To be so innocent again

Heatherhah · February 2012

Well DH's cousin works with me and is pregnant she is due in 4 weeks so her being pregnant doesn't kill me like other girls. Her and I were pregnant 2 times together she miscarried early last year then became pregnant again in the summer. We threw her a shower today and I just want to say please don't be so innocent. Your baby could die mine did I mean seriously she knows that but I just wanted to scream it at the top of my lungs!! It truly is not good to be the girl whos baby died at the baby shower. But I am trying to be more positive these days.

Heather

foxxy1 · February 2012

Giving you big *hugs*. I miss the days of being innocent about pregnancy and babies.

erbarmywife · February 2012

I went to a shower not long after the girls died. There everyone was, laughing and oohing and ahhing over the pretty little girl clothes, and I was sitting there trying not to bawl. Fortunately, the shower was for the sister of one of my really good friends, and she knew the whole story. My friend, her sister and her mom were really protective of me that day. When I left, the sister gave me a big hug and said thank you for coming, I know it was hard for you.

That was also when I decided that for all future baby showers, I was going to do a "mothers hospital gift" instead of a normal baby shower present.

Petunia844 · February 2012

I'm impressed, I opted out of my SIL's shower this last weekend. I just couldn't do it, I started getting more and more overwhelmed as the shower approached. I knew I'd just picture my own shower... I was terrified she'd get some of the presents Peyton did only her baby would get to use them. ((hugs))

karebear57 · February 2012

I know, I know. We went to Chili's last wk and our waitress was pg and due in May, and of course pg with a girl. It's just my luck I never meet anybody that's pg with a boy or just had one! Anyways, I totally wanted to tell her about Bri but decided not to. I wanted to tell her to beware, you never know what could go wrong. But I kept my mouth shut, which is good! I am sorry your feel like this. If it helps, I don't think I'd be able to make it through a baby shower w/o yelling that at the top of my lungs!

Heatherhah · February 2012

thank you ladies she is and will be the only shower that I attend this one was pretty easy I was late for it at work and missed all the gifts but I am okay with her being pregnant its her sister and my sil that are pregnant after my loss that breaks me . I wont be going to either one my sil understands and she is the hardest one she is having a girl so it would be way to hard with dresses and all the girl things plus all of her unpleasant comments she has made the last 4 months. I just can't do it. Hell all us loss ladies should get a free pass to not go to showers at all!!

cherrycobbler · February 2012

I know what you mean. I have to fight my urges to tell women to enjoy every moment of their pregnancy, because tomorrow their baby could be gone. But then I think of how I would have felt if I had some crazy woman telling me my baby might die and I just can't possibly pass that fear onto anyone. I've also been invited to a few baby showers, and while I didn't discuss my uncomfortableness, I just bought a gift card from Target and mailed it to them, done. I figured they understood. And big hugs to you.

weddedwife · February 2012

I miss being innocent about it too

There's no way I could attend a baby shower right now. No. Way.

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