Past 12wks...but anyone else still really scared?

enf090510 · February 2012

I know that most doctors say once your past 12wks your chances for having something go wrong and loosing the baby have decreased greatly, but.... I am still soooo scared! I read on here almost daily how a mother looses her precious baby and its past 12wks. My heart just breaks for them and it makes me that much more scared. I have already had 2 huge scares, having the twin miscarriage and then the placenta tear. I am just soooo afraid that one day when I go to a reg ob visit that something horrible has happened. Anyone else feel like this? I guess having anxiety already doesnt help me deal with this and is something I am just going to have until my baby is born Sad

vivianmc · February 2012

I was but got reassurance at my 15 week appt today when I heard a strong HB. I still feel more nervous than with my first. I think part of it is waiting to find out the gender too. 5 more weeks!!

sdlaura · February 2012

Definitely. I try to remember that nothing in life is ever certain, and any of us could lose a loved one (including an unborn baby) at any time, so I just try to be grateful each day for what I have and not dwell on the unknowns. Of course it's easier said than done a lot of the time.

Jillwithani · February 2012

L12541:
Definitely. I try to remember that nothing in life is ever certain, and any of us could lose a loved one (including an unborn baby) at any time, so I just try to be grateful each day for what I have and not dwell on the unknowns. Of course it's easier said than done a lot of the time.

I couldn't have said this better. As a woman who is more pregnant today than I've ever been after 3 loses I would have to say every single day is scary but in the end knowing you're doing the best you can is sometimes all you can do.

Andrea0429 · February 2012

I'm just as nervous and scared as you. I've had 2 losses as well, so it's hard to relax when you hear stories of late/later loss. I haven't been feeling movement regularly yet either, so I don't have any reassurance. Lots of vibes that everything continues to be okay with you and your baby!

mamahawk12 · February 2012

I'm not too worried about miscarriage at this point - but I am extremely nervous for my anatomy scan. I was very naive (and lucky) with my first, but since then I have had a few good friends find out devastating news regarding their baby's health at their anatomy scans. It hit too close to home - and I'm definitely past the whole "it won't happen to me" feeling. Now I'm just praying for a healthy baby at our scan.

delaneykai · February 2012

L12541:
Definitely. I try to remember that nothing in life is ever certain, and any of us could lose a loved one (including an unborn baby) at any time, so I just try to be grateful each day for what I have and not dwell on the unknowns. Of course it's easier said than done a lot of the time.

This exactly.

kelnyc · February 2012

Me. And it doesn't help that I was spotting again this weekend for the first time since my SCH resolved around week 8.

kokokat · February 2012

Having had a previous m/c, I feel like this all.the.time. I constantly am talking myself in and out of thinking that things are ok. I had my m/c after hearing the HB at 8 weeks. 4 weeks later, and it was all over.The chances of that happening are low, so someone telling me this time around that the chances of something happening are low really doesn't comfort me. I totally get your anxiety.

Mzshell13 · February 2012

I am! I had a loss in July and know how quickly things can happen. The 4 week wait between appts was killing me. I bought a doppler at 12 weeks (which I swore I would never do when pregnant with my 1st) and it has been a life saver. Best $50 I've ever spent. I use it a few times a week for maybe 30 seconds or so, and hearing the heartbeat calms me down so much.

TravelSnob · February 2012

I am honestly terrified something will happen. One of our best friends suffered a loss at 20 something weeks so I know that things can happen at any time.

I can't wait until I start feeling more movement so I can at least have something to reassure me. I don't think the fear will end until I give birth to healthy baby. Even then I'm sure I'll have a slew of other stuff to worry about. I'm not usually a worrier so could be the hormones...

Andreabks · February 2012

TravelSnob:

I am honestly terrified something will happen. One of our best friends suffered a loss at 20 something weeks so I know that things can happen at any time.

I can't wait until I start feeling more movement so I can at least have something to reassure me. I don't think the fear will end until I give birth to healthy baby. Even then I'm sure I'll have a slew of other stuff to worry about. I'm not usually a worrier so could be the hormones...

This! Yes

J05Boiler · February 2012

Yes I am incredibly terrified too. And it doesn't help for me either that I was spotting all day today.

You're not alone.

AprilAngie · February 2012

L12541:
Definitely. I try to remember that nothing in life is ever certain, and any of us could lose a loved one (including an unborn baby) at any time, so I just try to be grateful each day for what I have and not dwell on the unknowns. Of course it's easier said than done a lot of the time.

this Yes

TechieGirl1 · February 2012

Yup, same here. Which is one of the reasons why i got a fetal Doppler. It has helped. I check up on LO whenever I'm concerned i just check on the LO with it, and feel better (it's usually once a week or so). It's normal though to be worried. I also find praying helps me too! Geeked

punkrockabye · February 2012

I'm still very scared. I'm no longer worried about the seemingly random, "anything can happen" losses that are somewhat common very, very early on, but I still worry.

My mom lost several babies, mostly later on, including one born sleeping at full term. This was due to a condition that I most likely don't have but there is a chance. Once they identified her problem, she was treated during pregnancy with me and I came out fine.

I've been very lucky that this is my first pregnancy and so far everything is going smoothly. I know from my mom and those around me that I need to not take this for granted. But I know that things can always go wrong, and I won't lie and promise myself that there's no way it can happen to me. I can only hope that it won't.

My mantra early on was "today I am pregnant and I love my baby" because I thought it would get me through those first few weeks. I've found that it will stay until I am no longer pregnant.

I am far enough along that we will now tell family. Friends already know, and we're telling family next week. There are many reasons why I'd rather not tell family for a while but this baby was so planned and wanted that he or she deserves to be known about now that things are statistically more safe. We just hope the reaction is positive.

LissaLynn0682 · February 2012

I'm so relieved to hear many other ladies feeling exactly the same way I am! Two years ago, we had seen a heartbeat at 7 weeks followed by a miscarriage at 11 weeks. So, the fear of losing this little one has been pretty constant.

At my 12-week appointment, the doctor had a difficult time finding a heartbeat and those were the LONGEST two minutes of my life waiting to hear it. Even though things were looking healthy at the 12 week appointment, waiting 4 weeks has been difficult...especially after many of my pregnancy symptoms have gone away. I thought I would be relieved for the m/s and constant nausea to ease up, but it only scares me more!

We just have to remain positive and hopeful. There are no guarantees in life so live each day like it's your last!

kob227 · February 2012

vivianmc:
I was but got reassurance at my 15 week appt today when I heard a strong HB. I still feel more nervous than with my first. I think part of it is waiting to find out the gender too. 5 more weeks!!

Ditto! I don't get it, I was so much more relaxed with DS.

I'm really stressed with things in my life right now and I'm terrified I'll hurt this LO. :-/

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