Any advice for dealing with the baby blues?

busterbeagle · February 2012

I'm hoping that I start feeling better within the next few days, but I am definitely dealing with a case of the baby blues. I feel normal most of the time, but have been weepy two nights since bringing DD home because I miss the way things used to be. Mostly I miss being pregnant and my relationship with my dog (even if that sounds silly). I just want to be able to cuddle him like I used to but I feel like DD needs me too much.

It is normal to feel like this and once my hormones settle, I will start to feel better, right? If you went through the baby blues, how long did it last and how did you get through it? Thanks in advance!

vflipo · February 2012

If it lasts more than a few weeks definitely don't hesitate to talk to your OB! It's definitely normal to have them at first. The best thing you can do is have a good support system.

TeacherVicky · February 2012

vflipo:
If it lasts more than a few weeks definitely don't hesitate to talk to your OB! It's definitely normal to have them at first. The best thing you can do is have a good support system.

All of this.

I had them, bad. I would be fine one moment and crying the next. I couldn't control the tears. They lasted a few weeks for me.

I hope you feel better soon.

Izabella22 · February 2012

I still have the weepies now and then but I had them pretty bad the first 3 weeks. It definitely gets better over time but certainly if it lasts more than a few weeks talk to your doctor. Hope you feel better soon!

Luvmybella · February 2012

If it makes you feel any better i feel the same. Miss being pregnant and feel like I'm neglecting Bella. The nurses and OBs at the hospital did I good job warning me this phase is normal and should only last 2 or 3 weeks. So I have no advice other then to let you know we're experiencing the same thing. ((hug))

nikileebaugh · February 2012

rachael said it! i wanted to quote her, but apparently the bump didn't want me to.

i don't have any advice, but i want to offer some hugs. i don't have the weepies persay, but i relate to the other things you are talking about.

Jace is 4 weeks old and i'm still having a really hard time with things. Jace has colic, and its not making things any better. i'm going to have to talk to my doctor tomorrow, because i find myself resenting my baby and my husband.

we'll get through it! big, huge, gigantic HUGS!!!

karma79 · February 2012

I had them for the few weeks, probably about 3 weeks. It's totally normal so first off don't feel bad for having them. But if they do continue past a few weeks then let your OB know. This is all very overwhelming and it will get better. Big hug. I hope you feel better soon, I know it's hard.

busterbeagle · February 2012

Thanks, everyone. It makes me feel a lot better to know that what I'm feeling is normal and common, especially about the dog. It just feels so strange to finally have what I've been wanting and not feel perfectly happy all the time.

Muffinhb · February 2012

It was pretty bad to start off I bawled over everything! Now at 6 weeks pp I still cry a little over sad things. It does get better promise.

ellebelle2384 · February 2012

Basically what everyone else said. And I feel the same way about my dog too! You're not alone.

jertie · February 2012

First, congratulations on your little girl - she's beautiful!

Second - I thought I was the only one that was sad not to be pregnant anymore! I felt ridiculous for feeling that way and I never told anyone. I delivered 3 weeks early and I felt absolutely cheated that I didn't get to be be pregnant those last weeks. The resentment lasted about a month. Even now I also miss being able to hang out with our dog. DH is the one that takes care of her now - and usually all she gets from me these days is a pat in the morning and a scratch at night - it completely sucks. One thing that really messed with my emotions was the lack of sleep. I was only getting one or two hours of sleep at a stretch and that's not good. It will get better, but if it doesn't, talk with your OB - and be completely honest about how you're feeling. On the second week home my Mom called to see how things were going and after a couple of "I'm fine. Things are great!" she asked how I was really doing and I bawled like a baby. She and my sis started tag team calling me a couple times a week to make sure that I was okay - and just knowing that people cared really helped a lot. Another HUGE thing was connecting on the bump - I can't begin to tell you how great it was to know that I wasn't alone. A lot of women here are stunned by how difficult the transition is - and the guilt that goes along with longing for your previous life after being PgAL is an even heavier burden. So you really do have us to lean on if you need to vent, just cry on our shoulders, okay! ((BIG HUGS))

pottermommy · February 2012

It is so normal. Your hormones are crazy and you are super sleep deprived and stressed about breast feeding and caring for this screaming little stranger in your arms. And it is more than ok to miss your dog.

Someone posted a link to a website yesterday that was geared towards new mommies, it is awesome!

Like PP said if it lasts more than 3 weeks talk to your dr. But right now try to get some rest and if the baby isn't hungry and can be atteded to by daddy take yourself a nap and hug your doggy.

pottermommy · February 2012

This is the site one of our wonderful ladies posted. I read all the way through it and it really did make sence.

Big Hugs I am so happy you are on this side of things with us!

https://www.thefussybabysite.com/blog/the-ugly-truth-breaking-the-mom-code/

tew213 · February 2012

I definitely had the baby blues until about 3w PP. I missed being pregnant too. I freaked about what the h3ll we got oursleves into and that things would never be the same. I was laso battling a fever and residual high BP so I was feeling horrible. When my mom left from staying with us I felt so alone (even thought DH was helping so much). I felt so guilty for these feelings.

What helped me: Being alone with DD - getting to know her and falling even more in love with her. Time - it really is a hormonal thing and things get better with time. Things became less overwhelming and I was able to enjoy her so much more!

But if it lasts - definitely seek out help. But know your definitely not alone (as you can see from this thread!)

busterbeagle · February 2012

pottermommy:
This is the site one of our wonderful ladies posted. I read all the way through it and it really did make sence.

Big Hugs I am so happy you are on this side of things with us!

https://www.thefussybabysite.com/blog/the-ugly-truth-breaking-the-mom-code/

Thanks for sharing, I really appreciate the honesty in that article!

Junebug060609 · February 2012

I didn't have baby blues, but I wanted to let you know that having days when you feel down, overwhelmed, missing the way things used to be, etc is pretty normal. Happened for me, right down to the dog issue. You aren't a bad mother or bad person for having those moments. Hell, I had one just this past weekend. Motherhood, no matter how much we may have pined for it, is overwhelming at times. Add to that the hormone fluctuations and sleep deprivation you're dealing with now...and yeah...tears are pretty common. Keep an eye on them and be honest with yourself, your SO, and your doctor if you need help.

In the meantime, I really liked this article. I'm not Catholic (its on a Catholic register), but I love how she spoke of the adjustment to becoming a mother.

https://www.ncregister.com/blog/simcha-fisher/to-the-mother-with-only-one-child

hopeandlove0417 · February 2012

Hang in there, it does get better *hugs* Our bodies have been through sooooo much. Its completely normal to feel what you are feeling. I have three dogs who are my babies...and at first it was a little hard to see them sad (i was unable to give them as much attention as i used too). But they have been able to adjust well and they still cuddle next to me when i nurse in bed or on the couch. We have been through a lot both physically and emotionally...it just takes a little time to heal.

Like PP said, make sure you have a good support system and that your DH listens to you. My DH gives me a foot massage at night...its funny how something so small can make me feel a bit better.

MrsAtch · February 2012

I struggle still to have dog time. I was never really weepy at first but probably 3 months pp I hit a wall and cried for a few days in a row. The exhaustion and stress finally caught up with me. I haven't figured out how to manage it all yet.

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