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March 2012 Moms
LillyGrrl
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Looks like I have plenty of time to finish the nursery
LillyGrrl
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*sigh*
The doc's exact words were "there is no progress"- well thanks doc that makes me feel so much better that at 39w and feeling like whale that I might be in this for another two weeks. 
I wouldn't care if I wasn't working up until the minute of labor but I am so over waking up in the morning after crappy sleep, taking the train to work (only to be stared at by other commuters and co-workers) walking a half a mile from the train and then trying to find a way to concentrate when I get hot flashes, sleepiness etc etc etc. I feel almost embarassed being this big and still working. I know that seems petty and ridiculous but, honestly, that's how I feel. And if I get asked one more time "soon, right??" I might just slap a biitch.
Then today I am trying to work on an issue at work and one of my co-workers (a woman mind you) tells me to "calm my hormones"- wait WHAT? No, what you are asking me to ask our marketing staff doesn't make any sense and I am trying to get clarification and you tell me to "calm my hormones" - would you say that to a non-pregnant lady? Gah. I almost told my boss about it but I don't want to get her into trouble- she's like 65 years old and has clearly lost her filter.
I was thinking I would start my leave next week Monday if there was progress at today's appointment but it looks like the universe is conspiring against me and wants me to work next week. I can't take the time unless I know there is at least something going on and that I am at least close to having him. *sigh* the last thing I want to do is sit around my house waiting it out when it would cut into my actual time off with him. Blergh.
And I was okay with working up until the point of labor but, like many of you, I am so over the wait at this point. Moreover, I have no energy to even do anything. I have a few more things to take care of in his room (shelves, curtains etc) and I would like to get them done but I almost feel defeated at this point- like why even bother finishing it right now, we have a ton of time left.
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Re: Looks like I have plenty of time to finish the nursery
Just remember, you can go from NOTHING to labor in a matter of hours while some women are dilated to 3 and thinning for weeks and STILL go to 41 and need to be induced!
Any chance you can work from home? That's my plan for the final week. It's what I did with DS and it actually worked out well because it forced my coworkers to problem-solve stuff in my "area" on their own while I was still technically available to answer questions if they hit a wall.
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
I feel your pain! I am so freaking agitated at work and there is all this drama going on here, I am over it! My boss is currently firing one of our staff, and it's so awkward and I'm so overly invested in everything going on here even though I am planning to bail after the birth (if a certain job offer pans out, which I'll find out in a few days... more anxiety). I have been so ridiculously unproductive lately that I halfway fear that I'll get fired too, but I'm about ready to quit anyway. I want to find a subtle way to start bringing home all my books so my boss doesn't keep them. Good thing I never hung my diplomas!
I want to go shopping for nursing bras and rest and watch tv on my couch. I want to read my baby books and enjoy the calm before the store of newborn care! I wouldn't do it just for my own convenience, but I wish I could set the exact due date instead of this month-long window!
It's kind of comical to be a giant lumbering pregnant lady going about normal business, but we're really in the home stretch!! Take care and hang in there until the baby comes. It really won't be long now, no matter what the doctor says.
Oh my god I have no idea how you managed to not say something to that woman. That made my blood boil and it didn't even happen to me.
UGHHHH I'm sorry about the progress report, but these things can change in an instant and I will be keeping my fingers crossed that they do for you. And for the record, I know what you look like and you look adorable. I just don't understand the staring problem that people have when a woman is really pregnant...like they have never seen a pregnant person before in their lives. I get stared at a lot too, so it's definitely not just you.
::MANY HUGS:: This will all be over soon!!!!
Lily- logically I know that effacement/dilation could go from nada to something in a matter of hours/days but I was so discouraged after today's appointment that I really feel like this baby will never be born. I said to the doctor today that had they not induced me with our daughter I think she might still be in there (FYI she just turned three at the end of January).
Vanilla- I wish I could but I am an hourly paid employee and don't have the option to work from home- if I am not here I have to take vacation days until the baby came and then I would have STD plus parental leave (totally 8 weeks) and I wanted to take 9 after he was here (one week to make the elimination, one week after my STD and parental were up) if I take more than that I won't have any vacation time after I come back, it's a shiity situation.
Thanks for all the support. I am trying to be okay with "hey it could happen any time now" but also the reality of going another two weeks with the staring and the commenting.
And yeah, the comment from my co-worker pissed me off but at the same time I just have to shrug and say the hell with it because if I let it upset me more than it already did I would just keep hearing that I am a hormonal basket-case. Which, you know what, I am not.
I wish I could take time off but I really can't- not if I want to have any time left after I come back here. We have two vacations planned after the baby is born so I need those 80 hours I have banked- I just really need to suck it up better.
