Pep Talk? Coping?

UrbanLe1 · February 2012

I swore I wasn't going to be "that girl."

I've convinced myself I'm out this cycle, and I'm so bummed. I know that what I'm feeling could certainly be pregnancy, but I'm positive it's just PMS--some cramping, some nausea, sore boobs. I was feeling so positive all of last week--I did everything "right" this cycle, and I was feeling really in control of the process. There's no reason for me to be fatalistic, but I am.

I know some things are better this cycle--no spotting so far at 9DPO, which is a big thing for me (I usually start spotting at 8DPO, or earlier). My temps are still up. I know what to look for now. But I can't help but feel a huge pit of disappointment. I know that I'm not out for sure until AF appears, but that doesn't make me feel much better right now, even though it should.

I'm only in cycle 5, and I realize I could have months of this ahead of me. What do you do to help you cope with the disappointment?

Thanks, girls. Sorry to be Debbie Downer so early in the morning! Just ignore me--this too shall pass.

ena724 · February 2012

Just look at that DS of yours and be thankful it was easy with him! I know it sounds cheesy but as someone who has been at this a while with none, that would make me feel a heck of a lot better!

Don't count yourself out yet. It's still early. GL with everything!

oliveoil695 · February 2012

I hear ya, girl! I am kind of in the same boat, except I have started spotting (my usual is 7 DPO)-so I had spotting yesterday and this morning-blah! This morning; however, I had my highest temp ever (98.8--previously my highest temp was 98.6), so I'm still hopeful. I have no other symptoms.

It is hard to stay positive--for me, it is hard because I feel the looming disappointment just around the bend, but I still know I'm not out until my period comes.

Just thought I'd commiserate with you! I hope your day turns around-FX that you get your BFP this cycle!

AshDahlia · February 2012

Morning, urb! I don't have any magical coping remedies, but I know what you mean about just having a feeling about your cycle being in the pooper. Your chart still looks pretty, though! Hang in there. Sending you a hug from here to there! ((hug))

loveblacklab · February 2012

Hang in there-you aren't officially out till AF shows! In terms of coping, I'm still figuring out how to do that too! I do find that staying busy definitely helps-try not to think about it.

oandmplus1 · February 2012

I know where you are coming from, i felt the same way TTC DD, and I probably will this time around too. Just try to stay busy with other things to keep your mind off of it and try to enjoy the time you have left with just one LO. Easier said than done, I know. I think what you are feeling is normal and we are always here to listen

CupcakeKaper · February 2012

So sorry you're feeling down

I'm in the same boat. BFN at 14DPO this morning...just waiting for AF to show up today and I hope she does come today instead of a few days from now. I'm sure she's coming and just want it to happen already so we can move on to the next cycle. It will happen for you - keep your chin up!

blueeyedgirl27 · February 2012

I think you've got a pretty good-looking chart if you ask me. Hang in there!

mrskitton · February 2012

Hang in there Sweetie.....I do believe the phrase is "It ain't over till the fat lady sings" right?? ::Hugs::

Toriables · February 2012

Hang in there! It's easy to get discouraged. I'm often guilty of getting down in the dumps and thinking that it's NEVER going to happen. I just keep reminding myself that it can take years for even the perfect couple, and I'm going to keep on trying and enjoying the process. Best of luck!!

gplove94 · February 2012

Funny thing is I have no idea how I cope. I just do. I let myself go through the range of emotions. Cycle starts out I'm sad, then I'm mad, then I start getting more hopeful, then I'm excited, then I start going back down. Second week of 2ww I start to lose hope and start to feel out which I now think is a defense mechanism so I'm prepared for a BFN. This is the 9th 2ww for me and I'm actually a lot calmer about it then any other month - but I don't know why so can't really offer any advice other than go through the emotions and as PP said HANG IN THERE!!!

PS I responded to your PM couple days ago. Thank you!!

missusmeeseeks · February 2012

I did the exact same thing this cycle. Just remember that you aren't out until AF gets here and that the extra stress is only going to mess with you even more! You did this once, you can do it again

I really hope you get your BFP, the waiting is torture!!!

rrdiva1 · February 2012

Awe Urban I wish I had some magical, special, awesome thing to say, but I don't.

I understand about feeling like the cycle is in the crapper, but you have a beautiful LO and hopefully soon you will get to have that addition.

I tend to lean on my faith, I know God's got it, I thought I was totally out, with hubby having high blood pressure and being told may be a factor as to why not ku yet, and then I thought I had not o'd yet and he is been not feeling well past couple of days so no humpin for us.So I gave up on this cycle, joined the gym and was keeping it moving. But got crosshairs this morning I o'd on monday. So you just never know. FX for you stay encouraged, there are people tht have been trying a lot longer than us, with no children.

Big Smile

UrbanLe1 · February 2012

You girls are the best. THE BEST. Like rays of sunshine, seriously. I'm taking everything to heart--to lean on my faith, and to have faith. To cherish my gorgeous kid and my wonderful husband. And above all, just to keep my chin up. I never expected such an outpouring of kind words--thanks so much, everyone.

And MrsKitton, you are SO RIGHT, and I should heed my own words. ..."It ain't over til the fat lady sings!"

I'm heading into the rest of this week with a lighter heart, so thank you.

pittielover2 · February 2012

I don't have good advice for dealing with being disappoint each month. We have only been TTC for 4 months and I totally took a temping break this month (work related crazy schedules).

What I would do - Do something nice for yourself today! Take advantage of pampering yourself and get your mind in a better head space. Don't let it get you down .

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