Very Frustrated (work mentioned)

D&D4Ever7 · February 2012

Ever since DS got sick (now I am sick too), I have been going to work an hour or 2 late.....maybe 2-3 times a week. Eventhough he wasn't sick for too long, he was not sleeping well because of late night congestion. I spend a lot of nights staying with him so I am usually tired. Right now, our group is really busy with lab work. Since I go to work late, I obviously cannot complete everything in the hours I am there. Personal time is my time to use, so I shouldn't feel bad using it when I need it, but I have been feeling bad. Another girl in my group is pregnant, so I am suppose to learn her responsibilities also. I feel so overwhelmed cause I cannot do it all and be a good alert mom. I am always worried about getting in a car accident cause I don't have enough sleep some days. I definitely don't want to have DS be sleep deprived also. I am trying really hard to be a good mom and working at the same time, but right now I am failing miserably. I guess I just needed to let this out and hope things get easier. I cannot wait for DS to STTN so I know he is rested and wakes up consistently at same time everyday. I would like hear from all you working mom.....cause I desperately need support and HUGS.

rosenb2b · February 2012

I have no advice as I'm not back to work yet with DS2 but I'm interested to see what everyone else has to say. With DS1, it definitely took time to get into the swing of things. I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Hope you get some rest soon! {HUGS}

KCKSarah · February 2012

((big hugs)) I SAH, but I remember feeling like a zombie for days on end. I didn't feel engaged with anything I was doing, even playing and tending to LO. Combine that with your responsibility of working outside that home--of course you are overwhelmed.

All I can say is take it one day at a time. Its going to change. It won't be like this forever. Remember where you were a month ago. It was different. Same thing a month from now.

germswif E · February 2012

Big hugs to you...

I feel your pain. I feel like I don't have enough time for anything and I'm always trying to spend time with DD when I can. Work is kicking my a$$ and I just want to quit! I hate feeling this way but I feel like i can't go on. I miss my monkey so much but I know I'm doing this for her. It's a huge sacrifice but you're not alone. Stay strong!

Amanda78 · February 2012

Big hugs. Working and being mom can be really hard. Can your DH be up with him so you can just get one good night's sleep? He needs to pull his weight too.

Are you elevating DS a bit to help with the congestion? Humidifier? Colds are so hard when they're so small

Don't feel guilty about taking your personal time. Can you talk to your pg co-worker and maybe arrange to talk about her tasks during a time when you're at your best? Maybe like after lunch? Not first thing in the morning if you're having issues getting in on time.

You are a wonderful mama, it will get better.

martinimomma · February 2012

Oh D, ((huge hugs)). I am sorry you and DS are sick. That makes it all worse. Can DH jump in and help overnight? Like doing the burping and getting LO back to bed so you can get a few mins more sleep? I know this all sucks. I'm right there with you and I wish I had an answer. ((more hugs))

smallfry5909 · February 2012

I have no answers, but I do have (((HUGS))). Sorry you're having a tough time right now.

luckymrs718 · February 2012

Going back to work is hard. DH was able to move his schedule around and is working later hours so we take shifts during the night. I take care of getting her in bed and on the nights he doesn't have to get up early the next day, he takes care of her if she wakes up during the night or before I have to get up for work. If he does have to get up early the next day, he puts her to bed so I can go to bed earlier and get up with her when she gets up and that way I'm still somewhat rested for work. Luckily, B has been STTN for a while now and usually isn't up before 6am. But on the nights, like last night, when she doesn't sleep that good it can be rough.

Lots of hugs are coming your way. Hopefully you will be able to work out a system that works for you guys. This is only my second week back at work but I think we have finally found our groove. I know it can be overwhelming and frustrating. Feel free to vent here anytime. (((HUGS)))

D&D4Ever7 · February 2012

DH has been very helpful and helps out pretty much everytime I am up at night. It is just very difficult since DS and I are both sick and congested at night. Eventhough DH took DS from me last night after I fed him, I couldn't fall back asleep cause I was so congested. I laid in bed for 2 hrs until DH got DS to sleep finally. I guess it is what it is and I just pray things get better soon. Thank you for the Hugs.

pennynjon · February 2012

Hugs! It is hard! I am having a hard time juggling work, lack of sleep and trying to spend as much time with DS as possible. Midway through the week I start feeling so anxious because I miss him much and I feel overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done when I get home. My house is a disaster. I hope you and your DS feel better soon! Don't feel bad about usIng your pto! do what you feel is best for your family.

VeilSdeGTO · February 2012

((hugs))

Having a sick LO and being sick yourself is extremely difficult. I don't have much advice since I am in a similar position as you, although DD is much better, I am not.

You just have to do what you feel is best for you and your son and let the work stuff go. If you are using your own personal time and your job is not in danger, don't be too concerned.

It has not been that long and everybody is still adjusting. The work part will start to get better once everybody starts to feel better. In the meantime, focus on your family's health.

I know it is hard, but at some point, you're just going to have to accept that you are not going to be able to give 100% to your work and that is perfectly okay. You're doing a great job. Hang in there!

sarahandeddiejune212008 · February 2012

It will hopefully get easier. My DD still does not STTN, but I generally get more sleep than when she was a newborn. You eventually get used to going off of a few hours sleep. I am generally tired at work, but for some reason I perk up when I'm back home with DD. Being a working mom is very hard.

MrsAtch · February 2012

I'm struggling to juggle it all too. I feel like I'm always about one dirty look away from a nervous breakdown. Full time work and full time parenting is completely exhausting. Q is up at least 6-7 times a night and I'm working a 50 hour week. I'm so burnt out I can hardly stand it.

itsmegin · February 2012

KCKSarah:
((big hugs)) I SAH, but I remember feeling like a zombie for days on end. I didn't feel engaged with anything I was doing, even playing and tending to LO. Combine that with your responsibility of working outside that home--of course you are overwhelmed.
All I can say is take it one day at a time. Its going to change. It won't be like this forever. Remember where you were a month ago. It was different. Same thing a month from now.

All of this, hang in there mama!

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