Shower Invitation Question!!!???

LCLaw3 · February 2012

So last night I found out that a person that I invited to my shower never received their invitation. This made my husband go crazy since it was his long time best friends mother. I plan on sending another one out, but I triple checked all my invitations before they were sent out and had special address labels made, so I KNOW for a fact that it went to the post office.

Today, come to find out, one of my co-workers didnt receive one either!!! Not only is this embarassing, but now I'm stressing out about how many other people never received their invitation....worst part is, the invitation says "Regrets only", so unless I personally call each person, I won't know who got one and who didnt...and that brings to everyones attention the fact that some people didnt get invitations.

At this point I'm blaming the USPS because I know for a fact that these people (everyone on my list, really...) was to receive an invitation...but that doesnt help me with this dilemma. Has anyone experienced this problem? How do I fix it? Plus, what to do about whether people got invitations or not!? TIA.

MrandMrsHull · February 2012

This happened with my bridal shower invites. I would just start asking people when you talk to them if they received your invite and explain that many did not. Get it going by word of mouth what happened that way you may avoid hurt feelings if someone is upset that they didn't get one.

funkymonkeyohyeahhh · February 2012

Just call the people you sent invitations to and confirm they received them, explaining that you know some were lost in the mail. Simple as that.

useurname · February 2012

funkymonkeyohyeahhh:
Just call the people you sent invitations to and confirm they received them, explaining that you know some were lost in the mail. Simple as that.

I agree. That sucks that it had to happen.

lancyjo · February 2012

I, personally, would start calling. It's a hassle, I know, but it would be that important to me. I'd just say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry to bother you, but it has come to my attention that several people did not receive their invitations to my baby shower. I wanted to confirm yours was received!"

It might be awkward, but it'd be better than 3/4 of your guest list not getting their invites. (and feelings being hurt, etc)

Beener0514 · February 2012

lancyjo:

I, personally, would start calling. It's a hassle, I know, but it would be that important to me. I'd just say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry to bother you, but it has come to my attention that several people did not receive their invitations to my baby shower. I wanted to confirm yours was received!"

It might be awkward, but it'd be better than 3/4 of your guest list not getting their invites. (and feelings being hurt, etc)

I agree. I'd recruit the help of your mother, MIL, DH and anyone else that would be willing to help you call.

ktpaladino · February 2012

People wont be upset or annoyed if you contact them to ensure they got their invite and explain the situation. Better to be sure than to have people finding out about the shower after it has happened and them having hurt feelings for not being invited if the USPS screwed up on a lot of them. For future reference don't put regrets only on the invites because most of the time you will end up with an inaccurate headcount when you do so!

plymouthmomma · February 2012

do you have their email addresses? you could send out a mass email, but put them all on BCC so they can't see who else you sent it to and just explain that you recently found out that some people didn't receive their mailed invitation and wanted to double check.

if not...i would give your mom her side. your mil her side and you check your friends. people get weird when they are not invited to things, even if they can't come.

good luck

FormerlyKrista555 · February 2012

Are these people on Facebook? I had get on facebook and write a couple people because I wasn't sure if my Pastor's wife (the person who threw my shower) was able to get their invites out in time. (She had broken her foot so some of the planning was delayed a bit, poor thing)

Smootchy · February 2012

For this reason alone (except for very small things, like 20 people for LO's bday) I do not use "regrets only"

It's common for things to get lost in the mail. And although it's a HUGE PITA, you could totally call/email/text/FB just do something to get the word out that there was a problem with the invited and it has come to your attention that some people did not recieve it.

How many people were invited total?

mrh2009 · February 2012

Oh I feel your pain! This happened with my WEDDING invites! We even paid extra $ because they had to be had sorted due to their "not standard" size. You have to just suck it up and call everyone! Divide the list up and go for it! People will understand and appreciate the extra effort you made to make sure they knew about your shower.

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