Is anyone else sooo worried about having a miscarriage?

prielipp0402 · February 2012

I just can not help but to be terrified of a miscarriage! Every time I go to the bathroom I dread of seeing blood! I am just so excited about the baby and I want this very bad

Rachelilly23 · February 2012

I check every time I go to the bathroom, and after sex too. I'm kind of obsessive like that though. I'm pretty sure I checked each time during my 1st pregnancy too

panacea05 · February 2012

Enjoy your pregnancy! Don't ruin it by being afraid of something you have no control over.

CNYBride05 · February 2012

Me! All the time :-( And trying to not think about it doesn't make it go away either! I think it's pretty normal, but I know it's also not healthy for me or the developing fetus.

Thinking sticky baby thoughts!

MrsMDem · February 2012

Yes, I can't help but check when I go to the bathroom too. It's a habit and a bit of paranoia. I try not to stress about it. Worrying will not change the outcome of this pregnancy. I try to remind myself of that.

jdowns85 · February 2012

Rachelilly23:
I check every time I go to the bathroom, and after sex too. I'm kind of obsessive like that though. I'm pretty sure I checked each time during my 1st pregnancy too

This! Except this is my first.

irish city girl · February 2012

I feel the same way. I definitely freak out about every little thing and am worried about miscarriage, too. I think it's pretty normal.

mari520 · February 2012

Yup. I'm pretty sure that's normal though. Trying not to think about it. I think I've been traumatized by stories I've heard from others. Glad I'm not alone : )

MamaWino · February 2012

Yep. I'm terrified. I'm driving my poor husband crazy... I need to start listening to him (and my mother) and calm the eff down and quit worrying so much. It gets a little easier each day.

MAbride0808 · February 2012

I'm petrified! I also check for blood constantly and I analyze every little symptom. I just don't feel "pregnant" enough and I just think it's going to fall through.

trishbodman · February 2012

I will be 6 weeks tomorrow (this is our first!) and not gonna lie, from the day we found out I've been worried about it too - same as ya'll, checking when I go to the bathroom, analyzing my symptoms, etc. I think my worry comes from having a few friends who have gone through miscarriages. I was thinking about just that today, and then started thinking about all my friends and family members who have had healthy pregnancies from the start - and I realized healthy pregnancies are more common than miscarriages...so to focus on that and live with joy and hope!

Delphianraven · February 2012

Oh yea. Especially since the miscarriage in November. I'm hyper sensitive to everything I think. It's really hard to let go.

dixneuf · February 2012

I am and I have had one.

I will say this though. I am grateful for what I went through. I went through it and it sucked and I am now a LOT more relaxed. My greatest fear around pregnancy happened and I got through it. This time I actually feel better (as in being pregnant just FEEL better, the first time was super intense but I had no reference, now I know something was off) and I know that if something happens I will be ok. For all I know I am in for a series of them. If nothing happens I will be even more grateful. It is so wildly out of my control that I can't go there.

In the big picture I was lucky as far as mc's go. It was early and natural. I would never ever wish it upon someone but there is something to be said (and I speak ONLY for myself) for having the thing you were most afraid of happen. I only say this as someone who has been through it and has found a silver lining. I am sure other women with different experiences will give other opinions and feelings.

If it's any consolation, I would say I "feel" less pregnant this time than I did the last and I know for a fact that this one is more viable. I had very intense night sweats before I even had a BFP and my heart was racing constantly. Each pregnancy is different.

I'm not religious but 12 step groups have a saying "let go and let god." I really cling to that. I am simply not at the helm here.

this was helpful for me to write, I hope it's helpful for you too

(I feel much the same way about my first husband leaving me when I was 27! It was awful but I am SO glad it worked out...life is so much better!)

Tmakes3 · February 2012

I was really worried until I got to see the baby and hear its heartbeat. Not that that is ANY indication of a healthy pregnancy, but it reassured me enough to keep my mind off of it.

Mrs.G123 · February 2012

I don't obsess over it, if that's what you mean. I hope we can all stop worrying soon!

MamaWino · February 2012

trishbodman:
I will be 6 weeks tomorrow (this is our first!) and not gonna lie, from the day we found out I've been worried about it too - same as ya'll, checking when I go to the bathroom, analyzing my symptoms, etc. I think my worry comes from having a few friends who have gone through miscarriages. I was thinking about just that today, and then started thinking about all my friends and family members who have had healthy pregnancies from the start - and I realized healthy pregnancies are more common than miscarriages...so to focus on that and live with joy and hope!

