We have a 3 1/2 yr old lil boy (he will be 4 in June). my concerns are that DC/pre-School seems to send home behavioral reports weekly. I am getting so frustrated & emotional about it. I have called them and stress to them if he is not putting his hands on another child, cursing (not that he would) or fighting then we should not be bothered with the, oh he did not want to go in time out, jump off the table, playing with the water in the toilet,etc etc. I feel that as a teacher or teacher's assistant you should have some control over your class. So they told us about a month ago that the teacher was not as "seasoned" and would be switching teachers. So the reports stopped for a while. But now have started back up, especially this week he have 4 behavioral reports. 2 in 1 day. Like come on. I am no-way saying my lil boys is a angel. He does play aggressively & falls out a lot. We are trying to get a handle on it. But some of his behaviors I think is toddler related. My DH thinks I am overreacting and leave well enough alone. I feel if you going to send home a behavioral report of negative things, you should send home some type of report re his positave days. I get some emotional sometimes, because I feel like they are picking on my baby (I know he is not)! lolol. Just wanted to see if anyone else is experiencing this and how you go about handling it.
I must say when he does get a behavioral report from school we speak to him about it and he will admit to not being a good listener that day, etc, etc. Sorry for the long story, I can some what breath now......
Re: Should I be concerned?!?!!? Long
Definitely have a conference, and definitely make sure the director is there. Sending home a piece of paper isn't addressing a problem. If there is a problem it needs to be addressed. If not, they need to leave it alone. If it's as serious as they're making it out to be, they need to come up with a behavior modification plan- i.e. reward system for good behavior, redirection cues, etc. You're right it is their job. If you son is causing problems they feel are above their job description, they need to communicate that to you and work with you to come up with a solution.
I've had issues with DD's preschool teacher putting her in time out daily. It didn't get better until I met with the director. What had happened is he (her teacher) had reprimanded her so much that her default behavior was to make wrong choices. She just knew that she was the bad kid, and didn't want to go to school anymore. First of all, I'm a teacher. There is nothing more heartbreaking than seeing a kid not want to go to school, especially our own. Second of all, we pay a ton of money for Montessori school because I want a specific environment. If they aren't willing to provide a nurturing Montessori environment, I don't see why I should continue paying them for one.
Hang in there. I know how hard it is. I did a lot of crying before things started to get better. Honestly, they didn't get better until after winter break when my 3 year old DD decided to stop making bad choices at school. Good for her, pathetic that her 65 year old teacher didn't rise to the occasion.
Thanks for your advice!!
what is the school's policy on behavior reports?
i know that with my school, we don't send anything home unless another kid was hurt (as in bruised or bleeding)
as the teacher, if it's not a problem i can't fix, in the classroom (with time out), right away, i don't see it as a problem
talk to the director, see what they have to say