If you went through FET or IVF again after your loss..?

Dori722 · February 2012

We went through IVF to conceive our twin son and daughter who we lost at 18 weeks. We are now going to begin the process of a FET that should take place in April. I'm scared. Our Dr. wants us to start to think about how many embryos to put back. Of course it depends on which ones and how many do thaw - we have 4 in total, 1 being the highest grade of 3AA and the rest are a little less like 3ab, etc. (not sure of the other 2 gradings). He says that the ones we put back last time were 4aa's which is why we had such a high likely hood of having twins. This time he feels the chances are much less but they are still there.

I have an issue with going through all of this again only to put one back and have it not work as putting one back decreases my chances of getting pregnant. I also have a fear of another twin pregnancy. I don't know why we lost our babies - they really just think it was a fluke - but as you know, twin pregnancies are high risk and not without potential complications. He talked about selective reduction which I could just never do...

I know I don't have to make this decision just yet as we have to see which ones thaw (hopefully we have our pick) but I know I do need to think about it...

Have any of you been in this situation and if so, what did you do or how did you make your decision?

olp79 · February 2012

Hi, I agree with you and I am also concerned about twin pregnancies after what happened to me (lost my boys on 2/6 at 22w). They put 2 blaystocyts. My dr also told me that we gotta be careful next time. I wish we could put 2 but the chances of having twins/high risk pregnancy is very high. If they put 1 though, the chances of 1 sticking are also small. It's a hard decision but get more opinions. When did you lose your twins, how old are you? My DH wants to wait a year but I would like to do IVF again in 6 months, the most.

Dori722 · February 2012

olp79:
Hi, I agree with you and I am also concerned about twin pregnancies after what happened to me (lost my boys on 2/6 at 22w). They put 2 blaystocyts. My dr also told me that we gotta be careful next time. I wish we could put 2 but the chances of having twins/high risk pregnancy is very high. If they put 1 though, the chances of 1 sticking are also small. It's a hard decision but get more opinions. When did you lose your twins, how old are you? My DH wants to wait a year but I would like to do IVF again in 6 months, the most.

We lost our twins on 1/1/12. I just had a hysteroscopy done (where they removed scar tissue from the pregnancy that was in there) and now I am taking the month to heal. In March I will start meds for the FET and "the plan" is to transfer in April. I am 32. Our IF issue is that I have scar tissue wrapped around one tube so sperm and egg can't meet. Our RE believes there may be damage to both tubes, but only proof of one....so who knows what to think We got pregnant right away with our 3.5 year old son, but could not get pregnant for 2 years before turning to treatments (IUI's, meds, then IVF).

olp79 · February 2012

Oh ok, lucky you, I wish I could do IVF again soon. I'll be 33 in April. My tubes are blocked, I had a laparatomy to remove a cyst 6 years ago and that seems to be the cause :-(. IVF is the only option.

may2806 · February 2012

How many to put back is such a hard decision. Last cycle I put back three - and that was with donor eggs - but I only got pregnant with one. Now, this is probably going to be our last cycle, so I want the best chance. My loss obviously did not have to do with twins; but I still don't know if it's a good idea to get pregnant this time with twins since I'll already be high risk. But, I want the best chance possible to have a baby. I'm honestly not sure what I'm going to do. Sorry I'm not of more help!

butterfly843 · February 2012

After I lost my twins we did 2 for my fet cycle, and 1 for IVF.

olp79 · February 2012

I spoke with my husband yesterday and he told me that we should only transfer 1 next time even if it means IVF not working, he says it's better 1 than none, like last time :-(. I think we will do that since I couldn't take losing my baby/babies again :-(

Jackie2200 · February 2012

I lost my IVF twins and they're not sure why. I got pregnant on IVF#1 with 2 AA blasts.

For my first IVF post-loss, I did a single embryo transfer of a perfect 4AA blast and got a BFN.

For my second IVF, we transferred a perfect 4AA blast and a 4AA compacting blast and got a BFN.

For my thrid IVF post-loss, I only had 1 egg retrieved after 21 days of the max dose of stims. By the grace of god, that one egg fertilized and we transferred it when it was a 4AA blast. I'm 27 weeks today.

On the third IVF, we really struggled with whether or not to transfer just that one or to add one of our frozen embroys to the mix. The thought of a twin pregnancy was terrifying to us but we didn't want another loss either. The RE said that our one blast was so beautiful and that the industry is moving more towards single transfers so we went ahead with that one and prayed like crazy.

I am thrilled to be pregnant again and so far,all is going well, but I'm not going to lie-I miss my twins, I miss the idea of twins. If all goes well with this one, in the future, I will probably always transfer 2 to up my chances (if I'm so lucky as to get 2) but for now, I'm very happy just to be pregnant and so far along.

It's such a tough call and such a personal decision. Good luck with whatever you decide.

eroplane · February 2012

My OB, MFM and RE only want us to put back 1 for our first FET. The risk of PTL -exacerbated by a twin pregnancy is too high. The RE said it may take a couple of tries, but 1 is safer than 2.

I miss my twins like crazy but I never ever want to experience this kind of heartbreak again. Apparently my body can't handle a twin pg or it was just in shock from being pg the first time ever. Idk that we will ever know, but I am too scared to take the chance.

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