That is so true... I definitely need to start focusing on the positive. Although I know quite a few girls who have struggled with IF, I know five times as many who have had healthy pregnancies. Thinking about it like that helps to keep things in perspective.

dixneuf · February 2012

lean into the 90% chance that everything is ok vs. the 10% that it's not!

MarriedLady06 · February 2012

I have been struggling with this a lot lately also.... DH says to think positively & I am trying very hard to take the "let go & let God approach" because I know he only wants the best for me & and my baby & loves him/her even more than I do.... & in the end He knows what is best for us..... HTH.... hang in there, the fears, I think, are pretty normal. H& H 9 mo to you!

Manderlin923 · February 2012

I'm pretty much expecting it, unfortunately. I have just learned to live for the moment and not worry- it serves absoloutely no purpose. It's either going to happen, or it's not, and my worrying about it won't do anything but create stress for me.

hotpinkstiletto81 · February 2012

Yes everyday I think and worry about! I know a couple people that have had one, and an ectopic pregnancy so I worry about that too. But I didn't know it was this common until coming onto this site and seeing all the women thatve gone through it and having trouble concieving, just so sad. This is my first pregnancy (unexpected but very happy and excited) so I'm worrying about everything but my fiance just tells me to relax, not stress and stay positive. I've had really bad morning sickness, or all day sickness but the days I don't have it I worry and hope its still in there! And I want to start buying stuff already, like all the cute easter stuff that's out like stuffed lamb animals ect but dont wanna jinx it.

Make a pregnancy ticker

WonderPup · February 2012

I understand too. It's especially hard that sometimes early pregnancy can feel like you're about to get your period. I had a lot of cramping and even spotting early in this pregnancy. In fact I thought I had gotten my period (right on time I might add) one day a couple weeks ago. Turned out to just be spotting on the day my period was due. It stopped by the end of the day which is when I begin to suspect something else might be up

Got my BFP the next morning. Anyway, I cramped and spotted for about a week and a half and am still cramping sometimes even now. The longer I go the more confident I am becoming though. Try and take a deep breath and relax - easier said than done I KNOW!!

I've had 2 MC's in the last 9 months, both very early on. I;m taking a bit of comfort now that I am at the 6 wk mark and still no period and still a super positive pregnancy test (I tested again this morning lol). (((Hugs))) I know it can be scary but try not to let it consume every thought. Think about how fun pregnancy is going to be and how cool it will be to hold that little bundle of joy for the first time

JenRN1115 · February 2012

Had one with my first pregnancy. Worried the whole first tri (and actually the whole pregnancy) with DD. I have of course been worried this time too, but I have learned that worrying didn't help anything and I still had a healthy DD in the end. So I am determined to enjoy every minute this time!

AngelSong76 · February 2012

I'm worried about it, of course. But I've decided to try to be as calm as possible about it, because worrying won't help the situation. This is a conclusion I came to just this week. After reading all the loss threads here and on the 1st Tri board, I had started to panic and freak out. DH asked me to please stop coming here if it was going to upset me that much. I promised him I would stop letting it fan the fire of my own fear to read about the losses of others, and would instead pray for those who have suffered losses and offer support.

This has helped tremendously. Because this is our first pregnancy and because I am 35 years old, my natural reaction is to be terrified. But instead, I'm believing that it will work out the way it is supposed to work out, and leaving it at that.

CraftyKayla · February 2012

I worry all the time! I panic everytime I go to the bathroom that I'm going to see blood too. It's happened once before in the fall and I think that made my worry worse. I went into a total freak out last night that I'm not as nauseous as before and maybe my boobs don't hurt as much, anddd I've been cramping more, so maybe I lost it? When I got my BFP and got an ultrasound that day a few weeks ago, all they saw was the sac, so I'm scared that when I go for my appt on Tuesday, it's just going to be the sac in there.

Wishing only the best for all of you...

Ziegeficker · February 2012

Absolutely. My first pregnancy was plagued with it...then when I miscarried, I had a moment where I thought to myself that all that worrying didn't do a damn thing to change the course of things. Whatever will be will be. This is what I tell myself now when I feel that ugly monster rearing it's head...It's so difficult not to worry (trust me, I know), especially when you're very excited, but try to remind yourself that worrying about things you can't control doesn't do anything but make you miserable.

PS - It helped me to not announce the pregnancy to too many people this time around. It keeps other people from talking about it with me, which allows me to kinda put it at the back of my mind and not think about it constantly. I think I will get truly excited and let everything hit me when we get past the 12 week point!

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