was no longer a pole or HB and the sac measured only 7w2d...so everything had been confirmed with ultrasounds; I didn't have any cramping or bleeding and still havent as of yet.

muriel & eder · February 2012

I been spotting brown for a couple of weeks, but on Sunday morning, I started bleeding and went to the bathroom. I knew I miscarried because I felt something big coming out, I got really scared, I just knew something was wrong. I looked at the toilet and there was my baby, still in the sac. It was the most horrible feeling ever

Edit: I had no cramping and I had read that brown spotting can be normal, but I never had that on my first pregnancy. So technically, NO idea.

mhubbar5 · February 2012

I had no idea anything was wrong. I went to my first OB appointment at 10 weeks. They checked me and said my uterus was measuring fine and everything looked good. Then they did an ultrasound.

Baby was measuring 7.5 weeks with no heartbeat. I got lucky that my OB does an ultrasound with every first OB visit. Otherwise i would have had no clue my baby had died over two weeks before that. I waited a week to see if things would start naturally, and it didn't so i ended up taking cytotec. It would have been horrible to not have gotten an ultrasound and kept thinking i was pregnant for who knows how long before my body realized what was going on.

JuddandJessica · February 2012

Despite my bleeding, doctors had told me everything was probably fine and I had very little to worry about. I had three ultrasounds in four days and each showed a perfectly healthy baby with the same strong heartbeat it had had for three weeks. Despite the blood and cramps, I was told baby was perfect. I had no idea my baby was dead until I went to the bathroom at work and found myself holding my baby and a placenta in my hands.

jonesdouglas · February 2012

I.Had.No.Symptoms.

The only reason I found out so soon (because my next appointment wasnt until my 1st second trimester appt) was because I had a "gut" feeling and demanded an ultrasound-there was where I was told little bean had no heartbeat. My Dr. was in complete shock...My HCG's more than doubled and I had no spotting nor cramping.

It was such a shock.

skreedrake · February 2012

Sorry for the novel, but...

In hindsight, I think I should have know something was wrong from the beginning. FF says I O'd on CD21, but I think it was more like CD18. I went in for an u/s at 5w4d or so due to some spotting issues and there was a gestational sac, yolk sac, and a hint of a fetal pole. That was about where I thought I should be.

The doctor had me come in a week later to make sure there was progress, and I was measuring 6w3d with a hb, which was 3 days behind what FF thought I was and about 6 days if I was correct that I O'd on CD18. I didn't think much of it, as we'd seen the heartbeat and I thought I was wrong that I'd O'd on CD18.

We then went in for our first official appointment and I was measuring 7w2d, which was a day behind the first measurement (at this point, I was measuring 4 days behind FF and 7 days behind my estimate). Again, I didn't think much of it because we saw a hb at this appointment as well.

However, between 10-11 weeks, I started having more brown mucus/spotting. The OB had told me not to panic unless I was having more spotting than I had before. It was barely anything, and only when I wiped, so I let it go for a week and a half. Finally, I called the OB because it wasn't going away, and she had me come in.

That appointment showed no hb and baby was measuring at only 8 weeks. My baby had died shortly after the first official appointment, and my body was just barely figuring it out at almost 12 weeks. Sometimes I wonder how long it would have gone on had I not called the OB about the very, very light brown spotting. I had no cramps, but thinking back, the few symptoms I had were all but gone (my breasts weren't nearly as sore, and I'd never had any nausea). My D&C was scheduled for that evening.

holly321 · February 2012

I went in for my regular monthly appointment. My ob said tried to find the h/b on doppler but couldn't. I didn't really freak out then, he said there was a good chance everything was okay. He said I could wait to come to his office on Monday for a sonogram, since we were at a satelite office. Or I could go to a radiology place right then. I choose to go right then. The u/s tech did an u/s, but wouldn't let me see it. She said the radiologist would be in to see me. Then said no, he wouldn't told me to sit in the waiting room. Then they told me to go ahead and leave. 5 minutes later, my OB calls. He asked if I was alone. Then asked if I knew. My response was, no one will tell me, but I am not stupid. He gave condolensces, then gave me my options.

misstrish521 · February 2012

I woke up in extreme pain, so bad that I couldn't stand. MH took me to the ER where they told me what was going on.

