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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
KCKappa
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Anyone NOT sleep train?
KCKappa
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Hi ladies - popping over from the 9-12 month board to ask: did any of you NOT sleep train your baby and find they figured out sleep on their own as they got older? Or does your LO still not sleep and you wish you had let him/her CIO at some point?
I still rock and nurse DD to sleep and she's a horrible sleeper, but we really don't want to let her CIO. Friends and family are telling me if we don't sleep train now, she'll never go to sleep on her own, STTN, etc. In the past I've been able to brush off these comments, but as she's nearing a year and sleeping no better than she was at 6 months, I'm starting to question myself.
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Re: Anyone NOT sleep train?
Yep, never have yet.
My oldest learned to STTN on his own at 13 months. He's had a few regressions here and there over the past year when cutting his molars and such, but for the most part is a great sleeper.
My youngest bedshared with me from 5-11 months and we transitioned her to the crib with no issues.
I do think the majority of kids will learn to STTN on their own. For some kids, they do it really young. For some kids, it might not be until 3 or 4 and everything in between. I don't think you necessarily should let your child sleep poorly until 3, but I don't think that if you wait until 1+ that there's no hope either.
I guess it depends on what you mean by sleep training. There are all sorts of methods - not just CIO.
That being said, we do not let our daughter cry longer than maybe 10 minutes at a time before going in a soothing her. Sometimes that means rubbing her back, sometimes it means picking her up and rocking her, sometimes it means giving up and letting her stay up a little longer. We don't even let her cry for a full 10 minutes if its serious crying. We also don't follow a "sleep training method". We just do what feels right at the time. Crazy maybe, but it works for us.
So, my answer is that no, we didn't sleep train. And DD sleeps pretty great most of the time. I'd say she goes down fairly easy about 75% of the time and she sleeps through the night about 95% of the time. (assuming she isn't sick, teething, etc)
We never sleep trained. Neither DH or I felt comfortable doing so because LO had reflux and allergy issues. I read Ferber, The No Cry Sleep Solution, The Baby Whisperer-Pick Up Put Down, etc.
That being said there were definitely nights both DH and I were to run down and frustrated to get out of bed and we let LO cry for a bit before going to check on him, but that is not sleep training. It was just pure exhaustion from 2 months of a child waking up more than 10x/night. Right around 10 months he started consistently STTN but whenever he is sick or teething he does not STTN.
Edited to clarify: The time period in which LO was waking up 10 times or more a night was from 3.5 months to about 6 months old. Once he hit 6 months old he would only wake a few times a night and by 10 months old he STTN on the majority of nights.
This is us. There have been a few times where I have had to just walk out of the room with DS awake, but when I do, he will usually just play for a minute, then lay down and sleep. (That was actually the exact situation just now for nap time haha)
We have never sleep trained. Ella still does not sleep all the way through the night, but she will now lay down with me and fall asleep without the need to be rocked or worn to sleep. This just happened over the last couple of weeks, and she turned 2 at the beginning of Feb.
She will typically wake up once, and come through to our bed, but goes right back to sleep, and sleeps the rest of the night.
I was just never interested in doing CIO, and I knew that she would eventually figure things out by herself. Yes, I may have made it harder on myself, and yes, she probably could have gone to sleep by herself at a younger age if we had chosen to CIO, but we'll never know.
You do what works for you, and really and truly have to ignore other people. You live with your child, they do not.
We didn't with DD or DS.
DD slept with us for quite a while, but didn't have any issues transitioning to the crib at all. DS slept in his swing for the first 5 1/2 months, and we didn't have any issues transitioning him either.
However, I realize that I am probably not the norm, and I consider myself very, very lucky.
DS BFP 8.29.2012 EDD 5.11.2013 born sleeping @ 17 weeks 12.1.2012
We've never sleep trained either child (granted even if we did sleep train my daughter is too young) and the first thing I learned from the experience of raising both kids so far is that kids are different sleepers no matter what the parents do.
So, my son has always had trouble with sleep. He did have several different day care settings so he had different sleep associations and he went down for naps mostly fine, with a few challenging days but nothing to bad. I knew he could fall asleep without nursing but not for me, no big deal.
Anyway, over time he has gotten better on his own. He still nurses before sleep but on his own started popping off and rolling over to fall asleep on his own. His night wakings also steadily decreased. We were at 2 or 3 when he was one, down to just once around 18 months and he hung on to that one until just before he turned 2. Now he sleeps through the night most nights and nurses for a shorter and shorter time before falling asleep. I was really pleased to see that he figured it out on his own.
His sister on the other hand has had sleep figured out from day 1. She sleeps like a dream. So that makes me feel better, this was just something he needed to work through on his own.
I don't think we really sleep trained. I remember nursing Z to sleep at 6 months and worrying about it to my mom. She said to just enjoy nursing him to sleep and worry about him getting himself to sleep when he was a little older.
I would nurse him to sleep, then when he gave up nursing I would put him on my shoulder and pat his butt until he fell asleep. I would then take him upstairs and lay him in his crib.
Eventually I just started laying him in his crib awake at bedtime and he would cuddle up with his blankie and fall asleep.
I just think we were really lucky. We have had some regression in the last 8 weeks or so because he is teething, but he still goes to bed easily at bedtime.