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nikinikinine
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Oy Vey, birth month board newbs "hoping for twins"
nikinikinine
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My birth month board has a few crazies that are hoping for twins. Even after an ultrasound they are doing research about how the ultrasound could be wrong or the twin could be hiding. I have so many things I want to respond to these threads, but I just close them and move on. What is wrong with people? I hope one of them comes over and asks about conceiving multiples so you all can tear him/her a new one 
I feel so unsupported over there LOL.
I feel so unsupported over there LOL. 
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Re: Oy Vey, birth month board newbs "hoping for twins"
leave the crazies with the crazies : )
i never wished for a multiple pregancy.... after IF and seeing my friends who have twins i was like "no thanks, dont want the possible complications." even when i was pg with my son, it was a great, easy pregancy but i couldnt imagine having two in there. i just dont get it how some people think it's so much fun.
now after i learned i was having twins i was obsessed with both of them being okay. but i was never like "oh this is hearts and flowers and going to be so much fun.". i was/am constantly worrying about something going wrong. now that im almost 32 weeks, i feel they will be okay, but now im embracing a whole other set of worries (like how life will be once they get here!!)
I am one of the crazies that wanted twins, becasue it was our last IVF transfer & last 2 blasts left EVER!
Of course I wanted both babies! I know it wouldn't be all puppy dogs & rainbows, but I still hoped & wished twins & I dont think it makes me crazy. (well maybe a bit sometimes)
I don't think going through IF and wanting multiples is that crazy. My twins are the result of IVF (#2), and so is my singleton (IVF #4). What I think is crazy is assuming the u/s tech is too stupid to detect a second sac in there and maybe you'll find out when you are 28 weeks along that one was hiding.
That might very well be the definition of crazy
Although if these people really think twins are hearts and flowers, they should have been at my house this morning for the epic twin meltdown over a damn kiwi. Two toddlers screaming at the top of their lungs, collapsed on the floor like they have no bones, and trying to kick anything they could reach. Good god.
Yeah. That's not crazy. That's Stupid.
Peanut Butter and Jelly!
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My BMB got so annoying for a couple weeks because all of these people started getting u/s that revealed twins. Then it became a "OMGEEE don't drink the Sep 2012 water....you'll get twins." And people commenting that our board had more twins than any other board...which is funny b/c August was claiming the same thing.
So then all these people were getting nervous for their u/s because they might see twins, or because they had gained more weight, etc... It was really silly.
You know half the people aren't having twins.
LOL maybe I should switch my siggy to a video of the kids yanking my pants off while simultaneously scream-crying at my feet while I try to make dinner.
Or cravings at 4w2d, or RLP at 5 weeks LOL
::::headdesk::::
This made me laugh. I love the "I've gone floppy" tantrums. Combined with the screaming while scooching across the kitchen floor on my back by kicking my feet until my head hits a wall/cabinet and I cant go anywhere so I'll cry harder cause now my tantrum has been disrupted. Sigh.
I meant to click on "Natural Birth" board and hit yours by mistake....I've been entertained for the last 30 minutes!
Your board is so much fun! I thank everything holy in the world that I'm not having twins--we knew with the fertility stuff that it was a possibility. I kept having these dreams that there were 2 or 3 babies in there and I was soliciting my friends trying to get someone to buy an "extra" baby. It was horrible! FYI, I would not really have attempted to give away a baby. :-) I was just so scared with the reality of one baby, the thought of more than 1 was terrifying.
I have a set of twins in my family and remember how rough it was when they were toddlers...all of you women with twins are like goddesses. I can't even imagine how crazy it can get.
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Calvin Donald 8.27.14
definitely dont think going through IF and wanting multiples is crazy - i should have prefaced my response with that. but i totally get that yeah, you might have one shot at getting pregnant...and you might want more than one child. totally get that.
Made me spit out my water at my desk!
Also, I'm confused by your "half the people aren't having twins" comment. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you mean those people who haven't had twins confirmed by a u/s yet, and not that you're insinuating half of us with confirmed twins will lose them.