I know it sucks and what I said is pretty common knowledge
I would have b*tch slapped myself had I said that to your face... We all want to be progressing so we feel like we are nearing the end even if it means nothing!
As far as the work situation goes. Holy crap do I get where you are coming from. I am on bed rest for a max of 3 weeks and I think that is making my stress worse than if I was just at work. We can't afford this. My boss is "looking into" our STD policy as I may be sitting here eating up what little maternity leave I have. (6 weeks paid). I do also have 2 weeks vacation, but was saving those for Dr appts with LO and other baby related surprises.
If the boss can't get PTD figured out I may be stuck working part time to keep some $ coming in. I feel like a horrific mom for even thinking about that, but it is either that or there may be no heat on when she comes home if I don't get paid.
I empathize- I commute downtown on the train from the burbs and have about a mile walk to my office. It's really getting to be draining & I still have about 3 more weeks to go. Sitting at my desk all day has been very uncomfortable also. My son is active all day long and clearly running out of room because the movements are starting to get kind of painful. I don't really have a choice but to work though- my STD doesn't start until after the birth and any sick or vacation days I've saved up so far have to go towards that and the rest of my leave. I brought up the idea of working from home when I start getting towards my due date and my SVP (childless bipolar woman in her 50s) was like "Um no- I don't like that idea...." so I don't think that's an option.
My son is breech right now and I'm really ok with him not flipping in the next week so that I can have a scheduled c-section and be done with all this at 39 weeks!
No need to biitchslap yourself- it is common knowledge but at the same time maybe it didn't hurt to be reminded. I should try to be a little more positive about it. I am just so over it right now- I would rather be up every two hours feeding the baby than every two hours to pee, unable to go back to sleep then have to haul my tush into work only to be told I am being "hormonal"- GAH.
And I am sorry about your STD situation, that truly sucks. I shouldn't even be complaining about working to the moment of labor because honestly that means I am healthy and the baby is healthy. I am not looking that gift horse in the mouth by any means. I was just so hopeful today and then to be told there is nothing happening, I would have taken 10%, .5 cm and been better than "high, closed, tight as a drum. We can't even strip membranes" which fwiw I would have GLADLY done even though it's mostly frowned upon by folks (not that I care what other people think).
I am just going to heave a big heavy sigh, work on this stupid work project and hope for the best this week.
omg. My jaw just hit the floor. I would say something to her. Kindly (if you feel like it) say "I don't appreciate your 'calm your hormones' comment. I'm not by default being unreasonable because I am pregnant." I'd like to add "any more than you're unreasonable because you're post-menopausal" but it might not be productive, even though it's every bit as inappropriate!
FYI, at 39 weeks with DD I was not dilated or even really thinned. 5 days later I went into labor on my own. I know that last bit is the hardest to wait through. Hang in there.
I think you should go ahead and start your leave either way. It just sounds like you're having a miserable time with work right now, and you don't need that extra stress in your life right now. I know you want to spend as much time as possible with baby when he gets here, but you need to do what's best for yourself too.
Is there maybe a way you could work from home until you go into labor? That's what I'm doing for the last three weeks before the due date. That way I still get to keep my maternity leave time for after he's born, but I won't have to deal with the long commute and the early wake-up time, and I can just stay in my big maternity jammies all day long if I want to!
I've heard a lot of women say they went to the doctor and were told they weren't dialated/effaced at all, only to go into active labor that very same night. Who knows- he might surprise you after all!
Wow. I would have killed her. But maybe that's just my hormones talking....
Georgia 3/15/2012 Matilda 6/12/2014 TWINS!! Babies 3&4 EDD 11/22/2016
Working from home is not an option since I am not salaried and only salaried employees get to work from home here. Sad Panda.
I have to weigh my options on going out now vs sticking it out for potentially another two weeks. I think I can easily convince my husband to take me to and from work so I can avoid the whole public transportation thing. My main issue with that is I'll be at work longer than I really need to be (because he'll likely need to drop me off before 8 and pick me up after 6). It's already hard enough being stuffed into my cubicle, trying to get comfortable in this chair etc.
I am just going to have to hope that even though things don't look like they are progressing right now that it could and will change soon.
I was having the same issues at work, but we didn't even have cubes. Just desks all in the same room.
I brought in a stool to put my feet up, had a blanket, and heating pad I kept on my back all day BEFORE it started to hurt. I even took my shoes off most days
I know my situation is slightly different but I totally understand the frustration of needing to work. It would be so nice to just be like "ef it, Ill take a month unpaid no big deal". For me that IS a big deal, huge deal. It sucks being miserable but not having a choice.