misternmiss · February 2012

I had my first Dr appt. on Valentines day, but was told I probably wouldn't have an u/s until much later. (20weeks) All my life, I had this feeling I couldn't have my own children, and then being pg, I was just so paramour. So the weekend before my appt, I faked some back pain and light cramping, hoping Id raise that red flag and maybe get a u/s sooner. Bad move. I jinxedmyself. They ran my betas, 7,400 on Friday, 8,400 on Sunday. It didn't look good. So on Valentines day, I got the u/s that I had once wanted, with the results I did not want. Baby was measuring 2 weeks behind. His/her little heart had stopped, and I felt mine break into a million tiny pieces. The radiologist said there was a very slight chance I was off on my dates and baby was to small yet to see a hb. So we waited a week to do another u/s. Before my second u/s, I began to cramp and bleed. First actual symptoms of m/c. I still went through with the u/s just to see, but it only confirmed that my baby was gone. I had a D&C today and am slowly coming to terms with saying goodbye to my first child. I hope my lifelong worry of not having my own children is just a silly fear and nothing more.You know what? It felt really good sharing my story. Thanks, OP.for giving me the chance. And thanks to all the amazingly strong women on this board for helping me through the toughest moments of my life. Without you, and DH, I don't think I could've done it.

nchernandez · February 2012

We went for an ultrasound, expecting to see a 9 week jellybean with a little blinky heart. One minute, my DH was holding my DD, pointing to the screen and asking her if she wanted to see her baby brother or sister. Then the tech asked, "have you been to the birth center yet?" No. "have you had blood work done?" No. "well I see a sac but there's no baby." I have no idea if she said anything after that. We were in the elevator probably 3 minutes later. I had no symptoms of any problems.

Mrs Dougherty · February 2012

i had a feeling something wasnt right from the start but we wentin when i was suppose to be 8 weeks and i saw the baby with heartbeat but only measring 7wks. literaly right after the ultrasound started having brown and light pink spotting so i called the ob the next day and they said it was normal just take it easy and if it changes to red to call again well it changed to red but still asnt much only when i wiped they said it was prolly normal but if it becomes alot to go to the ER. that night i passed alot of blood and clots and what turned out tot be the baby so i went to the ER with my husband and they sent in the pregnant doctor who was rude and wouldnt do an ultrasound. she said their wasnt much bleeding to just go to my ob in the morning which i did and found out we had lost our baby the day after seeing the heartbeat. so sorry to all you other ladies for your losses this board is a godsend tho!

allie76 · February 2012

We found out at the 2nd u/s with the RE. I should have been 8w1d, but the baby was measuring 6w5d. We saw a heartbeat at the first u/s, but not at the 2nd one.

I had no miscarriage symptoms and still had pregnancy symptoms. I will say I had a bad feeling one day last week though. I brushed it off, determining to stay positive.

MWoodside · February 2012

i went to my routine 2nd ob appt at 13w4d. at the end of the appt she was using the dopplar and couldnt find the hb. i still thought everything was fine and so did she. she brought in a bedside, tiny u/s machine but didnt really know how to use it proficiently. i started to worry a lot bc i saw the perfectly formed baby but it wasnt moving. she kept telling me not to worry (which was ridiculous at that point) and she was going to have the in office u/s tech do one bc she had much better technology.

when that u/s was happening i knew what she would find but i was in disbelief. i never even looked at her face bc i didnt want to see the look in her eye. i just stared at the screen hoping to see my baby move or the heartbeat flicker. about ten min of looking, measuring, etc went on. then she touched my arm and softly said "im so sorry. i dont find a heartbeat". i asked if she was sure and she looked more. i asked if the baby was measuring right and she said it was smaller than it should be. i cried.

i was shocked. we had two prior u/s that went great and the hb was easily found on dopplar at 9w5d appt. i had no spotting, cramping. i was super sick and my hcg levels were literally off the chart high. i had even felt baby moving starting about a week and a half prior, not daily, but several times.

FreyaWin2382 · February 2012

I am sorry for your loss.

Both of my m/c were found by ultrasound....no other symptoms that anything was wrong.

With the first loss, we went in for our first u/s at 9wk5d and found a missed m/c; baby had stopped growing about a week prior.

With the second, I had pushed for an early ultrasound (just because I was so worried d/t our loss in October). Went in for an u/s at 7wk2d and all they found was an empty sac. They made me wait ten days (which was heck...) to re-u/s and confirm the blighted ovum.

cleo570 · February 2012

I had not yet gone for my initial OB appt, but thought it wasn't right from about week 6-7ish, since I didn't have any of the symptoms I had with my first PG (nausea, etc.) and my initial issues seemed to be stable or lessening (breast tenderness, mostly...) so when I had worsening cramping throughout the day around week 8, I just had a bad feeling... and as the cramps worsened, waking me in the middle of the night, I knew it was not good...neither tylenol nor advil helped...And then I passed the sac about 2 hours after the severe cramps started. And then the cramps pretty much stopped about an hour later. Called my OB in the morning, and she agreed with me that it was a m/c. I guess it wasn't a surprise just because I was already thinking things weren't going right for about a week.

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