BFP #2 1/22/2012 ~ DS2 & DD ~ BIRTHday 9/13/2012 ~ unplanned C-section @ 38w1d
I got into it with someone on the toddler board two nights ago. In the seven years I've been on the boards I've never even thought about blocking someone and I blocked her.
Have fun! : )
The only good thing about two babies throwing themselves on the floor, screaming and kicking, is that it is kinda funny to watch! There's something sort of cute about two of them doing it at the same time. It's double the drama! Mine just started this though, so I'm sure it won't be cute for too long!!!!
I will say that after the shock, we were definitely pleased to have twins. Didn't have IF specifically, but lost two babies on our previous tries. I don't have any delusions about it being easy, but I also don't about being a mom of little ones in general (it's not like having a singleton is all puppies and rainbows either, depends a LOT on the kid). I wouldn't have "tried" to have twins (whatever that means, extra sex? ha) but I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting them.
Now, expecting that your tech just didn't pick one up is the dumb part, agreed all around
It was way past obvious at 6w that I had two heartbeats in there, and I'm no U/S tech!
Yep. Call me "crazy"
On July 2012, we thought we had the most sets of twins ever, too. It actually was uncanny how many sets of twins were reported during first tri. Most of them were spontaneous and it seemed well above what you would expect statistically. I still don't know quite what to make of it.
IVF #1 = BFN
FET #1 = BFN
FET #2 = BFN
IVF #2 = BFP, b/g twins lost at 20w due to partial abruption/PPROM
IVF #3 = c/p 5w2d
Long-shot Clomid/Prednisone cycle before next IVF = BFP, our beautiful, healthy girl born 6/26/13!
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TTC again March 2014
FET #3 - May/June 2014 - all embryos arrested before xfer - back to the drawing board...
IVF #4 - July/August 2014
I wonder about this statistically being more twin moms in certain months... I think it may have to do with the fact that MoM's may be more likely to come to the bump to seek out help and advice since everything is x2. Who knows!
Several people on that board made comments about "drinking the water" before you found out about your twins - I actually remember your post and that wasn't one of the comments I was referring to. You were playing off the previous comments.
As far as the bolded part...for God's sake...how would you get THAT from me saying half the people aren't having twins? Honestly, my mouth dropped when I read that because it's such an incredible jump...what a horrifying thing to think. I didn't say "half the people won't end up with twins" - and I never would. That's a disgusting and horrible thing to say.
What I meant is half the people that posted about twins are newbs - and likely faking a multiples pregnancy. We get that a ton on here. There's been quite a few people that posted that they were having twins with new accounts and we haven't heard much from them again.
FWIW, I don't think you're a faker - it's pretty obvious - and I really hope you come back and read this since I just saw it today.
As someone new to the Multiples board, I was unaware of just how prevalent purported or bogus MoMs are around here. That definitely explains why it seemed that you were annoyed not only by the "I'm showing so early, it must be twins" comments, but also by the seemingly legit twins posts.
As far as the bolded comment above goes, I'd hoped no one would be so cavalier, and I said that I was assuming that wasn't your meaning. I never expected or prepared for twins, but now I'm greedy for these babies and absolutely worried out of my mind that something will happen to one or both of them. My OB even went so far as to advise that we not tell anyone yet, as Vanishing Twin Syndrome is a distinct possibility. I apologize for putting it out there at all-- I'm obviously projecting my insecurities on you, and that isn't fair.
I hope we can clear the air. I'm desperately wishing to stay here; I know that if I can, I'll certainly benefit from and value everyone's advice and expertise.
BFP #2 1/22/2012 ~ DS2 & DD ~ BIRTHday 9/13/2012 ~ unplanned C-section @ 38w1d
I sent you a PM right after I posted and paged you on the Sep 12 board - wasn't sure which one you were on most.
No harm here!
Regarding VTS - the only reason it's increasing is b/c of the increase of multiples and u/s technology. A doctor suggesting you wait to announce because of VTS is like one suggesting that you wait to announce until you're out of first tri - KWIM? Try not to give VTS a second thought. Easier said than done.